Wise New Year Words From Dr. Wayne Dyer

Via Dr. Wayne Dyer’s Facebook Page:

Today is the dawn of the New Year. So you’re probably working on a list of things that you’d like to get done in 2015. Well, I’d like to ask you to forget about making these resolutions. Forget about deciding on the first day of January how you will be conducting your life in September, some nine months later. Any resolution that involves making decisions about future behaviors is a waste of time. It also reinforces the self-defeating notion of living in the future.

For 2015, wouldn’t you rather live in the present moment?

This day that you’re living right now is the only day you get. Period. You can resolve to be skinny when next July rolls around, or to quit smoking next month, or to write that book you’ve been meaning to, or to embark on your overdue exercise program by the end of this year. You can go about resolving until the cows come home, and you still have to live your life just like everyone else on the planet: One day at a time.

You can only live minute to minute. You can certainly use up your present moments thinking about what you’ll be doing in the future, but that doesn’t change the fact that you can only live in the now. The important question to be asking yourself is:

How am I going to live in the present moment this year?

Will I waste these moments reviewing the way I used to behave? Will I waste these moments reviewing how I would like to behave in the future rather than resolving to live each day to the fullest?

The New Year is a good time to initiate a plan so you can make some changes and help live your life to the fullest. See if you can practice thinking differently. Decide very specifically what it is that you would like to change about yourself in 2015. If you have some goals in mind, vow to work on them day by day rather than making them a year-long project.

When you set up day-to-day goals for yourself, you can begin living this way for the rest of your life. Remember this little piece of advice, which will be extremely helpful to you if you can incorporate it into your life: When you go for one entire day without eating sugar (or not smoking, or being assertive, or any other new behavior), you are a totally different person at the end of that day. What you must learn to do is let that totally different person decide on the second day whether to do it again on this new day, rather than letting the same old person decide today that it is going to be difficult in a couple of days anyhow, so what’s the use. Always let the New You make the decision, and then you’ll be living your present moments.

Remember, you are in control of all thoughts in your head. When you are using up your present moments to worry about the future, constantly reviewing the past to come up with how you should have done it differently, or contemplating disaster, remind yourself that you are wasting this particular present moment.

Practice cancelling out negative thoughts for a few minutes at a time. Vow to enjoy the next five minutes regardless of what has previously transpired or what you think is about to happen. Remind yourself of the folly of wasting your present moments on mental activity that focuses exclusively on your past or imagined future. All of your thoughts about what you should have done, or how terrible things were in the past will not change one tiny slice of the past.

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As you celebrate this New Year and each precious present moment, here are 10 reminders to help you live in the Now:

1. Remember that habits are changed by practicing new behavior. By practicing new thinking every five minutes, you’ll soon begin to master the art of present-moment living.
2. Do an honest assessment of your “problems.” You’ll very likely discover that almost all of your problems are really in your head and not located in reality.
3. Take time to be mindful of everything around you. Begin to look at your entire surroundings in a new light. Observe every detail on every face, every building and every object. If you do this often enough it will become a habit that will facilitate your being alive in every moment of the year.
4. Change your attitude. Begin an attitude-redevelopment plan. That means practice enjoying everything you do.
5. Be specific about what you want and take action. Decide on one thing that you would like to work on and do it today. Work at it daily, rather than making it a long-range objective.
6. Create a self-improvement agenda for yourself. Put on your agenda whatever activities you’ve always thought about but never had time to do. Do them now.
7. Rid yourself of mundane chores that are not really that important. Spend more time making your life a pleasure.
8. Eliminate procrastination as a lifestyle. Instead of talking to yourself about what you are going to do next week or even tomorrow, use this time to start a new task.
9. Don’t give up control of your life to others. You cannot enjoy the present moment if you are busy trying to make everyone else like you. People respect you more when you operate from a position of strength and self-reliance.
10. Feel good about yourself. You are a magnificent human being. Always feel good about that self that you are always with.

For 2015, as I have for many other years, I vow to be fully alive and see the world the way Walt Whitman described it to be many years ago: “To me…every cubic inch of space is a miracle.” I really believe that.

I wish you a New Year filled with many miracles. May you live a long and productive life—one present moment at a time.

Love,
I AM,
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

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Are You Staying True to Your Inner Moral Beliefs?

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“With the self as a focal point, you sustain the illusion that you are your body, which is a completely separate entity from all others. This sense of separateness leads you to compete rather then cooperate with everyone else” – Wayne Dyer

Being that it was Martin Luther King Jr. Day yesterday, I thought today was perfect day for this post. MLK represented a man you was very connected to his intention and Source. He consciously chose to act out of his loving instead of his ego, even through the hardest of times, which lead him to making great connection with many people on many levels.

I hear and read so many people, myself many times included, that have the intention of being and acting one way (kind, love thy neighbor, accepting, compassionate, empathetic) yet many times have a hard time staying connected to that intention and can end up acting in a way that can be quite the opposite (judgemental, mean, rejecting, jealous). I know sometimes I can feel so passionate about something I perceive as negative that I also respond in a negative manner. In reality, this is making me no different then the source that caused my reaction. As Dr. King has said “Darkness can not drive out darkness, only light can do that”. So how can we learn to stay connected to our inner most intentions and project light onto all situations?

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One of my goals for myself is to continue to discover and define my inner moral code and consciously, with intention, chose to live by that code during all situations. One of the things that gets in the way of that intention is my ego. We all have one and in respect we all NEED one. The ego can be very successful at helping us achieve the things we want in life with its goal minded orientation, but it can also harm us in many ways, especially when it comes to continuously acting out of our Authentic Self. The Self that wants to maintain our intentions and inner moral code.

In observance of Martin Luther King Jr. Day yesterday, I would like to quote a section from Wayne Dyer’s book, The Power of Intention, in his words. May we all strive to live a life of personal integrity and stay true to the person we have the intentions of being.

Seven Steps for Overcoming Ego’s Hold on You

1. Stop being offended. The behavior of others isn’t a reason to be immobilized. That which offends you only weakens you. If you’re looking for occasions to be offended, you’ll find them at every turn. This is your ego at work convincing you that the world shouldn’t be the way it is. You can’t reach the power of intention by being offended. By all means, act to eradicate the horrors of the world, which emanate from massive ego, but stay in peace. Being offended creates the same destructive energy that offended you in the first place and leads to attack, counterattack, and war.

2. Let go of your need to win. Ego loves to divide us up into winners and losers. The pursuit of winning is a surefire means to avoid conscious contact with intention. Why? Because ultimately, winning is impossible all of the time – Someone out there will always be faster, luckier, younger, stronger, and smarter – and back you’ll go to feeling worthless and insignificant. You are not your winnings or victories. There are no losers in a world where we all share the same energy source. Let go of your needing to win by not agreeing that the opposite of winning is losing. Be at peace, and match up with the energy of intention. And ironically, although you’ll hardly notice it, more of those victories will show up in your life as you pursue them less.

3. Let go of your need to be right. Ego is the source of a lot of conflict and dissension because it pushes you in the direction of making other people wrong. When you’re hostile, you’ve disconnected from the power of intention. Letting go of your need to be right in your discussions and your relationships is like saying to the ego, I’m not a slave to you. I want to embrace kindness and I reject your need to be right. In fact, I’m going to offer this person a chance to feel better by saying she is right, and thank her for pointing me in the direction of truth. When you let go of the need to be right, you’re able to strengthen your connection to the power of intention. Keep in mind, the ego is a determined combatant. I’ve seen people willing to die rather than let go of the need to be right.

4. Let go of your need to be superior. True nobility isn’t about being better than someone else. It’s about being better than you used to be. Stay focused on your growth, with a constant awareness that no one on this planet is any better than anyone else. We all emanate from the same creative life force. Let go of your need to feel superior by seeing an unfolding of God in everyone. When you project feelings of superiority, that’s what you get back, leading to resentments and ultimately hostile feelings.

5. Let go of your need to have more. The mantra of the ego is more. It’s never satisfied. No matter how much you achieve or acquire, you’re ego will insist that it isn’t enough. You’ll find yourself in a perpetual state of striving, and eliminate the possibility of ever arriving. Yet in reality, you’ve already arrived, and how you chose to use this present moment  of your life is your choice. Ironically, when you stop needing more, more of what you desire seems to arrive in your life. Since you’re detached from the need of it, you’ll find it easier to pass it along to others, because you realize how little you need in order to be satisfied or at peace.

6. Let go of identifying yourself on the basis of your achievements. This may be a difficult concept if you think you are your achievements. I can  hear your ego loudly protesting. Nevertheless stayed tuned to this idea. All emanates from Source! You’re not this body and its accomplishments. You are the observer. Notice it all; and be grateful for the abilities you’ve been given, the motivation to achieve, and the stuff you’ve accumulated. The less you need to take credit for your achievements and the more connected you stay to the faces of intention, the more you’re free to achieve, and the more will show up for you.

7. Let go of your reputation. Your reputation is not located in you. It resides in the minds of others. Therefore, you have no control over it at all. If you speak to 30 people, you have 30 reputations. Connecting to intention means listening to your heart and conducting yourself based on what your inner voice tells you is your purpose here. If you’re overly concerned with how you’re going to be perceived by everyone, then you’ve disconnected yourself from intention and allowed opinion of others to guide you. This is your ego at work. It’s an illusion that stands between you and the power of intention. Leave your reputation for others to debate, it has nothing to do with you.

When I think of Martin Luther King Jr. and the type of man I have learned he was, I conclude that he succeeded in these seven steps. He and others with the loving centered heart like his (Ghandi, Mother Teresa, Jesus, Buddha) are the epitome of what living with personal integrity and intention are about.

Overcoming the ego is what allows people to stand out and stay remembered in a good manner. They connect with the masses and they exert a light into the darkness of others. The lift you up and they stay true to that inner voice directing them in ALL circumstances.

Let us all see this and use it to become a better version of ourselves. To emanate the purpose of our existence. Don’t let the darkness take control. Spread love and light to the world! Live a life of intention!

Happy Tuesday

xoxo,

barista

The Statement That Will Give You Chills

So the other day we went over Affirmations and I introduced steps on how you can create a heart centered Affirmation. I am reading this book “Wishes Fulfilled” by Dr. Wayne Dyer for school and in the beginning of the book he talks about thoughts and how powerful they can be. He says that if we truly want to transform we have to change our thoughts. I just quickly want to share a VERY powerful Affirmation that he shares in the book that literally makes the hair on my arms stick straight up when I read it. Although the format does not coincide with the ones I shared last week, you can still see how there are many types of possible Affirmations that can work for you. The main point is that it is a very powerful statement that is present tense and motivates you to think and create strong feelings around what you want from life or a situation.

I have a burning desire – an inner flame that will not be exstinguished by outer forces – to know and live from higher regions, to be transformed so that my new concept of myself will no longer include any limitation. I am willing to challenge and change my thoughts and impede my having a higher vision of myself

The reason I love this Affirmation so much is I feel it is one that everyone can connect with. When you are on your path of transformation, you will find that it’s not easy to just change overnight. Your whole life, however long that has been, has led you to think and believe the things you do. Although you may now know certain things are not working for you, up until now, it was working for you in someway. So you will see that it can be very easy, automatic, and comfortable to go back to the ways you have been used to for so long. You can probably already attest to being triggered and tested over and over again. Guess what? you won’t always pass but guess what else… it’s ok!!!

This Affirmation allows you to become present to the fact that outer forces will always be present. There are things that will try to extinguish your flame but you will no longer allow those things, people, or situations to limit you. You will no longer let your current beliefs and thoughts limit you. You are open and willing to challenge YOURSELF when old ways creep in and then guess what…. eventually you will start passing the tests. Over and over again!!! This affirmations brings alive in you the being you know already exists underneath all those old patterns and limiting beliefs and allows you to mindfully bring forth this idea and attitude when triggers and tests arrive.

If you are having a trouble coming up with an affirmation of your own, find one online or in a book that makes you excited. This one is definitely a good start. And remember, it takes consistency to create new ideas and pathways of thinking, so put your affirmation somewhere you will see it daily, even a few different places so you can see it throughout the day, that way you can truly transform yourself with it’s new ideas.

Let me know in the comments section what your current affirmation is, and if you do not have one, do me a favor…say the one above to yourself and tell me how it makes you feel?

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your thoughts or story in the comments section below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else

xoxo,

barista

Learn The Risk That Is Always Worth Taking

badge-DaringGreatly-165x165[1]So it’s kind of funny… My very last post was about how I was starting over with reading The Power of Intention by: Dr Wayne Dyer. Well within the last week I had had a couple of conversation with a few friends, some about me and what I’m going through, some about them and their journeys. One of the words that kept coming up quite often was VULNERABILITY. Either me telling someone they needed to be more vulnerable and express themselves OR someone telling me I need to be more vulnerable and express myself.

SoOoOoooo I decided instead of reading The Power of Intention now I was going to pick a book about vulnerability. I had heard about the book Power the Vulnerability recently and was thinking if it was anything as intense as Power of Intention that it was something I needed. As I kept telling my friend that I wanted that book, she kept mentioning Daring Greatly.

I was convinced I was going to get the book I wanted, so I went on Amazon and searched. All I could find was the audio version though. Being that I love actual books, reading them, smelling them, holding them, turning the pages, tuning into them… an audio version just wasn’t going to cut it. Well as I am looking, one of the other books that was showing up was….wait for it….. DARING GREATLY. How’d ya guess? I searched a couple more times for a book version of Power on Vulnerability, thinking maybe I just wasn’t looking hard enough but every page I went on all  I noticed was the colorful cover of Daring Greatly. Soooo I decided to go for it. All of a sudden I realized BOTH books were by the same author anyhow. Now I really may as well!

The need to be vulnerable is a commonality with most people I talk to as well as what I know I need to practice the most. Here’s the problem, being afraid to be vulnerable is also the commonality. Let’s look at the definition of Vulnerable:

vul·ner·a·ble [vuhl-ner-uh-buhl]; 

— adj

1.

capable of being physically or emotionally wounded or hurt

2.

open to temptation, persuasion, censure, etc

3.

liable or exposed to disease, disaster, etc

Let’s look at that very first definition. “Capable of being physically or emotionally wounded or hurt”. Well no wonder why we are all so afraid. We spend a hell of a lot of energy trying to avoid being wounded or hurt, by all means necessary, so why would we intentionally put our guards down?

Why? Because our SELF depends on it, that’s WHY. Who we truly are lies in our vulnerability. We can not fully come to be ourselves if we can not be vulnerable. Part of being vulnerable is being Authentic. According to the dictionary, being authentic means “not false or copied, genuine, real”. When you are being authentic you are being yourself. NOT FALSE OR COPIED, GENUINE, REAL! That’s sharing yourself and your feelings even if in that moment its hurt, anger, or sadness. So why is being authentic vulnerable? Because we have the opportunity to feel rejected. Feeling rejected sucks! So we avoid that feeling.

Just think about it now…. what kinds of things do we do to avoid being hurt? We lie, we pretend, we hide, we blame, we stay quiet. Not one of those things leads us into being who we really are. None of those things are genuine and real. What’s ironic is all of those things end up doing nothing but eventually hurt us anyways.

I have a hard time being vulnerable particularly because I am strongly attached to the myth that vulnerability shows weakness. Putting your guard down is weak. It does nothing but leaves you open to be killed. We are taught that we have to fight and killing those that have their guards down equals power. The thing is being vulnerable is one of the hardest things we can do. Therefore truth is, it’s a strength right? The greatest power doesn’t come from killing the most people, the greatest power comes from connecting with most people. Think of some of the most powerful leaders. They were powerful because they connected with the masses. And guess what? We connect the most with those whom are authentic and vulnerable. Why? because inside we are all dying to be vulnerable, we are all dying to be our true selves and we can see the strength it takes when someone else shows us it’s possible. That when you let your guard down you get rewarded ten times more. Now THAT’s power.

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I’ve stated in this blog over and over how I need to be more vulnerable. How I want to share more. This need isn’t only for my blog, it’s to improve my life in all areas. I need to be more vulnerable in my relationships, my career, my parenting….everything! And as much as I knew what it took to be vulnerable, there are things that still make me afraid. So I am willing to open up into learning more and doing what I can to educate myself about it.  I am fully at that point in my life where my purpose is in turbo speed. I feel as though nothing can stop me. Not even the risk it takes of getting hurt. That is how you know you are on the right path. Because even if you don’t know where the journey is gonna take you, you know you need to continue and nothing can get in your way. This is about taking a stand for WHO I AM!

Pain only makes us even stronger anyways right. Think about it, those who turn away from us or hurt us while our guard is down aren’t the people worth having in our lives. This means they aren’t ready to accept us for who we truly are. In the end, we all want to be accepted right. The only way to know that is to first accept ourselves without rejection and second TAKE THE RISK!

I know I am meant to make a difference in this world and I can’t do that without strengthening the thing that will give me that power of connection. Vulnerability! The risk ALWAYS worth taking.

So here’s goes to stepping into greatness!

xoxo,

barista

A Person Of Intention

A couple of years ago I started reading the “Power of Intention” by Dr. Wayne Dyer. I got maybe a little less than half way through and then never really finished it…yea yea I already admitted how bad I am at that. Well I have been very interested in finishing so I actually decided to start it all over from the beginning again. My brain can be mush sometimes, so although I remember a lot of it, its nice to be refreshed.

In the beginning of the book he actually suggest the reader read the last chapter first to get an idea of how the book can effect you if you apply the ideas. The last chapter is called “A Portrait of a Person Connected to the Field of Intention”. It’s a little long but as I was reading it I was underlining some parts that were important to me and after reading I found this chapter to be very inspiring and like to think of it as a guide for the type of person I strive towards being more like. Which in essence is what I believe to be part of our TRUE selves anyways, it’s just covered up with a bunch of fear. So I guess it’s a guide into teaching ME to how to become more ME. You can not seek that of which you already are right?

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First off though I wanted to share how Dr. Dyer defines the word Intention. It can mean different things to different people so it’d be nice to have a common meaning so you know how to relate it to this portrait. He started by saying through his research Intention was defined as “strong purpose or aim, accompanied by a determination to produce a desired result”. People with strong intentions have “a never-give up attitude combined with an internal picture that propels you towards fulfilling your dreams”. I dunno about you, but for me this sounds pretty damn on point with exactly how I defined “intention” for myself. For a textbook definition it sounds great but how about thinking about intention on a soulful  level.

Carlos Castaneda said:

“Intent is a force that exists in the universe. When sorcerers (those who live of the Source) beckon intent, it comes to them and sets up the path for attainment, which means that sorcerers always accomplish what they set out to do”

After reading this quote in a book, Dr Dyer started to think of intent on a whole other plane. What if intention is a force that exists in the universe as an invisible energy field? It’s not something you DO but something that IS. He goes on to explain that intention is something that  exists in everything and has always been there even before we were conceived. It’s what intended us to be born. I know this dude gets deep right?!

But he believes that “Intention is a field of energy that flows invisibly beyond the reach of our normal everyday habitual patterns…We have the means to attract this energy to us and experience life in an exciting new way“.

So basically how I am understanding, as I have talked about before, we are creatures of habit! Half the things we do, the way we conceptualize, the meaning we put to things, our perceptions…are typically built and based off of habit. But what if we started to Intend things to happen. How could life be different? What could we create? This thought changes us from being a person of which things just happen to, to a person whom CREATES what happens to them. When we can reach BEYOND our normal everyday habits , we become CREATORS!

So here are some key ideas I took from the last chapter in “Power of Intention” By Dr. Wayne Dyer. As you read, simply imagine what it would be like to be this person that is described. How would your life be different?

*Spend a few moments in conversation with people who are connected to the power of intention and you see how unique they are.

*It is impossible to get them to be pessimistic about achieving what they desire.

*They don’t say, With my luck things won’t work out, but instead, I intend to create this and I know it will work out. 

*They don’t relate to concepts of failure or it’s impossible.

*To a connector there are simply no accidents. Seemingly insignificant events are being orchestrated in perfect harmony. They aren’t surprised when the money to finance a project they’ve been intending mysteriously shows up.

*They know better than to place a lot of energy on arguing or being frustrated, because that attracts argumentation and frustration into their lives.

*They know in their heart that somewhere an opportunity exists in the setback, and that is what they look for in everything that shows up in their life.

*Rather then asking for something, because that seems to give power to what’s missing, they commune in a state of reverent gratitude for all that is present in their lives, knowing that this empowers their intention to manifest precisely what they need.

*They have a consciousness of oneness…it is all WE. All of us emanate from the same divine energy. They don’t separate themselves spiritually.

*They don’t brag about their good fortune but are in a perpetual state of gratitude and radical humility.

* They have trained their thoughts to move at the levels of higher vibrations and are able to deflect lower/slower vibrations

*Their peacefulness causes others to feel calm and assured.

*They are not interested in winning arguments or accumulating  allies.

*Rather than trying to persuade you to think like they do, they’re convincing through the energy they exude. 

*Connectors tell you without hesitation that they choose to feel good regardless of what’s going on around them or how others might judge them.

*They know that feeling bad is a choice and it isn’t useful for correcting unpleasant situations.

*If they feel bad in any way, they use that as an indicator that its time to change their energy level.

*They don’t allow their well-being to be contingent on anything external to themselves – not the weather, wars, political landscape, economy, and certainly not anyone else decision to be low energy.

*They think from the end. They can see what they intend to manifest as if it has already materialized. It’s so real in their thoughts that its reality.

*They have a noticeable absence of judgement towards others.

*Their power is the fact that they uplift others with their presence.

*They are never offended because their ego isn’t involved in their opinions.

*They have no need to fit in or to do things the way others expect them to.

*Whatever life sends them, they say Thank you. What can I learn and how can I grow from what I am receiving?

*This always-expanding attitude is what ultimately opens up their life to receiving all that the Source is willing to provide

These are simply small notes I underlined while reading. I suggest if you want to read the entire description, my notes give no justice, then pick up the book and check it out.

Now maybe it’s challenging to be perfectly connected ALL the time, maybe we’re not supposed to be, but doesn’t this sound like a good guideline? What do you think would happen if you just TRIED to replicate these ideas in your inner world? How would your experience of things change? How would current “challenges” fade away? What would you begin to create, KNOWING that it would come? What would you let go of,  KNOWING that whatever comes your way (or leaves your way) is to create the bigger picture for you?

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Think about that and leave your ideas below. 

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable in the comments below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else

xoxo, 

barista