Wise New Year Words From Dr. Wayne Dyer

Via Dr. Wayne Dyer’s Facebook Page:

Today is the dawn of the New Year. So you’re probably working on a list of things that you’d like to get done in 2015. Well, I’d like to ask you to forget about making these resolutions. Forget about deciding on the first day of January how you will be conducting your life in September, some nine months later. Any resolution that involves making decisions about future behaviors is a waste of time. It also reinforces the self-defeating notion of living in the future.

For 2015, wouldn’t you rather live in the present moment?

This day that you’re living right now is the only day you get. Period. You can resolve to be skinny when next July rolls around, or to quit smoking next month, or to write that book you’ve been meaning to, or to embark on your overdue exercise program by the end of this year. You can go about resolving until the cows come home, and you still have to live your life just like everyone else on the planet: One day at a time.

You can only live minute to minute. You can certainly use up your present moments thinking about what you’ll be doing in the future, but that doesn’t change the fact that you can only live in the now. The important question to be asking yourself is:

How am I going to live in the present moment this year?

Will I waste these moments reviewing the way I used to behave? Will I waste these moments reviewing how I would like to behave in the future rather than resolving to live each day to the fullest?

The New Year is a good time to initiate a plan so you can make some changes and help live your life to the fullest. See if you can practice thinking differently. Decide very specifically what it is that you would like to change about yourself in 2015. If you have some goals in mind, vow to work on them day by day rather than making them a year-long project.

When you set up day-to-day goals for yourself, you can begin living this way for the rest of your life. Remember this little piece of advice, which will be extremely helpful to you if you can incorporate it into your life: When you go for one entire day without eating sugar (or not smoking, or being assertive, or any other new behavior), you are a totally different person at the end of that day. What you must learn to do is let that totally different person decide on the second day whether to do it again on this new day, rather than letting the same old person decide today that it is going to be difficult in a couple of days anyhow, so what’s the use. Always let the New You make the decision, and then you’ll be living your present moments.

Remember, you are in control of all thoughts in your head. When you are using up your present moments to worry about the future, constantly reviewing the past to come up with how you should have done it differently, or contemplating disaster, remind yourself that you are wasting this particular present moment.

Practice cancelling out negative thoughts for a few minutes at a time. Vow to enjoy the next five minutes regardless of what has previously transpired or what you think is about to happen. Remind yourself of the folly of wasting your present moments on mental activity that focuses exclusively on your past or imagined future. All of your thoughts about what you should have done, or how terrible things were in the past will not change one tiny slice of the past.

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As you celebrate this New Year and each precious present moment, here are 10 reminders to help you live in the Now:

1. Remember that habits are changed by practicing new behavior. By practicing new thinking every five minutes, you’ll soon begin to master the art of present-moment living.
2. Do an honest assessment of your “problems.” You’ll very likely discover that almost all of your problems are really in your head and not located in reality.
3. Take time to be mindful of everything around you. Begin to look at your entire surroundings in a new light. Observe every detail on every face, every building and every object. If you do this often enough it will become a habit that will facilitate your being alive in every moment of the year.
4. Change your attitude. Begin an attitude-redevelopment plan. That means practice enjoying everything you do.
5. Be specific about what you want and take action. Decide on one thing that you would like to work on and do it today. Work at it daily, rather than making it a long-range objective.
6. Create a self-improvement agenda for yourself. Put on your agenda whatever activities you’ve always thought about but never had time to do. Do them now.
7. Rid yourself of mundane chores that are not really that important. Spend more time making your life a pleasure.
8. Eliminate procrastination as a lifestyle. Instead of talking to yourself about what you are going to do next week or even tomorrow, use this time to start a new task.
9. Don’t give up control of your life to others. You cannot enjoy the present moment if you are busy trying to make everyone else like you. People respect you more when you operate from a position of strength and self-reliance.
10. Feel good about yourself. You are a magnificent human being. Always feel good about that self that you are always with.

For 2015, as I have for many other years, I vow to be fully alive and see the world the way Walt Whitman described it to be many years ago: “To me…every cubic inch of space is a miracle.” I really believe that.

I wish you a New Year filled with many miracles. May you live a long and productive life—one present moment at a time.

Love,
I AM,
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

The Golden Buddha Within

The last chapter of May Cause Miracles started with a beautiful story about a Golden Buddha. I thought it was worth sharing: images

In 1957, a group  of Tibetan monks was informed that they would have to move their sacred shrine because a highway was being built on that land. A focal point of their inhabitance was a huge clay Buddha, which also had to be relocated. Moving the Buddha was no small feat. The monks arranged to have a crane move the Buddha to their new location. The moment they started lifting the Buddha on the crane, the clay began to crack. To make matters worse, rain was pattering down, deepening and widening the cracks. To protect the Buddha from further damage after it had been moved, the monks covered it with tarps overnight. During the evening, the head monk went under the tarps with a flashlight to check on the clay Buddha. Upon shining light on the Buddha the monk noticed golden shimmers of light radiating from the cracks. He brought back his chisel and hammer to chip away at the clay and uncover the shimmer from within the Buddha’s frame. As the monk chipped away at the clay Buddha, he realized that it was not clay after all– the Buddha was made of gold. Surprised by his discovery, the monks were eager to determine the heritage of the Buddha. They learned that many centuries earlier, their predecessors worshiped the Buddha in its golden form. These ancestral monks got word that the Burmese army was coming to destroy their community and attack them, so they covered the Buddha in clay to protect it. The monks were killed in the attack, but the army placed no value on the clay Buddha and therefor left it unharmed.

reason for this story… “Inside we are all Golden Buddha’s, but we grew to believe we were made of clay. Our ego’s false perceptions led us to grow into a belief system that covered our inner light. We’ve spent years, maybe decades, masking our truth. Now it’s time to embrace our light and reconnect with our Golden Buddha within.” – Gabrielle Bernstein

 

xoxo,

barista

May Cause Miracles: Week 6 Part 2

imagesCAQRU0YXI know its been a little while since I wrote my last May Cause Miracles post. I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to work on following through. I have noticed that when something is coming to an end, procrastination sets in big time and it takes me forever to actually finish, if at all. This happens a lot especially when reading books.

Day 39 was about Gratitude to the World. My favorite quote from this chapter is “when you stop trying to make the world serve you, then you can serve the world”.  Gratitude is very important in these processes because it becomes very easy to focus on the negative things around you versus the good things you are thankful for. “I am grateful for my new perceptions  of the world”.

For this evening exercise I had to write a gratitude letter to someone who has greatly affected my life. “By charing your gratitude with others, you inspire them to carry on their sacred path. Shining light on the accomplishments of others brings more light to the world”.

My letter was to my fiance, Justin. I can admit, and I’m sure he could tell you, I don’t do enough focusing on the great things he does for our relationships. So I wanted to take the opportunity to do so. I wasn’t going to share it, but here goes (also will be his first time reading):

Dear Justin,
I just wanted to let you know because I don’t express it enough….Thank You! Thank you for loving me. For always thinking of me. For being thoughtful and always there. For listening to the things I like and love and showing up. For always planning amazing stuff and surprising me. Even though I don’t like surprises I appreciate the effort behind them. For keeping a spark alive even when I don’t give back like I should. Thank you for loving me even when I’m crazy, when I wake up with wild hair, and can be annoying. Thank you for even the hard times because it’s those moments that are making me grow. Forcing me to grow even though you may not realize it. Sometimes I don’t realize it either. I know I don’t always give back in the same ways you give to me but I want you to know I do notice it, and I DO appreciate it. I love you for being that guy. I’m trying and focusing on being the best I can be so in return I can be the best for the relationship. Thank you for the patience. I love you!
Love, Ashley

After gratitude day comes the day for forgiveness. Forgiveness is always huge because it allows you to let go of things that can hindering the possibility to effectively move forward. It’s a huge cause of fear and leads to resistance when it comes to choosing the love path.

“I forgive the false projections I have placed on the world” was the affirmation for Day 40. On this evening I had to write another letter, this time one of forgiveness to a person or organization I have been resenting. It’s interesting because my letters of gratitude and forgiveness were to the same person. This one is a little more personal to both parties involved so I will not be sharing it, but it was a little enlightening to write the things I had held on to. To look at how those fears have held me back.

The biggest thing was to choose to see love instead of the false projections. The false projections are the surface of the behaviors I was resenting whereas love is what’s deeper inside. The truth I know is there and was empowering to commit to see the truth versus the fears. Something I have to continue to remind myself, especially when shit seems to hit the fan 🙂

The book is a “40 day” guidebook but to complete the week there is actually 42 days. Day 41 is about fully taking in that I AM A MIRACLE WORKER! “I am here to be truly helpful”. It’s all about remembering that this is what we are here for. Gabrielle stated that one of her resolutions was to measure her success by how much fun she is having. I was then to look at the areas we focused on in the book and see how I could inject more fun into those areas.

Here are some of the questions that were asked. Take a look and see how you can apply these to your life.

Self Love: In what ways can I have more fun on my own in my everyday life?

Miracle of the Body: How can I enjoy he process of physical activity? What innovative and challenging workouts can I try? How can I enjoy the process of eating healthy foods?

Holy Relationships: How can I bring more fun into my relationships? What thoughts, conversations, actions, activities can I bring into all of my relationships?

Miracle of Abundance: How can I bring more fun into my career or place of work? Hoe can I have fun while I am creating abundance?

Miracle Worker of the World: How can I bring more fun into the world?

As Gabrielle suggests, challenge yourself into incorporating more fun into each of these areas of life every month. “If you intend to have fun, you will have a fun life”.

Wrapping up Day 42….THE LAST DAY!!! I will share this last day as well as some insight from the final chapter, in a later post. Although I am done with my 42 days of practice, the real work has only begun!!!

I would love to know if you have been reading May Cause Miracles though as well as your experiences if so. Feel free to share in the comments below.

xoxo,

 barista

 

If you have not picked up the book yet, Gabby will be having a 6-week ONLINE course for May Cause Miracles. It focuses directly on the book and provides you with guidance as you read along. There will be videos and audio versions as well as her guided mediations. It’s an awesome way to experience the book. Check out and sign up HERE

FREE Virtual Conference With Gabrielle Bernstein

AWESOME NEWS FOLKS:

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Join us for the May Cause Miracles Virtual Conference March 25-29, 2013!

In this free online conference, based on her best-selling book, Gabrielle will be bringing together 20+ miracles workers including Marie Forleo, Kris Carr, Danielle LaPorte,  Mastin Kipp, Nick Ortner and many others who will share about releasing fear and allowing gratitude, forgiveness, and love to flow. All of which, ultimately, lead to breathtaking lives of abundance, acceptance, appreciation, and happiness.

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I hope you will join us in getting honest about fear – letting it go – and moving into gratitude, forgiveness, love and your happiest life!

xoxo,

barista

May Cause Miracles: Week 1 Part 2

So it’s Tuesday and I’m starting Day 8. Yay, I made it through week 1. Usually Day 8 would have started yesterday but I was so out of it I could barely concentrate all day. I got home from Bali and was still trying to catch up time wise. I want to be able to put my energy into becoming aware and causing miracles so I gave myself a break.

Summary of the end of last week. I loved it. I love this book. Crazy enough I loved witnessing my fears. To me the opposite to Love is Fear so if I want to start living out of Love, I first have to learn how to get Fear to move its big booty over. I can not do that if I don’t take the time to recognize how fear is working in my life and I think the subtle steps in week 1 did a great job at helping do that.

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Day 4 was particularly my favorite because it was about Gratitude. “Gratitude is my only attitude for today“. Being grateful for the experiences I go through, the things around me, what I have, and even my fears have freed a whirlwind of paralyzing emotions. As human, we often tend to place focus on our lack of, which can cause fear and anxiety. When we shift and start to focus on what we have and become grateful for that, we let go of the fear and anxiety and welcome the abundances of the universe.

Day 4 Gratitude List:
1. Being able to experience this book
2. Waking up in magical Bali
3. The sounds of nature as I wake up in the morning
4. The black butterflies I keep seeing everywhere
5. My thoughtful fiance
6. Skype and being able to talk and see my son while I’m away
7. Being able to take a vacation
8. My blog – readers and followers
9. The pictures I have taken of this beautiful city
10. The opportunity to create peace through meditation.

and the list could go on an on. On Tuesday and Wednesday we actually were in a seminar about the Law of Attraction and each day we had to fill out a gratitude sheet with 50 things we are grateful for. It was amusing how on the second day things started coming to mind more quickly and any and everything was on the lists. That’s the glory of it. The more often you practice being grateful, the easier it gets and the more you become grateful for. You then move through the day LOVING your life.

The part of Day 4 that made me really enjoy it was figuring out how to be grateful for my fears. I had to go back to Day 1 and read some of my fears and write ways in which I am grateful for them.

“I fear that I’m not there enough or won’t be there for my son”
– I am grateful for this fear because it has made me more attentive to the NOW. I have become aware of the time I have and how  I will choose to spend time with my son, love him, play with him, laugh with him.

I fear that I won’t live the life that I dream”
– I am grateful for this fear because I know that if I want to live the life I dream I have to start taking the steps towards that life. I will start to focus more on my goals and acting appropriately in able to get closer.

Our fears can guide us towards being a victim or can guide us through seeking opportunity. Through opportunity we can GROW and LEARN.

Day 5 was all about the F-word…. FORGIVE. This is a day I know I will be continuously working on. If you do not know any better, it can be really hard to forgive. It is vital for our well-being though. It means you are choosing to move forward in your life. When you hold onto things it keeps you bound to that moment and can block all kinds of love from entering your heart. Most people think that forgiving means that they are excusing a behavior, but in fact it just means you have found your peace with it and won’t allow it to continue to lead your life. The most important person to forgive is yourself. “I forgive myself for choosing fear. Today I will choose love instead”.

Its time to let myself off the hook. It ‘s time to realize that before I didn’t know any better but to allow fear rule my world. Now I am learning and it’s OK. All the choices of my past. It’s OK. Such a relief to know ITS OK. The evening exercise for this day was to replace my fearful thoughts with the knowledge that fear does me no good.

I fear that I am not good enough” – THIS FEAR IS NOT SERVING ME. I FORGIVE THIS FEAR AND CHOOSE LOVE INSTEAD.

On Day 6 the affirmation of the day was “I believe in Miracles”. This day is about using the experiences I’ve had throughout the week into actively witnessing miracles take place. A miracle is a moment in which you choose love over fear. After working 5 days witnessing my fears and opening up to loving ideas, it’s time to notice how it can work for me. I can say that I have definitely witnessed some miracles on the way. On this day particular, one I remember is when we went to the Bali Zoo and decided to do a treetop adventure. I am afraid of heights but for some reason I wanted to experience this adventure. It had to do with all kinds of obstacles that were very high up in the trees. Zip lining, climbing up and down ropes, walking on crazy brides, on tightrope etc. Lets just say fear jumped all over this opportunity. I found myself very scared in many situations throughout this adventure but also found myself choosing love instead. THAT’S A MIRACLE! I chose to push my fears aside (I’ll admit sometimes I had to be pushed off the ledge….literally), breath, and welcome in a loving thought. The best past was that it seemed automatic. Miracles DO happen!

The week ended with Day 7 allowing me to reflect on the weeks work. It’s awesome to have a day where I can just reflect on what has happened to me and the shifts that have taken place. I even took an extra day to do so.

I am so excited for week 2 to begin. SELF LOVE week. A week I truly truly need.

catch up with you soon.

xoxo,

barista