Good Deed Sunday: 1/26/14 (Late Post)

Ok so during a previous week, I had a good deed of sending friends a Thank You note for being a good friend and it was awesome because this last week, everyone at separate times were sending me pictures of the little “love notes” I sent in the card and telling me how it was a pleasant surprise or how they needed it at that moment. So it felt really good to make some of my friends feel special.

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“Thank You for this. Things have been pretty hectic around here. I needed this!”

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“Super Cute!!! Thank You”

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“Amazing friends make my world go round. Thank You [Ashley]  for being you”

Let’s catch up for this last week and you can also see what the mystery deed was (I know it’s been killing you to know).

1/19/14: TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU LOVE THEM and appreciate them: 
As easy as this one is, or seems, it was a little strange for me to just do it out of the blue over the phone. I mean I’ve gotten into the habit of saying I say I Love You frequently to my parents but for some reason to, what would seem like random, to tell them I appreciate them felt more….(gasp) vulnerable. I haven’t always been in a place of being comfortable sharing feelings with my parents while I was growing up so I’m learning it still has somewhat of a hold on me now. Also I think with this day and age and having texting and messaging and that sort of stuff, I think society has a harder time sharing their feelings face to face or voice to voice. I didn’t want to pass on this good deed so I still completed it, and as much as I wanted to do it over the phone (because my parents don’t live close enough for me to see them), I was feeling too vulnerable in the moment, so I did it through a text message. Both parents replied and I could tell were grateful to hear that from me.

1/20/14: MYSTERY DEED aka SEND A FRIEND A BELOVED BOOK from your shelf:
The reason I picked this as a mystery deed is because this is the type of deed I like to be a surprise. I didn’t want any friends to EXPECT anything and like the element of surprising someone and them receiving something unexpected. This particular deed, one of my friends was mentioning a book she thought she should read because it kept appearing in her path and it was a book I have. I had not read it yet and knowing that I wasn’t going to have time any time soon, I sent the book for her to read. She doesn’t check her mail frequently so I don’t think she’s seen it yet, but I’m sure after this post she’ll go home and check tonight 🙂

1/21/14: HUG YOUR CHILD for no reason at all: 
This one is super easy because I hug my child all the time. He’s 5 so he’s constantly getting smothered in kisses and hugs from me. I thought this might be an interesting one for parents with older children because it might be something they don’t do as often, making it a pleasant surprise for their child. If you are a parent of an older child and you completed this deed, or want to complete it, share your experience in the comments below.

1/22/14: bake your favorite kind of cookies and SHARE: 
This is a deed I did not get a chance to do this week. I had no time the previous night to bake cookies so my plan was to bake them on this night and share them with my co-workers the following day and when I was going to make them, I didn’t have any eggs. I literally haven’t even gone to the grocery store since. 😦 I’m going tonight though, so I’ll make sure I pick up some eggs.

1/23/14: MEDITATE for ten minutes:
I have to admit, this one I did not remember to do. I was going to do it at lunch but then had errands to run so decided to do it at bedtime and forgot. 😦

1/24/14: BUY A COFFEE for the person behind you in line:
This one was fun because I don’t drink coffee and I rarely end up in a coffee shop. So on this day I deliberately went to Starbucks just to carry out this deed. I did not order a coffee for myself, I instead bought some food so I could quickly slip out before the person behind me knew they were getting their coffee paid for. The funny thing is, there was a really long line when I went in but no one was coming in after me. I was laughing in my head thinking “of course this happens”. When I was paying for my food, two people walked in. I gave the cashier a $20 and as she was going to give me my $15 change I told her to keep $10 and pay for the next one or two coffees behind me. As I was walking out I heard her say, “Oh she’s paying for your drink”. I didn’t turn around I just kept walking. It was kind of awesome to feel like some sort of mysterious deed lady haha.

1/25/14: TELL A STRANGER HIS/HER CHILD IS BEAUTIFUL: 
I had a lot of opportunity for this one this day because not only did I go to a child’s birthday party, but my son also had a basketball game. I told one of the mom’s at the birthday party that her daughter was beautiful. I’m sure she’s heard it before because her daughter was just so adorable, but as a parent I know it’s still feels nice when people say that.

1/26/14: BE HAPPY FOR SOMEONE and tell her.
I accidentally picked 8 deeds last week instead of 7 but being that I am late on this post it’s good that I had previously picked this for yesterday and it was already shared with everyone. I went to my fiance’s cousin’s girlfriends (you got that?) baby shower yesterday. It was so nice and beautiful. We are both pregnant and only 4 weeks apart from each other. It’s cool because the babies are cousins and will be close in age. By the end of the shower, I couldn’t remember if I had specifically told her I was happy for her so just in case, I wrote it again on her Facebook to let her know how excited and happy I am for both and I can’t wait to meet the little one.

So as January is coming to an end, I have officially completed 20 of 26 deeds that I have picked. Sometimes things happen or I won’t get the opportunity to do it on the specific day I was meaning to. For that, I want to at least try to have “make up” days before the end of that month. So this week I will be doubling up with new deeds as well as some that I have missed from the previous weeks.

The new deeds this week are:

1/27/14: SAY GOOD MORNING TO YOUR CO-WORKERS

1/28/14: ***MYSTERY DEED***

1/29/14: DO A LITTLE DANCE AND BE SILLY

1/30/14: LEAVE SOME HOMEMADE COOKIES AT YOUR NEIGHBORS DOOR

1/31/14: GIVE YOURSELF  A PEP TALK

2/1/14: LET ANOTHER CAR TAKE THAT PARKING SPOT, smile and wave

“Make Up Deeds”:
* Walk around your block and PICK UP TRASH”
*BE MINDFUL of saying “Please”, “Thank You”, and “You’re Welcome” (I halfway completed but wasn’t very mindful and could do better)
*WRITE A POSTCARD TO A LONG LOST FRIEND
*BE QUICK TO APOLOGIZE
*bake your favorite cookies and SHARE
*MEDITATE FOR TEN MINUTES

Can’t wait to see how this week goes and if you’ve been following along or would like to I would love to hear from you in the comments section below

xoxo,

barista

Good Deed Sunday: 1/19/14

Another week down of Good Deed’s accomplished. Yay! Let’s see how this last week went

1/12/14 BE MINDFUL of saying “Please” and “Thank You” and “You’re Welcome” – all day long
I kind of butchered this one because I wasn’t particularly mindful about it for the day. I know I say Thank You a lot, I try to make sure of it to show my appreciation for others effort and work, so I’m not doubting I didn’t say that throughout the day but I’m not so sure I was very mindful with the “Please” and “You’re Welcome”. I have a habit of saying “No Problem” when people say Thank You to me so I’m going to continue to work on the “You’re Welcome”. And also saying Please more often.

1/13/14: start a list of books you’d like to READ FOR FUN:
My for fun books are very similar to books I now have to read for school. Some sort of Self-Growth type of book is what I usually lean towards. I love expanding my knowledge and interest in the area. I rarely read many other types of books when I do read like fiction and such so if you have any suggestions, I would love to hear. It’s nice to read other types of books too. I have a list of books I need to finish reading as well as one’s I want to start. With school, I have so much reading, we read about 4 or so books at a time, so I’m not sure when I’ll get to the for fun list but I’m glad I now have one.

Books I want to finish reading:
*The Liar in Your Life – The Way to Truthful Relationships by:Robert Feldman
*Add More ING to Your Life by: Gabrielle Bernstein
*The Power of Intention by: Wayne Dyer
*Wishes Fulfilled – Mastering the Art of Manifesting by: Wayne Dyer (one I had for class that I didn’t finish)
*Love Lust and Faking It by: Jenny McCarthy

Books I want to start reading:
* A Course in Miracles by: Foundation for Inner Peace
* The Untethered Soul – The Journey Beyond Yourself by: Michael Singer
* Daring Greatly – How The Courage to Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead  by: Brene Brown (only read the first couple pages)
* The Four Agreements – A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by: Don Miguel Ruiz
* Daily Love – Lessons Learned on a Journey from Crisis to Grace by: Mastin Kipp (released Sept 2014)

1/14/14: EAT YOUR NEXT MEAL IN SILENCE (and away from a computer):
On this day I didn’t have too long of a lunch break but I ate my lunch in my car in silence. I’ll admit I had to fight the urge to pick up and check my cell phone. It’s interesting noticing that urge when you are specifically trying not to do so

1/15/14: STRIKE UP A CONVERSATION with a person at the cash register:
I completed this goal with the person at Trader Joes while I was doing my grocery shopping. I’ve always thought it could be somewhat awkward when you’re just standing there waiting and no one is really talking so it was nice to have a conversation.

1/16/14: BE QUICK TO APOLOGIZE:
Super Fail at this one. Again, was not too mindful of the deed this day until the day was over. Even got into a few small arguments this day that probably could have settled faster had I been mindful of this Good Deed for the day. I tell ya, that need to “BE RIGHT” is a kicker. It’s got a strong hold on me. I will need practice this deed more often.

wpid-20140117_154458.jpg1/17/14: SEND A FRIEND A THANK YOU NOTE for being a good friend: 
So far this has been one of my favorites. I’ve stood in the stationary section at Target so many times wanting to get cute Thank You cards so this was an awesome reason to be able to do that. I love the cards I got and instead of sending a card to ONE friend, I sent cards to 10 friends. I also found these cute little “LOVE NOTES” that i included in each card. Kind of like a fortune cookie, you have to tear open each note to reveal a cute saying inside about love. Part of me wanted to open each note and read it but I left that to my friends.

1/18/14: WRITE A POSTCARD TO A LONG LOST FRIEND:
This one was a little difficult yesterday because I could not find a postcard. BUT I did get a long lost friends address and will continue looking for a postcard today to send. If I can’t find a postcard, I’ll try to at least send a small card or note.

now on to the deeds for this week:

1/19/14: TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU LOVE THEM and appreciate them

1/20/14: ***MYSTERY DEED***

1/21/14: HUG YOUR CHILD FOR NO REASON AT ALL

1/22/14: bake your favorite kind of cookies and SHARE.

1/23/14: MEDITATE FOR TEN MINUTES

1/24/14: BUY A COFFEE for the person behind you in line

1/25/14: TELL A STRANGER HIS/HER CHILD IS BEAUTIFUL

1/26/14: BE HAPPY FOR SOMEBODY and tell her

***I’ve realized that some of the deeds I would like to complete without giving away what it’s going to be. Some deeds are more fun for both parties if no one expects it coming. So in the event there is a deed like this, you will see MYSTERY DEED, and I will let you know the deed during the following Sunday***

If you have followed along, I would love to know how the deeds have gone for you in the comments below. Or If you would like to follow along, keep me updated.

Don’t forget to follow my FACEBOOK PAGE so you can get a daily reminder of each deed.

xoxo,

barista

May Cause Miracles: Week 1 Part 1

gabrielle-bernstein-may-cause-miraclesI am so excited I got Gabrielle Bernsteins new book, “May Cause Miracles: A 40 Day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change and Unlimted Happiness” and I’m so excited to get through it. I’ve wanted to try a book like this that with some sort of challenge everyday so it’s awesome to finally have one. When I went to her seminar back in October 2012 she was mentioning her new book and it finally came out this January.

I’m going into day 4 and so far I am super pumped. I even started a small book club with some of my close friends so we can experience it together. I was afraid to begin this journey while in Bali but at the same time I was thinking “WHY WAIT?”. Being on vacation is just an excuse. If I want change and happiness I have to START NOW. I have to  make it a priority in my life. I have to put my happiness FIRST. During the 40 days plenty of excuses will come up. The weekend, a holiday, a friend’s birthday, I’m tired, I don’t have time, I’m busy. If I let all those excuses get in the way not only am I slowing down the time it’ll take for me to see this radical change but it shows me just how important this change really is to me. It’s SUPER important therefore I put it first and being in Bali doesn’t change that.  I read my days work the FIRST thing in the morning,  carry my journal with me throughout the day to take notes, and I end my reading for the specific day and do my meditation and journal before bed.

One of the reasons I love the book is because it’s SO simple. Each day is only like 4 pages long. Half of it is assignments to do at the beginning of the day with some ideas to be aware of throughout your day and the other half is an evening exercise to do before bed. If you are determined to try something new and make change in your life, it is very easy to dedicate your time to this book.

The first week is all about recognizing your fears and how they set roadblocks in your life. I like this week so far because it’s interesting to notice how many fearful thoughts I have throughout the day. Affirmation of Day 1 was “I am willing to witness my fear”

Some of the fears that went through my head on Day 1:

*If I speak up at work they will talk behind my back
*I’m not a good parent
*I’m overeating, I’m gonna be judged
*I don’t look pretty enough
*My hair is going to keep getting thinner
*I’m addicted to the computer
*I can’t fulfill his needs
*IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH!

I realized my fears are triggered when I am at work, when I’m at home with my family, when I argue with my boyfriend, when I see people I know, when I’m shopping. When I am in fear I feel anxious, sad, regretful, unfulfilled, unhappy. My fear affects my behavior because it makes me not want to do certain things. Sometimes I feel like I want to quit or run away. I start to feel tired or lazy and I tend to gossip or pull away. I also feel guilty or angry at myself. I mean can you see how fear can be immobilizing?

Considering the situations that trigger my fear, I live with these fears constantly everyday so you couldimagine how this has an effect on my day-to-day life. Most people don’t take the correct amount of time and mindfulness to actually notice this in their lives and when having fearful thoughts like these day-to-day, we tend to feel that’s it’s normal because it’s what we are constantly dealing with.

Day 2 had to do with noticing your fears but using the affirmation of “I Am Willing To See Love Instead”. I liked this one because when I would catch myself in a fearful thought I would stop and repeat this phrase and I wouldn’t allow myself to go further. Is my life “changed” yet? No, but its all about being mindful so that is my intention thus far. My intention is to think about the current affirmation throughout the day and that’s it. I believe with adding these up day by day it will create the bigger picture.

Day 3 was about choosing a new perspective. I had to write a letter to myself about being committed to change and transforming my fears into love. I had to put it in a place I would see everyday to remind me of my intentions. My true intentions are to create a happier life (there is always room for more happiness) and I want to dedicate my time to doing something different then what I’ve done in the past and see how it works for me. Affirmation of the day, “Love Did Not Create This”. Recognizing your fears and actively choosing a new perspective. The reason we want to be mindful is so it can  become easier to be responsible in the choices we make. We have become so used to fearful negative thoughts that they are automatic and habit. Not only that, its easy to place blame on something or someone else which in turn takes away the power we have over the fear. This day was about purposely CHOOSING something different.

Being in Bali I am 16 hours ahead of my friends in the United States which is half a day but I decided to work on their time so it doesn’t mess me up when I come home. Day 4 is all about Gratitude. Sunday will be the end of WEEK 1, I’ll get back to you in a couple of days and let you know how I’m feeling after this week.

If you are up to try something new, I definitely recommend this book. I would love to witness your changes and experiences. I’m excited to share mine with you!

xoxo,

barista