Mini Goal Monday: Integrity

Soooo Good Morning Everyone….How did your Mini Goals go this week? How many excuses did you make, to yourself and to others? Did you start to notice others excuses? How did you handle it? I can tell you how my goals went. Well I just typed HORRIBLE but i decided to erase it because ya know although I did not follow through on them 100%,  I can not discount the effort I put in as well as the parts I tried to make up. We have to learn how to change our perspective sometimes and look at the glass half full to give ourselves the boost and motivation we need to continue on.

So let’s see, my goals last week were to work out on Monday, do Bikram on Tuesday, Work out on Wednesday and Friday, and wake up at 7am every morning. Well I can definitely say the waking up at 7am did not really work out at all 🙂 It hard when my bed is so comfy in the morning!!! 🙂 I did not work out on Monday but I made it up with a short workout video early Friday morning. I was planning on Bikram on Tuesday but last-minute chose not go but made that up with an hour walk on Saturday. Unless something important come  up I always go to the gym on Wednesdays. What makes Wednesday so important you ask? Well I have a class I go to at the gym every Wednesday night and I have gone for over a year now. And it’s a FREE class. Isn’t that interesting. I have it built into my schedule therefore I do not miss it. That is how we should treat most goals which is why when I state my mini goals I try to get specific to place them in my schedule. It is a lot more powerful and leaves less room for excuses. When you say something like ” I will go to the gym after work” or “I will go later today”, by not specifying an exact time, you are leaving wide open space for other things to come in and take over therefore giving you the excuse of why you can no longer go. I did not  lose 2lbs this week either because I chose to pig out on candy all week. I found out my scale has been off by 4 lbs too but lets not talk about it, that just means I now have to work even harder to reach my goal.

Anyways, this all brings me to the topic Integrity. This will be a “mini” version though as Integrity alone could be an entire post. Integrity is a combination of three things: words, beliefs, and actions. We say something, we then believe  it to be true, and we act so to make it true. So in short, Integrity = Your Word. It is following through with what you said simply because you said it. Ever heard the quote “Say what you mean and mean what you say”? Well that is about Integrity. Last week I told you all to start paying attention to your excuses and why you feel the need to give them versus just stating that you simply just did not follow through on something. Now lets look at the other side of this. How about now we pay attention to our integrity. What happens in times in which we fail in our integrity? It usually goes like this…we say something, we don’t believe it to be true therefore we do not act accordingly. Or we can even go as far as believing it to be true but choose still not act. This is why excuses come into play. We have to make ourselves feel better for not following through with our words. I mean who wants to admit they lack integrity?

Excuses or not though, when you fail to follow through, you are lacking, even if just a little, on your integrity. Our word is who we are and all we have and it is closely related to our self-esteem. Every time we choose to go back on our word we are lowering our self-esteem. Even if it seems unimportant. After so many times we start to lose trust in ourselves. Your word becomes your character. When you can’t trust yourself, how are others suppose to trust you?

SO this week the challenge is to take a look at your words, your beliefs, and your actions and see how they align. Take notice of where in your life you can lack integrity. If you are unsure you will be able to follow-up on something don’t say it until you are sure… But at the same time, notice the le-way you are leaving  yourself to possibly back out. When this comes up, simply make a decision. When you say you’re going to call your friend back…call them back. When you say you are going to attend the party…attend the party. When you say you are going to go to the gym…go the gym! If later you realize you do not want to do these things…do them anyway. Why? Because you said you were going to. If you start to notice that you are having to do a lot of things you don’t want to do…then stop saying you would do it in the first place. COMMIT TO YOUR WORD!!!

Mini goals this week: do work out video before work at 7am monday (already done btw), Tuesday, thursday, and friday. Go to the gym Monday at 7:45pm, Wednesday at 8:00pm, Friday at 3:30pm. I was going to say some stuff for Saturday and Sunday but I work both days so I don’t want to say I will if I am tired. But if I end up working out, it’s a plus!  I will wake up at 7am every morning (yes today I passed) and I will lose at LEAST 2lbs.

Bonus Challenge: Even if you prefer to be anonymous…LEAVE YOUR MINI GOALS IN THE COMMENTS SECTION BELOW!!! Make them REAL! This blog is helping not only make my goals real, but keeping me responsible for when I don’t uphold to them. Let me know your mini goals, and the following week let me know what you discovered by following through or not following through.

until next time,

xoxo

Mini Goal Monday: Listen to your Excuses

So it is Mini Goal Monday again!!! How did you all do on your goals?? Did you meet them?  Did you cheat a little? Did you not attempt at all?

So let’s see my goal was to go to the gym at least 3 times this week and lose 1.5 lbs. So I went to the gym on Monday when I said I would. I went to the gym on Wednesday the day I said I would, and on Friday a last-minute playdate came up with my son that I went to instead of the gym. I knew a few days before so I had already planned to still go to the gym afterwards. Well the playdate lasted a long time and then it was the Mega Lotto drawing, in which I had a lot of tickets for, so I did not end up going on Friday. I then was gonna go on Saturday but it rained , and then Sunday I had a birthday party, a photo shoot, and dinner to go to.

Did you just hear ALLLL those excuses I just made on why I failed to meet my goal??? That’s what happens when we fail at something we said we would do right. We immediately have to back ourselves up with the great, or not so great, reasons we couldn’t follow through. The funny part is that it feels like we HAVE to give a reason/excuse just to feel understood instead of simply taking responsibility for not doing what we said we’d do.

Have you ever been late to meet someone and when you finally talk to them or get there you have the excuse, real or not. “i lost my keys”, “There was so much traffic”, “I was running late”. There has to be SOMETHING! How often do you ever just say “I’m late, sorry!” or “I’m late because I didn’t prepare better”.  It’s a way to try to dodge the responsibility. It feels better when we put it on something, or someone, else.  I could have just said, “I didn’t go Friday” and left it at that but instead felt compelled to explain the reasons why so you could understand that I had no choice. Did I really have no choice though? Of course I did, I always do.  I could have went late night on Friday. I could have went on Saturday regardless of the rain and I could have went early Sunday morning. There WERE chances for me to go to the gym a third time but I CHOSE not to. How powerful is that. Owning my choice! So I even could have just said “I chose not to go to the gym on Friday, or the rest of the weekend” because in reality THAT is what happened.

I mean this even happens when we don’t even make promises, just when we flat out don’t want to do something. When you get invited to a party you dont want to go to. When you get asked to do something you don’t want to do. How many times do you either say you will do it, or will go and come up with an excuse later OR come up with an excuse right away?  What’s wrong with just saying “No, I not going to come” or “No, I don’t want to do that”?

I didn’t lose 1.5 lbs either. I chose not to! I chose to eat badly all weekend. I chose the easier route this time. Now could I be hard on myself for not meeting my mini goal this week. Of course I could and I could give up while I’m at it thinking im never gonna make it there. But ya know what the best thing to do when you can’t follow-up on a goal, or a promise, or something you said?? Move on, make another goal/promise and follow through on the new one.  We can’t go back and change what already happened {or didnt happen} but we can choose to continue and follow through the next time. Start restoring your integrity!

So my mini goal this week :
*Monday workout at home with weights 7:30, Tuesday go to Bikram Yoga 8:15, Wednesday go to TKB at the gym 8:00, and Friday go to the gym 3:30
*Lose 2lbs this week
and I’ll add a new one.
*Get out of my bed at 7am instead of 7:30/8:00am to start getting ready for work

what are your goals this week gonna be?

And I challenge you this….next time you aren’t able to follow-up on what you said you would or simply get asked to do something you don’t want to do, just NOTICE the excuses you make. FEEL how compelled you are to have to make them. TRY not to make any excuse and simply just TAKE responsibility. Once you start doing this, you can begin to see how responsible for your life you really are.  You will also ALWAYS notice the excuses other people make and their stories on why things just aren’t their fault. I’ll admit it starts to get annoying…. but REALIZE that this is how you sound when you make them too!

Check in next Monday!

xoxo

Mini Goal Mondays!!!

I thought this was a good way to start the week since I have begun my “get-in-shape-by-summertime” plan. One thing that helps me a lot when it comes to not getting scared about how far I have to still go is cutting my big goals into a bunch of mini goals. Now yes this seems like common sense but how regularly do we really do that? If it were often, then our goals would be met a lot more frequently. And with more excitement!! In order to get what we want we have to become more clear about what we want and how we want to get there. I think it also helps when you can share your mini goals with someone. While it nice to be accountable to yourself, I find it much more motivating when you have to be accountable to someone else. SOoOoOoOoooo while I will share some of my mini goals with a friend I will also share them on my blog. Another tip is BE SPECIFIC!!!

My mini goal for the week, as far as getting in shape goes, is to lose 1.5lbs and go to the gym at least 3 times. Today at 7:30, Wed at 8:00, and Friday at 3:30pm… We’ll check back in next week!! Hey maybe Mondays can be now be “Mini Goal Mondays”… I like that!!!

What are you mini goals this week? And if you want to be even more specific what are your mini goals for the day?
Feel free to leave your goals in the comments section so we can be accountable together!