14 Ways to GIVE LOVE

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY my fellow lover,

So there are many varying opinions about Valentine’s day from different people. If you are in a relationship, it’s a day to express your love. If you’re not in a relationship, today can be known as Single’s awareness day. And no matter which category you fall, you may think of Valentine’s day as just a another day on the calendar.

We all know that Valentine’s day is a highly commercialized “holiday” here in America. Billions of dollars are spent every year on flowers, cards, presents, candy, chocolate etc. It seems to have become more about showing off how big your present is rather than how big your love is. I’m not gonna act like I haven’t participated in the debacle. I would post pictures of the lovely flowers I would receive or box of strawberries. I would feel special when I received something, and with social media, and the help of the ego, I would want to share just how special I was with everyone because of what I would receive. And sometimes I still let that get the best of me. “I am special because I get ____ , wanna see? Here’s a pic or a post about it”

Valentine’s Day has come to represent that if you are in a relationship then you are worthy and if you aren’t then you are unworthy. Some people feel as though, since they don’t have a loved one there to shower them in gifts, that it’s just a reminder of how single they are and how unworthy they feel watching everyone else flaunt their stuff.

That is simply untrue and I’m here to share that Valentine’s Day does not have to represent the receiving of love as much as it can represent the GIVING of love. And guess what, you don’t have to be a relationship to GIVE love!!! Isn’t that awesome? I know that love is something that should be expressed EVERYDAY but face it, Valentine’s Day isn’t going away any time soon so while it’s here, we can still use it to represent a day of GIVING LOVE.

Give to your friends, your parents, your children, your partners, strangers, YOURSELF! Feel the love within and share it’s overflow with those around you. Make today about sharing and making others feel special. Besides, the more you give the more you open yourself up to receive.

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I’m doing you a favor and giving you 14 EASY WAYS TO GIVE LOVE TODAY whether you’re single or not:

1. SMILE AT EVERYONE YOU SEE AND SAY HELLO

2. BUY SOME FLOWERS AND PASS THEM OUT AT WORK (good deed of the day btw)

3. LEAVE A NICE CARD ON A STRANGERS WINDSHIELD TELLING THEM THEY ARE PERFECT

4. PAY FOR LUNCH FOR THE PERSON BEHIND YOU

5. MAKE SOME COOKIES AND SHARE

6. CREATE A SOUNDTRACK WITH YOUR FAVORITE INSPIRING SONGS AND GIVE IT TO A FRIEND

7. HUG, HUG, HUG!!!

8. THANK THOSE YOU APPRECIATE

9. SAY I LOVE YOU IN THE MIRROR

10. SAY A SILENT PRAYER FOR EVERYONE YOU PASS

11. CALL YOUR PARENTS AND TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM

12. HELP SOMEONE IN NEED

13. BLAST HAPPY MUSIC WHILE YOUR DRIVING

14. and I know I said this already but seriously just….. SMILE!!! WALK AROUND SMILING AND I GAURANTEE, YOUR PRESCENCE WILL BRIGHTEN THE DAY OF THOSE AROUND YOU!

 

Today I am going to leave LOVE NOTES around for strangers to find!!!

What will you do today to focus on GIVING your love rather than receiving love from someone else??

 

xoxo,

barista

 

 

 

 

Good Deed Sunday 2/9/14

Here we go, another week ending while another week begins…

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Last weeks Deeds:

2/3/14: GIVE CREDIT WHENEVER YOU CAN:
On this day a new girl started at my job and I am in charge of training her as she is going to be taking over my position when I go on maternity leave. This was a great day for this deed because there were many opportunities to give credit. I’m sure it made her feel good about what she was learning

2/4/14: START A BIRTHDAY CALENDAR to help you remember to send cards:
This day was one of my good friends Birthday’s and a great reminder to mark off my other friends and family members birthdays on the calendar on my phone. I set reminders to remind me 3 days a head of time so I can get cards to send in the mail so they can reach the people on time. I’ve wanted to do this for a while, and I’ve definitely been more mindful over the last year or two, but I’m glad i took the time to set them all up in my calendar with the reminders. I think it’s fun to get little surprises and cards in the mail to balance out the bills we dislike getting.

2/5/14: SMILE WHEN YOU TALK ON THE PHONE, it makes your voice friendly:
I forgot to do this one this day. It would be a good one to practice at work too since I answer the phone a lot. I get so caught up in the hustle of the day that I can sometimes sounds very rushed when answering the phone. I’m sure it would be very helpful and make a difference as well.

2/6/14: bless your interruptions as an opportunity to TAKE A DEEP BREATHE AND SMILE:
This day was pretty interesting. Usually before the day begins, I re-read what the deed of the day is, I post it on my Facebook, and then that also helps remind me so I can make sure I accomplish it for that day. Well on this day, I forgot to look to see what the deed was. Well the Universe thought it would be a fun day to play with me, so there were definitely some interruptions in the day that were a bit unusual. The first one I noticed was when I tried to print some things from the printer, the printer froze. I was in a very bug hurry to get some stuff printed and done for my boss as she was waiting, and OF COURSE the printer was taking FOREVER to print out what I needed. Because I had not known of my deed this day, I had become very frustrated and irritated with the printer. (poor printer). I ended up printing it on a different printer, which I had not previously thought about because the frustration and annoyance had blocked ways for other ideas to enter, and was on my merry way. Well THEN later, when it was time to make sure all the mail was stamped and ready to take down to the mailbox before the mail carrier came, the stamp machine got stuck. I was literally thinking “this is unbelievable, what is going on today?”. I remember this particular deed but wasn’t sure what day it was for, so I took a minute, pulled up the blog and YUP there it was….this was the deed I was to be practicing. SO i took a deep breath and definitely smiled because I just felt it was no coincidence that these things were happening. This is where Serenity came into play. There are always two ways to look at obstacles. As blessings or issues, this deed gave me the chance to see the blessings. The printer decided to act up some the rest of the day and I just took it as an opportunity to take a deep breath and smile.

2/7/14: MYSTERY DEED aka MYSTERY DEED:
SO what had happened was…. wait for it…. i uh, kinda forgot what deed I picked for the day! haha. Lets blame it on the pregnancy brain k? haha I know I picked something special because it was my dad’s birthday, but for the life of me, I could not remember. So, sorry dad! I was out of the house all day and night and didn’t have my journal so I couldn’t even try to refresh my memory. I think from now on, I’ll mark which deeds are mystery deeds so I can remember.

2/8/14: LEAVE A BIG TIP:
Yesterday I was destined to go out to eat specifically so I could carry out this deed but I didn’t exactly make it out the house except to go to Target. So, in the sense that I wanted, I wasn’t able to accomplish this deed BUT a dog groomer did come to my house earlier in the day to give the dogs a bath and I did leave him a slightly bigger tip then was recommended, but not big enough so I will not count that one. If I were thinking of my deed this moment, I would have made an effort to give him a bigger one, but I was not being very mindful in the moment. DARN!!!

And on to this weeks deeds!!!

2/9/14: BUY A NICE WATER BOTTLE so you’ll be less inclined to buy plastic bottles

2/10/14: PLAY FREEZE DANCE

2/11/14: **MYSTERY DEED**

2/12/14: scroll through your phone and CALL THE PERSON YOU’VE KNOWN THE LONGEST.

2/13/14: BAKE WITH YOUR KIDS

2/14/14: BUY A BUNCH OF FLOWERS on your way to work. Give each one to a colleague you appreciate

2/15/14: Clean out your sweater drawer and TAKE EXTRAS TO A CHARITY

have fun this week and let me know how it goes!!!

xoxo,

barista

Good Deed Sunday 2/2/14 (Late Post)

So I have another late post for you. I had school all weekend so I really had no time that I could be on the computer unless it was cutting into my sleep. School also made it a bit harder this week in completing some of my good deeds because I was working on homework during the week which seemed to take more precedence.

The interesting part as I was preparing to write this blog and the deeds from last week, a piece of me really wanted to lie to you. I wanted it to seem like I completed all the deeds, completed the makeup deeds, and ended the month 31/31. It’s funny to notice that ego part that wants everything to seem “perfect, to not feel like I failed, to not feel judged. Then I come to the conclusion that the only person judging me is ME! I am judging myself in that moment. It’s like that quote “What others think of you is none of your business”…. I can not feel judged unless I am also judging myself. Especially when I DON’T know what others will or are thinking.

I know my intentions and my circumstances so there is no reason for me to feel ashamed. By lying, I would only be harming my self esteem by buying into the judgements that I placed on myself. So as I learned in class, one of the most powerful tools to healing is compassionate self forgiveness. Forgiving yourself for the judgements you place on yourself and others. So “I forgive myself for judging myself as failing…I forgive myself for buying into the belief that this process has to be perfect”.

So let’s get on to the deeds last week:

1/27/14: SAY GOOD MORNING TO YOUR CO-WORKERS:
This one was easy, because I do it everyday. I did make more effort to just say Good Morning to everyone else though too

wpid-IMG_2278.jpg1/28/14: MYSTERY DEED aka PUT A LOVE NOTE IN A LOVED ONES LUNCH:
So the loved one I chose never brings lunch to work so of course I made him a lunch this day and left him a cute little note with it. I left it on the counter as a surprise. Our little one tried t o ruin the surprise and tell  daddy to go look in the kitchen but daddy just thought it was mommy’s lunch. So I had to call him after I left and let him know the I made it for him.

BONUS:
Today I also completed the past deed of doing a TEn MINUTE MEDITATION. I completed the meditation in my counseling session.

1/29/14: DO A LITTLE DANCE AND BE SILLY:
I tend to complete this one a lot. Usually me and my son make up little dances and try to make daddy laugh. This time, my son was already sleep, so i just did a silly dance for the big boy. It included moonwalking so I bet you can just imagine.

1/30/14: LEAVE SOME HOMEMADE COOKIES AT YOUR NEIGHBORS DOOR:
So I picked this deed thinking that It would be easy to complete along with the other deed of making cookies and sharing. I have realized though that’s its not so easy for me to bake during the week so I may have to save these deeds for a weekend.

1/31/14: GIVE YOURSELF A PEP TALK:
This one was a good one for today because it was my first day back at school this month. I was also behind on doing homework and stressing about that, along with working and trying to get a lot of stuff done for a new person that I will be training. So although simple, my person pep talk was just telling myself to do the best I can, what gets done will get done, and let it go into the universe. PS: I got my homework back and got 200/200. YAY!

BONUS: I also completed the deed of BE MINDFUL of my please, thank yous, and you’re welcomes.

2/1/14: LET ANOTHER CAR TAKE THAT PARKING SPOT and smile and wave:
I picked this one for this day because I thought it would be easy since I have school and most people arrive at the same time. But when I arrived on this day there was no one there at the same exact time as me so really I had no one to give a spot to. The intentions were there but the opportunity was not. It will stay in my mind though.

and yesterday Sunday, If I’m sticking to the truth, I didn’t even pick a good deed. So there was nothing this day for Good Deeds to complete. Full day of school and forgot to look in the journal that morning.

SO FAR: this week with the bonus deeds, I completed 6 deeds still which is awesome bringing my count to 26 out of 33 deeds so far. AWESOME

THIS WEEKS DEEDS:

2/3/14: GIVE CREDIT WHEREVER YOU CAN

2/4/14: START A BIRTHDAY CALENDAR to help you remember to send cards

2/5/14: SMILE WHEN YOU TALK ON THE PHONE, it makes your voice friendly

2/6/14: bless your interruptions as an opportunity to TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND SMILE


2/7/14: MYSTERY DEED

2/8/14: LEAVE A BIG TIP
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