True Power Lies In Your Perception

7366018_mA few days ago I was talking to my friend Emily about this new relationship she’s in. She seemed quite nervous. She proceeds to say “I wish I knew what was going to happen in the future with us!, I don’t want to waste any more time”

…there, there Emily, you’re not the only one. Don’t we all wish we knew the future sometimes?

I decided to play a little game with her. I asked her to tell me what her ideal future looks like. It was something she wasn’t even too clear about, so it was fun to get her to actually picture it and put it together.

After she told me what she wanted, I said “Done!…That’s exactly what’s going to happen. You’re going get married. Have kids. The career you want. Excited about life. In love and happy!… That’s what I see in your future”

She laughed it off.

I said “What you don’t believe me?” She said “Uh no, you don’t know the future.”

“Well what if I did?…Ok well let’s just sayyyy there was such a person that could tell you exactly how you’re future was going to look…. let’s just say they told you exactly what I just told you… that everything you want is EXACTLY what’s going to happen…would you believe them?”

“Um maybe”, Emily said a little more easy. “Ok well if you KNEW that was your future, if you knew within a year you’d be engaged… what would you do from now until then?” I asked.

“I’d relax”, she laughed.

Here’s the thing, whether it’s ME telling you what your future is going to look like, or some psychic that could predict your future, in reality it doesn’t matter. Even if this psychic has never been wrong, you’d still have to have some faith in what they’ve told you. You see, because you STILL wouldn’t really know for sure what’s going to happen UNTIL it happens. The only difference between me telling you your future, and a psychic telling you is that you would CHOOSE to believe the psychic.

That right there is the power of perception. You have the power to perceive anything however you CHOOSE to perceive it. If Emily wanted to believe me and what I said her future looks like she very well could. And just like she could place that power in my hands, she could also take that power herself. SHE could become her own psychic.

Just like in my post the other day, your beliefs become your thoughts which become your words which become your actions…and so on. Sometimes it could feel like you have no control over your perception but it’s actually the ONLY thing you have control over. If you believe in the possibility of your dreams, you will then start to act accordingly to what you believe.

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Emily had contemplated on breaking up with her boyfriend for no other reason then she was SO anxious about not knowing how things were going to end up and she didn’t want to waste time. In the back of  her head, she believes that maybe she’s going to end up alone. Very common for some people at our almost 30 age. I told her, that anxiousness, that fear…it was an opportunity. An opportunity to decide if she was going to move towards her dreams or towards her fears. She’s in a relationship with a guy she’s in love with and she’s very happy with him. This was the chance to not only see this is what she WANTS but also to ACCEPT that things are going the right way.

I asked her “Now that you know you’re going to marry him, do you still want break up with him?” “Well NO!” That answer is obvious because when you’ve been told what you’re future is going to be, you’re going to let it happen. You aren’t going to do anything or let anything come in way of it happening. If you believe he’s “the one” you are going to act like he’s “the one”. And if you’re acting like he’s “the one” then you won’t be surprised when he becomes “the one”. The Law of Attraction brings to you what you believe to be true.

Why are successful people successful? Because they believe they can achieve their goals or because they are afraid of failing? Because they BELIEVE they can achieve their goals. That belief is causing them to make the necessary moves they need to make to be exactly where they want to be. If they believed they were going to fail, they would fail. Period! If you truly believe you’re going to be alone in your future, big chance is you… will be!

When you can shift your beliefs and give yourself power, you will come to understand that the world is ALWAYS placing clues in your path. Clues that allow you to follow the direction of your TRUE desires. When you are OPEN you will start to notice what is being presented, you will understand it’s an opportunity to learn and grow, and you take it in order to accept your dreams coming true. If you are closed off, you will simply continue to miss your chances. You will become anxious and fearful of what’s going to happen next because the vision isn’t there. Or it could be there, but it’s the vision of your FEARS not your dreams. Anxiety and fear are nothing but indicators that your vibrations aren’t matching what the core of you desires. Take them as CLUES.

Things are always happening FOR YOU. It is up to you to recognize the opportunities and it is up to you to define what they mean to you. You do have to remember that you are a CO-creator. It’s you and your higher power. God, the Universe, your Source, all of the above, whatever you call it.

If things don’t happen EXACTLY how you envision, doesn’t mean your dreams won’t still come true. When you remember you are a co-creator, you’ll know your dreams will still come true, just maybe not in the way you always imagine. But guess what, they’ll happen even BETTER then you imagine. Because the Universe is way more expansive and creative than your mind, so it will bring you success in ways you could never think. It’ll also be a way that is also allowing you to learn the lessons you are on this Earth to learn. But you must have faith. The power lies in YOU. You don’t need a psychic to tell you what your dreams are and that they are going to happen because at the end of the day YOU are the one that has to believe it.

What are your dreams? How have you been acting accordingly? In what ways can you see your fears hindering you? Do you notice opportunities when they are in front of you?

What do you dare to dream today? How can you be more open to that dream?

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable in the comments below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else. 🙂

xoxo,

barista

 

Creating “Miracles” from Juicing

After 93 hours of juice fasting, I had my first full meal on Friday night. I went into the fast with the “I’ll TRY” attitude and never really intended to make it through 7 days. Hell I never though I’d make it far past 1 day but I did a whole heck of a lot better than I imagined. I also feel like I learned so much in the time period I did it.

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The first two days for me were soooooo incredibly hard. You already read how the first day went, well day 2 went pretty similar. I had the same typical obsessive thoughts about food and relating the WANT to taste and chew something to the thought of starvation. More headache and a little light-headedness. I started the morning sipping a juice and had another smoothie at lunchtime which held me over the rest of the work day. I then came home and got ready for the gym. This time I was able to get into a Zumba class so I didn’t have to worry so much about doing boring cardio and thinking about food the whole time.

My son had come to the gym with me and afterwards he wanted some food from Chick-Fil-A. They do have some of the best chicken nuggets I’ve tasted so I knew this was going to be hard. While in the line I was thinking “Maybe I’ll just get the three-piece chicken tenders”. I ordered his food and the attendant ask the closing question, “Would you like anything else?”. As much as I wanted to order me some tenders, I replied “No, that’s it”. I was proud of myself for not giving in. Or as I like to say, telling my “fuck it” brain to fuck off!

He was eating in the back seat and by the time he got home he said he was done. I put him to bed and went back downstairs to check out the left over food. There was one chicken nugget and some french fries. I wanted to throw it all away but my mind got the best of me and I ate the chicken nugget. Knowing that I was going against what I had wanted, I took the french fries and fed them to the dogs. I then went upstairs and went to bed. The funniest thing happened next

I was asking my boyfriend how he was doing with the fast, he said he was fine. I asked him if he had any food at all. He said no at first and then I was telling him how someone had eaten the nuts that were in the pantry. He then broke down and said “Ok, I ate some”. I laughed and said “Oh, so you lied to me”. He answered saying that he was lying to himself. Isnt that something familiar? I’m pretty sure we all try to lie to ourselves about certain things. We act as if we can believe the lie then maybe whatever it is didn’t really happen or exist. We try to make ourselves feel better, not by accepting the truth, but trying to believe a lie.

It was funny because the next thing I said was “OK FINE, I had one of the chicken nuggets”. It was like we both wanted to lie, but honestly it felt so good to tell the truth. It was so funny at the same time because here we are both admitting to eating very small portions of food as if it were bad and we didn’t want to go to hell. There was no judging, we laughed about it and went to sleep.

After I made it past day 1 and 2, I was figuring day 3 was my goal. I wanted to make it through 3 days and see how I felt. Day 3 was a breeze. I hadn’t really thought much about eating at all. I felt like I had the most energy I’ve had in the earlier 2 days and my “starvation” had gone away. I heard usually  after 2-3 days the hunger goes away and I wanted to know if that was true and how not being “hungry” after 3 days of not really eating anything felt.  I felt awesome I and I felt like I had reached my point of satisfaction.

Since we are telling the truth here, ONE of the main reasons I was interested in starting the fast was to lose weight. I had gained weight and was 10 lbs heavier than normal. After spending the last couple months binge eating and eating horribly, the calories had got me. So I was excited to lose a few pounds, especially before leaving for Bali in a few days. The other reason was still true though, I wanted to challenge my discipline and get my control  back. After these last few days, became just an added bonus to what I really got out of it.

I knew that food had a hold on me. During that time period I was gaining ten pounds, I knew so many times when I had eaten stuff I knew inside I didn’t really want to eat but had given in to what I played off as a “weakness”. Its amusing when you actually notice those moments in which you have to make a decision either go towards what your inner self is aligned to or go against it. One of the most important steps in making any type of change is being able to recognize those moments. Do I continue down the path of which I am used to, or do I choose something different? Choosing the path you are used to is usually the easy choice. Usually when it’s easy, you aren’t learning. That moment you decide to choose something different then what you are used to, you have created, what Gabrielle Bernstein would call a “miracle” and you have opened the door to learn something new.

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Throughout this process I’ve had  a few of those moments. The first 20 minutes I was in work I had this moment while staring at chocolate. In 9/10 cases I would have chosen to eat the chocolate. I debated over it in my head and I chose to do something different. I chose to stay on the path in which I wanted to follow. And guess how I knew that was the right path? Because it felt good! I didn’t regret my decision and I didn’t feel bad about it. One of the sure-fire ways to know you are aligned is…YOU FEEL GOOD! A few times I gave in and did what I would normally do. When I ate the pineapple on day 1, I was in that moment and decided to go against myself. I knew the moment right before I chose to eat it that I was eating it because I was making a “fuck it” choice. Something inside of me KNEW that I didn’t need it, that I didn’t want it, that eating it wasn’t aligned to my true choice but that part of me that is used to giving in, gave in.

During the time that I was fasting, especially after making it through day 1 and 2, I realized that I have so much more control over my choices then I give myself credit for. Even through the moments I gave in, there is something to be said about taking responsibility over those choices as well. Realizing that every moment I have a choice and taking full responsibility for my choices, even if they are against my inner self, gives me a sense of freedom. Cutting the excuses and releasing the blame can be very empowering.

Being able  to get through these few days showed me that all the excuses and blame I placed on why my eating habits were the way they were, didn’t really exist. There was no truth behind the excuses or the blame. All the excuses or blame did was made me feel powerless to the choices I was previously making. “I have a sweet tooth”, “I’ll start eating better tomorrow”, “I already fucked up so why stop”. Being able to hold a steady ground pushed those statements out the door.

The best part is, when I did decide to eat on Friday, I was at ESPNZone and there were so many bad things I could have gotten. But again, I had that moment in which I had to make a decision. Trust me, I wanted nothing more than to have some hot wings or some artichoke and spinach dip but in that moment I knew that those things weren’t aligned to my goals so I chose a chicken salad with the dressing on the side.

Now that I have tested myself and I have proof that I can stay on the path in which I want to follow, there is absolutely no excuse or blame for going the other way. If in moments I choose to go the other way, all I have to do is take  responsibility and learn from it. I believe those moments in which I “gave in” were necessary to further that lesson.

I know that I don’t have to eat a chocolate every time I see it. I know that I’m not  gonna die just because I’m not “chewing” something. I know that I don’t have to pick the most unhealthy meal just because it’s an option. I know that if I can  handle a few days of not eating food, that when I do eat it, I don’t have to go overboard. I know that  I have become more mindful to the thoughts that play out in my head and the control I was letting them have on me. I am more mindful of my actions. In that I can be more mindful to my habits and turn them into intentions.

Even though I had a meal on Friday and a meal on Saturday.  I don’t think I am done with the lessons quite yet. I am going to continue on this “juicing” journey. I will place no restrictions on myself but I will continue to pay attention to my mind and my body and listen to what it is teaching me.

My challenge to you is, try to become aware of those moments in which you have a choice…. and choose differently. Even if its something small. Those small “miracles” will lead to great change!

xoxo,

barista