Mini Goal Monday: One Step Closer

Here it is…Monday again!!! OH NO! haha. Monday has this sort of negative association attached to it. Why? Wellll because it’s the first day of the week for most people when they have to go back to work. Most people dread work sooooo much that they dread Mondays. That doesn’t sound fun.

 Monday sets the tone for the rest of your work week. So then guess what? You spend the week looking forward to Friday and instead of living in the moment you live in the future and the moment passes you by. That’s 5 out of 7 days that you spend dreading your life or letting it pass you by. Then every year we say…this year went by so fast. Well no wonder, you spent majority of it not only dreading it but missing it because you were waiting for the weekend.

If you want your Mondays to be better (thus setting a better tone for the rest of your week) I see two options to get past this oh-so-dread. You change your perception of Mondays and start thinking of ways to enjoy Monday…..or….. you get a new job!

 

There is NO reason to have a job you don’t enjoy. There is NO reason to compromise your happiness. Most of us work jobs we don’t like because of money and in turn we think money  is going to make us happy… but guess what, if you’re not happy working then what’s the point? That’s 70% of your life unhappy and to me, money is not worth it, especially when most come to find out money doesn’t really make them happy in the end. It’s what you do with your life that can make you happy. How you use 100% of your time not the remaining 30%.

Now I understand that for most of us, our dream job doesn’t just land in our lap. We have to do some other work to survive to then get to where we eventually want to be BUT don’t compromise too much of your self or your happiness to do so. Make sure you keep your dreams in view. Make sure you are working and doing what you need to get closer to where you want to be. Evaluate what you are currently doing and ask yourself a few questions. Is this on track to getting me to where I want to be? Am I growing? Am I gaining experience? Am I learning? If money weren’t a factor, would I still want to do this? What am I compromising and is it worth it?

That’s why Mini-Goal Mondays exist. So we can get used to becoming clear with our goals, not matter how big or small, and breaking them down so everyday counts, and everyday we are doing something that will get us to our goals. THIS is what can help you change your perspective if right now you can’t change your job.

Monday counts just as much as every other day. What tone do you want to set for your week? How can you make today count?

xoxo,

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Mini Goal Monday: Are You Ready?

HAPPY MONDAY!!!

So today is a good Monday for me. You know why? I lost 6lbs this last week. I worked hard to do it too so I am very excited. It seems like a lot but I packed on a good amount of weight the previous weekend from going crazy on the junk food so I think it was a little easier to lose so much. We are down to the wire though so I have worked EXTRA hard to meet my goals. I hate very healthy last week, yes i had a few cheats of candy but it was VERY minimal, I did the workout videos in the mornings, and I went to the gym 4 times and did a lot of cardio. And guess what, it allll paid off very nicely and was the motivation I needed to keep going this week.

Something funny I did last week that FORCED me into the gym was a checked-in to the gym on my Facebook and I wrote “I give permission for anyone to slap me if you do not see me check in to the gym 4 times this week” and I can promise you, THIS is the main reason I made sure I was at the gym 4 times. When I wrote that I had the days I was gonna go planned out but forgot I was going out of town. Well I had to make sure when I was out of town to get to the gym for check in #4. I really did feel accountable and worried that someone would have come up and slapped me 🙂

Last weeks Mini Goal Monday was about the difference between people who believe their goals will happen and people who have doubt their goals can happen. I later read an article that was amazing about it needing to be the right time to kick habits. If it’s not the right time, you won’t kick it and not only that you will continue to down yourself for not doing so. The article was called “Don’t Kick the Habit”  written by Lissa Rankin and it was featured on my ultimate favorite website The Daily Love. If you are a fan of my Facebook page you may have already read this, if not I suggest you do now.

Here is what she writes:

Don’t try to stop smoking. Don’t give up booze. Don’t throw out your pot. Don’t ditch the donuts.

While you’re at it, don’t join the gym.  Don’t try to meditate every day.  Don’t promise to get over your money issues. Don’t resolve to lose twenty pounds.

Don’t quit the job you hate. Don’t leave your deadbeat boyfriend.  Don’t try to be a better mother/ daughter/ friend. Don’t give up internet porn.

Don’t finish that novel. Don’t sign up for that art class. Don’t declutter your house. Don’t get out of debt.

When you make promises to yourself before you’re ready to make big change, you just prove to yourself what you’ve suspected all along – that you don’t have the willpower, you’re not trustworthy and you never follow through on your word.

You pay big bucks to Jenny Craig, but you never follow the program. You sign up for the art class, but you don’t start painting. You look at your computer, but you don’t write your novel. You look up 12 step programs but then you never go. You sign up for that green juice cleanse and then you never cleanse. You pay the $99 every month, but you don’t actually go to the gym. You make a budget but then you don’t follow it. You break up with your boyfriend and two days later, you sleep with him. You try to quit your job until they offer you a raise and you get sucked in again.

Every time you make a promise to yourself that you don’t keep, you feel like shit. And when you feel like shit, what do you do? You smoke that cigarette/ eat that ice cream/ start jonesing for that drug or that sex or your couch potato lifestyle. When you make promises to yourself that you don’t keep, you make the habit worse.

Instead, wait until you’ve decided it’s really time.

Draw the line in the sand.

Refuse to accept anything less than 100% recovery.

Know that this time, it’s for real. And mean it.

Trust that once you decide you’re really ready, it will be easy. You’ll break the habit in a blink. You’ll never look back.

But until you’re 1000% on board with your decision, don’t kick the habit. Give yourself permission to buy that pack of cigarettes or that bottle of wine or that blunt. Love yourself as you smoke or drink or get high. Love yourself as you lounge on the sofa and binge on potato chips. Love yourself as you overspend, overindulge, oversex, overgive, overprocrastinate. Cancel the gym membership. Drop out of the art class. Close your computer.  Get off the scale. Inhale all the way.

And love yourself just as you are, for every little flaw that makes you who you are, for better or for worse.

When you do, something magical will happen. At some point, when you least expect it, in the midst of this love-fest, a spark will catch fire. The flame will grow. The light will outshine the darkness. The darkness will no longer be able to resist the light.

When you love yourself so much, in spite of your imperfections, you will hit a point on some future day, and it will come when you least expect it. It won’t be a resolution or a promise or anything they make you do in rehab. It will come from within, and it will be easy – and it will be permanent.

One day, you will love yourself so much that you will decide you’re done with the habit, you’re ready to accomplish the goal, and the time is now.

It will happen effortlessly, and you will never look back.

If that time isn’t here yet, you will never succeed in quitting, no matter how much you try to convince yourself you want to quit. Your failure will be guaranteed, and then you will prove to yourself – once again – what a loser you are.

But you’re not a loser, my love. You just haven’t decided yet. And that’s okay. I forgive you, so please forgive yourself.

Until you decide the time is now, you might as well give yourself permission to enjoy that cigarette, to breathe it in, to breathe it out, and to throw your arms out as you do…

Is now the time?

Loving you just the way you are

I think this article is awesome is makes VERY good points. Everyone has their own time and the perfect time can only be figured out by them. If there is something in your life that you want to change, only you have the power to make it happen and if you are not ready, you will not change. So the power then lies in understanding yourself and knowing yourself enough to know when you are ready. In many people’s lives will come the turning point of when you face “Do I want to continue my life this way?” or “I want my life to be better, I deserve better”. For some people it can be when they are 14 years old for others it can be at 60 years old. Sadly for some it may never happen. This is your changing point and when you hit it, you will know it and you will go full force. So the question now becomes “ARE YOU READY?”

 

Mini Goals:
*Continue with my workout/eating regimen
*Do some itinerary planning for my trip to  New York next week
*Finish editing pictures from my mini sessions for clients to see by Sunday
*HAVE A GOOD WEEK!!! 

xoxo,

Mini-Goal Monday: Mindset

Here we are again at Monday. How did everyone’s goals go? I can tell you how mine went didn’t go. They did not go as planned at all…again! I started thinking about what is holding me back and it started becoming clear that it was my mindset. I can’t sit here and lie and say that my mindset is 100% focus on that I can complete my weight loss challenge. I mean I can count many times in the past in which I have said “This summer is going to be the summer”. I’m pretty sure it’s at least been the last 4… ever since I had my son. Then every summer passes me by and yet again I don’t meet my goals. I started thinking, maybe I’m just not THAT person that is meant to lose weight. Maybe only certain people have that motivation it takes to go to the gym all the time, eat healthy, stay fit. I am not one of those.

Could you see how having those thoughts in the back of my head could prevent me from ever reaching my goal. My mindset is that I am not worthy of the results that I want. If your beliefs determine your behavior then it is NO FAIL that I won’t meet me goals.

Last January I started a weight loss contest in which if I made it, I would have gotten $5,000. I didn’t have to “WIN” the contest I just had to lose 30lbs. I had even spent two weeks gaining 8lbs, which was oh-so-very FUN, just so I could have 30lbs to lose in the first place. I thought that money was a VERY good motivator in finally being able to reach the goal. The end date was Memorial Weekend which was perfect because it’s the kick-off to summer. So it’s not a coincidence that’s the same goal this year.

I started off great, lost 6lbs the first week. Of course probably part of the weight I had gained for fun but it still made me very excited. In the back of my head I was thinking though “This is just the extra weight, I’ll believe it when I get under 140lbs”, because this seemed to have been my stable weight since I had stopped playing sports. We had to send in a picture every sunday along with our current weight. At ANY time during the contest we could be asked for photo proof of our weight (picture of us standing on scale) and at ANY time we could be kicked out for not consistently losing weight. Yet another good motivator. Every week I was losing an average of 1.5lbs a week. One day I got to 137 and I couldn’t believe it. Literally. Then sirens were really starting to sound “Ok I’m probably not going to get less than this” . Since I had not been less than 140lbs for years, this belief was ruling my head. Discounting how hard I actually worked to lose the 18lbs I had just lost.  Guess what? After I reached 137lbs, I didn’t lose a single pound after that. I was going to the gym at 5 times a week and went down to 3 times. I had stopped counting my calories on my phone app. Basically whatever was working for me before, I had stopped. For three weeks I was the same weight. And then…. I got kicked out of the contest. After that it was over and I hadn’t lost weight since. I had actually went back up to the magical 140lbs and for the  most part I had stayed the same for a long time, which was REALLY good that I didn’t gain all 18lbs back but still again I was unable to reach my goal and discouraged for the rest of the summer year.

When you think back to any times where you goals were unmet, can you remember what your mindset was? Do you remember having doubt that you could fulfill it? Could you see how that doubt, even if FAR back in your brain, could determine your behavior?

All those people who are reaching their goals aren’t supernatural. The only difference between them and you is that they believe they can make it to the end. Their brains work in positive mode not doubtful or negative mode. This weekend someone told me, “Good things happen to good people” and although I agree with this, I believe good things happen to those that believe they will. There are plenty of good people who don’t have good things happen, and there are plenty of not-so-good people whom have good things happen to them. Now how long these good things last, we will leave up to Karma! This is the secret though people. You can create WHATEVER life you want if you have the correct mindset. The people who are reaching their goals and getting where they want in life believe this.

The real goal is to KNOW that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. My challenge to you is to pick one of the hardest things it has been for you to complete, mine is reaching my goal weight, and BELIEVE that you will get there. Commit to making it to the end, even if you have to extend it a bit, and GET THERE. I promise, if you can complete your hardest goal, your life will FOREVER change. Your motivation towards life and all things you want will increase because you will know that you can get it. There aren’t people out there that are more or less deserving then you, we ALL deserve the things we want in life. There is enough abundance in this world to make everyone happy. It is all in your mindset. If you KNOW you can have it, it’s simple….YOU WILL!!! When you catch yourself thinking or saying “It’s not going to happen”, STOP YOURSELF and say “YES IT WILL”

So what is your hardest goal to complete??

 

xoxo,

Mini Goal Monday: the SMART way

So last week , on top of my usual weight loss goals, I made quite a few goals to be held by today. I also had a lot going on last week and I also didn’t think clearly about them and how they were going to be achieved. This may not have been a smart way to make my goal planning. Key word “planning”. Goals should always be planned, even if they are mini in order to achieve them.

Here are some keys to making SMART goals:

The key one that I didn’t pay attention to last week was ATTAINABLE. I knew, even as I was writing them that weren’t ALL attainble considering my schedule. Knowing that ahead of time I was just setting myself up for failure. So as you get ready to set your Mini Goals this week do it the SMART way.

“This one step – choosing a goal and sticking to it – changes everything.” Scott Reed

So what are you goals this week?

Mini Goals
I have 4 more weeks to fit my fitness goals with 7 more lbs to lose. so this is about 1.75lbs a week. any slacking off from now could knock me off my MAIN goal so I gotta stay on top of it. Back to my weight loss goals for now because those are important to me.

*Workout video every morning this week at 7am M-F
*Gym monday 8pm, wed 8pm, fri 3:30pm, sunday hiking 9am
*No candy or junk food
*No eating after 8pm except protein shakes (with water) after gym.
*lose 2lbs this week

xoxo,

Mini Goal Monday: Keep Going

HAPPY MONDAY!!! I hope everyone had a fantastic week and weekend. Mine was very full and I am still tired so my post today is going to be short. Here we are at check-in once again, how did you do with meeting your mini goals? Mine went eh, I did pretty good at accomplishing them until the weekend hit. I went out of town and the goals I had set had this in mind but I did not commit to them as much as I needed to to lose the weight I wanted to. I don’t need to go into great detail but let’s say I didn’t meet ALL my goals and I did not lose 2lbs this week.

Now last week at check in I had met all my mini goals plus lost the weight I needed to do. Therefor I know my previous plans, when met, will get me to where I want to be. So as of now, as far as my weight loss and getting in shape goes, I have done all the steps in order to have a successful plan. Where I am lacking is the “doing” part of the plan. So really, it’s about re-evaluating how much I really want my bigger goal maybe going back to step one and building that deep desire for reaching it. This also brings me back to the topic of Integrity and doing what I need to do specifically because I said I would.

Now the only option I see from this point for me is to not fret about what I did not do last week but to instead focus more on what I need to do this week. The past is in the past and I can’t go back. I can only look forward.

Whatever your goals are I hope you are doing great. If not, keep going!!! Evaluate how you are using the 6 steps. So by now I think we all get the point of what my weight loss mini goals are for the next few weeks so I am not going to continuously state them on here. Right now I am going to make some new goals for this week.

Mini Goals:
* Have a successful blog
-write at least 3 posts this week (every other day) Monday, Wednesday, and Friday all before bed the previous night.
*Have a fun birthday party for my son
-Get invitations out to my son’s school friends on Tuesday morning regarding his birthday party
*Have good turn out for jewlery party at my house
-Get more invitations out to my friends tonight
*Run a successful photography business
-Finishing editing pictures from a photo shoot I did last week by Friday
-Send out Client CD and Print Tuesday Morning in mail
-Send client invoice today by 3:00pm and get her CD in mail Tuesday
*Be a good friend
-Call and catch up with two friends on the phone after work on Monday.
*Be Happy
-HAVE A GOOD DAY!

You can see I have other goals in my life so I briefly stated what they were and what I can do this week to work towards those bigger goals. Feel free to leave your “To-do” list below!!!

xoxo,

Mini Goal Monday: 6 Steps to Achieve Any Goal

I know I know, It’s not Monday any more. I tried to attempt my post yesterday but got so incredibly busy, not to mention sick, that I didn’t do it. BUT I am doing it today which matters right?

So how did everyone’s goals go? Are you getting better? staying the same? I would like to proudly say that I accomplished practically ALL of my goals last week. The only one I didn’t do was a work out video one of the mornings. I was so tired. I ended up losing 3lbs though which is very exciting.

I have 6 more weeks to meet my goal and since my scale was off for a bit without me knowing it, i still have ten more pounds. So I can just keep it at 10 pounds or i can break that down which is about 1.6 pounds a week which is VERY reasonable with good diet and exercise. I no longer have any extra space anymore to mess up without adding a ton to my weekly goals. THAT is the one thing that keeps me motivated. Let’s say next week I don’t lose any weight, well then the following week im gonna have to lose 3 lbs which is a little more hard and less exciting. Another thing that keeps me motivated is that I am in a bet with a friend. If I make my weight she owes me $100 towards a new outfit and if she makes her weight I owe her $100 towards a new outfit. So it’s a wash but we get new outfits out of it for our new bodies. Now I don’t want to end up having to owe her $100 without me getting my $100 too. Money is ALWAYS a good motivator. Esp when there is a chance I can not only make money but lose money. And then of course since the weather is getting hot now that bathing suit in my closet is always a good one too. And I can’t forget TIME. I always like to think about how TIME KEEPS MOVING WITH OR WITHOUT US. So summer is approaching and will be here regardless of me keeping my goal. I can choose to move forward with time or stay in place or even move backwards but no matter which direction i choose, summer is coming. And when it comes I will or will not have met my goal. The harder I work at achieving my goal the faster I will get there and the more time I will be able to enjoy having accomplished it. This summer I want to FINALLY say I made it versus it passing me by and waiting a whole other summer to have to SAME goal once again.

What do we need to do to keep goals? Especially goals that are typically hard for us to keep. I know not everyone’s goals are fitness goals but I know most of us have at least one goal that is typically hard to keep but we want to keep trying. Here are a few simple ways that can help you meet the goals you want.

1. DEEPLY DESIRE.
The number one starting point to any achievement is desire. You want to feel the fire in your heart for this goal. The bigger the fire the bigger the heat. You need to make a deep emotional connection to your goal and why it is important for you to carry out. When you are emotionally attached to something and it means more to you for deeper reasons then you can easily keep it in mind and it becomes alive and more than just words. You have to REALLY REALLY REALLY want it.

2. VISUALIZE ACHIEVING.
This is “the secret” right here. Where most of the power of the Law of Attraction stands. What does it look like when you accomplish your goal? How do you feel? One of the most amazing things about life is that your world is based on of your mindset. Change your mindset and you change your life. When you ACT AS IF, you create positive thought and feelings which in turn create positive actions. Vision boards can be very helpful because they are constant reminder of the things you want. Start with hanging just one picture of the thing you want.

3. MAKE A PLAN.
Every goal needs to start with a plan and action steps on how you will get there. Mini Goal Monday is one way I am trying to  help you create stepping-stones order to achieve the big goal you desire. Every goal no matter how big or small can be broken down to smaller attainable goals. This is actually crucial in goal planning and in reality makes it  A LOT easier too! While breaking down goals weekly, some even can and/or need to do it daily. Either way, always keep the end in mind.

4. WRITE IT DOWN.
 Lee Iacocca said, “The discipline of writing something down is the first step toward making it happen.” I agree which is why I have been doing Mini Goal Mondays in the first place. When you write your goal and the specifics on how you are going to get there, you immediately will feel a deeper sense of commitment to it.

5. GET SPECIFIC
I couldn’t be more serious about the importance of this one. When you get specific with your pathway to your goal you make your goal really clear. You start to make time in your schedule to make sure you get done the things you need to do. To get specific just continue to break down your goal smaller and smaller. Key questions to continue to ask are HOW and WHEN.  A classic example is again what I try to achieve with these posts.

I want to lose 10lbs in 6 weeks. How? by losing 1.5 per week. How? By working out at least 4 times this week. How? Going to the gym, doing work out videos, hike/walk, etc. When? gym on Mon, Wed, Fri. Workout videos Mon, Tues, Thurs, Sun. Hike on Sat. When? gym Mon/Wed-8pm, Fri-4pm, videos – 7am, hike Sat-9am. And there we have it, I now have my exercise built into my schedule to better make sure I make it happens. Of course I can do the same thing with how I am going to eat right as well. You get the point?

6. REVIEW YOUR PROGRESS
This is where support comes into play. I have these posts so I can check in regularly with everyone and review how I did the previous week. I also weigh myself once a week every Sunday morning to make sure I hit my weekly goal. {If you are losing weight I suggest you don’t weigh yourself more than once a week as we tend to fluctuate throughout, and the most accurate time of day is in morning, after you’ve emptied yourself, naked}. It’s important to have support whether it’s from a friend, family member, co-worker, coach, trainer etc.  I check in with my friend that I have to bet with so I can have someone physically to hold me accountable.

These 6 steps seem very simple yet they are very powerful when done. If your goals aren’t being met it is important to analyze why. Don’t push it under the rug. Review the 6 steps and figure out where you are falling short or where some things may need to be changed. Don’t give up! Assess how deeply you want to achieve your goal. If you want it bad enough, you will get there. Also there is a slight difference in trying to achieve a goal versus ending a habit. If you want to end a habit, you can follow these steps to an extent but there are slightly different steps. Maybe next week we’ll go over those.

Mini-Goal “Monday”:
*Workout videos Mon-Fri 7am
*Gym Wed-9pm, Thurs-8pm, Sat-10:30am
*Wake up at 7am Mon-Fri
*Lose 2lbs.

Start the steps by writing your mini goals in the comments below. dont forget to be specific. Good Luck!