The Butterfly

I came across the story below and thought it had simple meaning worth sharing.

You know when you hear someone else talking and sharing experiences with you and, from the outside looking in, and the solution seems so obvious. How many times do you wanna just shake people and just scream “How can you not know the answer?” Ok maybe I’m the only one that wants to get physical.

Especially when it’s someone you really care about, it can be hard not to force YOUR idea of what’s best for them. Maybe you’ve gone through a similar experience before, maybe we’ve seen them go through a similar experience before….One reason we do things like this, is because we are trying to save others from a struggle we think they can avoid… Besides we are “just trying to help”.  Truth is, no one knows what’s best for someone else. Only you know what’s best for you and they know what’s best for them.

Having open conversations, giving WANTED advice, and sharing knowledge can be very harmless but we have to know when to let go and let others go through what they need to go through. We have to trust that they will learn exactly they need to learn, to grow into exactly the person they need to become. We all have a journey.

The Story of the Butterfly

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly.
One day a small opening appeared.
He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours
as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole.
Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly.
He took a pair of scissors and
snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon.
The butterfly emerged easily but
it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch it,
expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge
and expand enough to support the body,
Neither happened!
In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life
crawling around.
It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness
and haste did not understand:
The restricting cocoon and the struggle
required by the butterfly to get through the opening
was a way of forcing the fluid from the body
into the wings so that it would be ready
for flight once that was achieved.

Sometimes struggles are exactly
what we need in our lives.
Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us.
We will not be as strong as we could have been
and we would never fly.

Are there ways in which you can relate to the butterfly? Are there ways in which you can relate to the man? How can you can accept the struggles in your life and in others?

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your thoughts or story in the comments below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else