Do you sometimes find yourself wondering where all your energy has gone? A couple of months ago I found myself in that place and had no idea why I had been so tired and drained. I thought maybe something was wrong with my health, so I went to the doctors and they took a bunch of blood test, (when I say a bunch, think about 20 viles worth) and like I feared, besides being a bit low on vitamin D, everything seemed fine. I say feared because it’s like I wanted to see if there was SOMETHING wrong so I could then have an answer as to why I was feeling the way I did. When everything came back fine, then I was back at square one not knowing the answer or how to reach a solution.
I know there are many things that could affect our energy, such as our diet, or simply maybe we’re just doing too much. Sometimes it can even be more obvious than that though. What about just the things we SAID we would do but never get around to. How does that take a toll on our energy levels? Do you have those books you bought that you keep meaning to read but don’t seem to find the time? What about cleaning the garage like you said you would a few months ago? Maybe just buying that plant for your living room that you keep forgetting about?
Living in the world we live in now, where we have so much stimuli going on around us and busy seems to mean we’re important, we get into the habit of over committing or putting too much on our plate. Doing too much at the same time or in each day. Since when did busy mean better?
Some people juggle getting kids ready for school, working a full shift, running a few errands, making time for the gym, taking kids to practice, making dinner for the family, catching up on a side business when everyone is asleep, and finally getting to bed, all in one days work just to wake up and do it all over again tomorrow. Then the weekend comes where it would seem to be rest time, and here comes birthday parties, and taking kids to sports or activities, tending to the backyard and cleaning the house, doing laundry, etc. and before you know it, it’s back to Monday. Oh Monday! If this is you, I could imagine how you are tired and where your energy is going. Look at all those areas where your energy is being expended.
Now add on top of that, remembering all those unread books, or that dirty garage, or that corner of the room with the missing the plant. All those internal commitments use energy too and although is seems like it can’t be taking too much energy, it may be taking more energy then some of the things you are actually doing. So even those of you that don’t have a “busy” day like the one I played through above, you still could find yourself lacking energy because it’s geared towards all the unfulfilled commitments you have yet to do. Every time we say we are going to do something and we do not get around to it, that is good energy that we are just mortgaging, unable to use elsewhere.
To get a clear picture of this, I want you to make two lists. One of your current scene, that lists all the things/activites you have going on in which you are physically extending energy to. You can get detailed or just straight forward
example of some things on my list (very straight forward)
*Reading books for school
*Planning a party
*Hanging out with friends
*An argument with a family member
you get the point. Any and everything that your energy is currently going to.
Now, make a second list of all those things you said you would do but never seem to get around to it. When I say you never get around to it, I mean not even a little bit. Meaning you can put the gym down if you really never get to the gym, but don’t put it on the list if you only go 2 times a week instead of the 4 times that you want. That’s something that can go on the above list. Make sense? So stuff like, cleaning out your closet, throwing away old papers, etc.
Examples of stuff on my list:
*Books I’ve been meaning to read
*Organizing stuff in the garage
*Cleaning out old toys and giving them away
*Taking the toys from Tyson’s birthday (back in April) to Children’s Hospital
*Juicing again in the morning
*Buy new plants for the backyard
*Buy new bedsheets/comforter for my bed
*Editing pictures from a free photoshoot I did for a family member.
*Helping my son practice how to ride his bike without training wheels.
*Cleaning the trunk of my car
That’s already a lot of stuff and I had way more on the list. But do you get the point? There’s all this energy that is physically being used day to day and then a bunch of energy being used just thinking about all the things you committed to doing but haven’t done yet. NO WONDER WE’RE SO TIRED!!! We’re spinning 100 plates on sticks all while only being able to give each one a fraction of our attention at a time. Not only is that energy drained, but half ass work getting done. Plates will eventually start to fall and now you’ve just added mess to clean up to your To-Do list.
So how do we clean this up? How do we get our energy back? Well for starters, let’s work on actually completing some of the things on list #2. How about we just remove some plates. Maybe seems a little crazy to basically add on to list #1 BUT most likely the things on list #2 are things that once complete, it’s complete. It’s not ongoing like a relationship or job would be. So why not make all that mortgaged energy useful and then available for your everyday life. All those things you need to do in the future, let em go. You just took some plates off, relax! Remember the goal is to stay present and not drain ourselves by the shoulda/woulda/couldas. Then we can work on completing some of the stuff on our first list leaving us not only more energy but more time to just enjoy what is.
To start this process right now, I want you to write one more list. Make a list of things you know you can ABSOLUTELY without a doubt complete this month. We want to take baby steps here to avoid not over committing again. Not only will fulfilling these commitments free up your energy but it will always make you FEEL good for following through with what you said you were going to do. If it’s only one or two things that is totally fine. I want you to win!! If it’s reading a book you haven’t gotten to, something as simple as skimming through the entire book in a few minutes can be helpful. If going to the gym is on your list, just getting there, swiping your card and leaving could make a difference.
Some things on my list I will complete in the next month:
*Go outside with Tyson at least once so he can ride his bike
*Buy new plants for the backyard
*Workout at least 5 times
*Sign up for Oprah and Deepak meditation series.
*Make a blog post at least two times a week
Now go down that list and enthusiastically talk about and imagine you doing it RIGHT NOW!!! The mind can’t tell the difference between you just thinking something and actually doing it and studies show that if you get in the habit of visualizing, it is more likely that you WILL actually do that thing you are imagining yourself doing. Get excited, get detailed. Go over with a friend your vision, Picture the room, the people involved, the sounds, the smells. Most importantly picture it and feel it. Just witness how much energy you free up this next week or month and only commit to things you can complete. Be truthful. It’s better to not make any commitments then to leave commitments unfulfilled. Not only will you lessen the number of spinning plates but you’ll be able to gear more love into each one, producing amazing results. Keep me updated!!!