May Cause Miracles: Final Review

As promised, here is the final review of May Cause Miracles. I will admit after I finished with day 42, I put the book down until yesterday. I think I mentioned in the last post how I am realizing that I have a hard time finishing stuff. Especially books. I have this tendency to ALMOST finish but many times never quite getting there. I’m curious as to why. Maybe I have a problem with things ending?!?! hmmmm something to look into.

Ironically, one of the first things the book says after Day 42, aside from the story of  the Golden Buddha (which I actually suggest you read first), is  one of two things that typically happens upon finishing the assignments.

1.  You become so inspired by the work that you commit to these principles in all of your affairs, deepening your spiritual practice more and more each day

2. You feel great and therefore conclude that the work is over. Within a few weeks (maybe even days), the ego convinces you that you’re healed and no longer need the daily practice. You lose sight of your miracle mindset.

What’s interesting is that as I just wrote that, I realized that one of these two options can be common for people during any process of changing bad habits. When spending a long period of time used to one way of life, and then trying to change for the better, your ego can go through a rough time and it will do what it needs to do to make sure you aren’t ignoring it for too long. Even if it is making you feel great for your progress convincing you that everything is fine, like in example #2. It’s like a sneaky little ghost, because over time, if you don’t continue your practice, the ego WILL sneak  its way back in convincing you that it knows best. It’s like when people who lose a lot of weight, they are told they have to continue their healthy practices to keep the weight off otherwise it can be easy to gain it all back.

I think the difference between success and failure (for lack of better words) is the difference between #1 and #2. When you find something that works for you in a positive way I think it is highly imperative to actively continue your practices. Humans are creatures of habit, habit is built by consistent repetitive behaviors. I’ve heard the average time it takes to form a new habit is around 60 days and that’s with daily repetition, but to KEEP that habit has to become a lifestyle.

I could already see myself slipping into #2 right after Day 42. I mean it took me a few weeks to even finish the book. I want to work on #1 and keeping everything I have  learned in mind so I can continue to practice choosing love over fear. I can admit, over the years, choosing fear has become the easy thing to do. Going the route of #2 is the EASY thing to do. Sticking to #1 takes effort and practice. Moment by moment we have choices to make. I’m ready!

If you have noticed, each week there were 7 basic principles to practice when learning how to choose love over fear. Witness Fear, Willing to choose Love, Shift perspective, Foster Gratitude, Practice Forgiveness, Expect Miracles, Reflect. Gabrielle puts the story of the Golden Buddha at the end because like in the story, we need tools to uncover our light within.

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“Cracking open to your golden light is one thing, but nurturing your glow is another”. Here are 8 ways Gabrielle’s suggests to KEEP your light shining bright:

1. Be Patient “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety” – (A Course In Miracles)

2. Seek to Find Joy In A Joyless Place “It’s easy to be committed  to love when everything is going great in our lives…It’s entirely different to be committed to love in the midst of the dark periods”.

3. Look At The Problem So It Can Be Solved “Upon recognizing each of our problems as assignments to grow, we can be guided to perceive them differently…Accepting this truth will help you honor all of your life’s experiences, the good and the bad”.

4. Don’t Obey the Ego’s Interpretation of Fear“Acknowledging your ego’s fear is much different from believing in it”.

5. Let Go of External PerceptionsYour external experiences doesn’t dictate your internal experience…Your happiness doesn’t rely on something outside of yourself.”

6. Deny the Ego’s Interpretation of the World – “Witness the ego in action but remember that the false perceptions are not your truth.”

7. Be Mindful Not to Make Your Practice Special – “There can be a tendency to make yourself special for choosing love…that specialness creates more seperation…be mindful”.

8. Learn the Happy Lessons of Forgiveness“Through forgiveness you will be released…Accept each encounter as an assignment and you will be released from the ego’s story”.

We all have fearful thoughts, we all can feel controlled by these  fearful thoughts from time to time, therefore I think this book can be a great read for anyone. Even if you consider yourself to be a mostly happy person, there’s always room for more happiness. May Cause Miracles takes a very subtle approach to recognizing your everyday thoughts and strengthening your power to CHOOSE love every time.

Whether you are trying to lose weight, stop an addiction, change your attitude, strengthen relationships, Following your dreams, etc… It all involves learning how to choose loving thoughts over fearful ones. Fear halts your life, while Love moves you forward.

You can read my progress throughout May Cause Miracles by clicking on the links below:
Week 1: Here and Here
Week 2: Here and Here
Week 3: Here
Week 4: Here
Week 5: Here and Here
Week 6: Here and Here

Think about any changes you are going through…how can what you’ve read above help you in your practice? Feel free to leave a comment below.

xoxo,

barista

Don’t forget Gabrielle has a 6-week live online course for May Cause Miracles starting starting soon. For more info and to sign up CLICK HERE

The Golden Buddha Within

The last chapter of May Cause Miracles started with a beautiful story about a Golden Buddha. I thought it was worth sharing: images

In 1957, a group  of Tibetan monks was informed that they would have to move their sacred shrine because a highway was being built on that land. A focal point of their inhabitance was a huge clay Buddha, which also had to be relocated. Moving the Buddha was no small feat. The monks arranged to have a crane move the Buddha to their new location. The moment they started lifting the Buddha on the crane, the clay began to crack. To make matters worse, rain was pattering down, deepening and widening the cracks. To protect the Buddha from further damage after it had been moved, the monks covered it with tarps overnight. During the evening, the head monk went under the tarps with a flashlight to check on the clay Buddha. Upon shining light on the Buddha the monk noticed golden shimmers of light radiating from the cracks. He brought back his chisel and hammer to chip away at the clay and uncover the shimmer from within the Buddha’s frame. As the monk chipped away at the clay Buddha, he realized that it was not clay after all– the Buddha was made of gold. Surprised by his discovery, the monks were eager to determine the heritage of the Buddha. They learned that many centuries earlier, their predecessors worshiped the Buddha in its golden form. These ancestral monks got word that the Burmese army was coming to destroy their community and attack them, so they covered the Buddha in clay to protect it. The monks were killed in the attack, but the army placed no value on the clay Buddha and therefor left it unharmed.

reason for this story… “Inside we are all Golden Buddha’s, but we grew to believe we were made of clay. Our ego’s false perceptions led us to grow into a belief system that covered our inner light. We’ve spent years, maybe decades, masking our truth. Now it’s time to embrace our light and reconnect with our Golden Buddha within.” – Gabrielle Bernstein

 

xoxo,

barista

May Cause Miracles: Week 6 Part 2

imagesCAQRU0YXI know its been a little while since I wrote my last May Cause Miracles post. I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to work on following through. I have noticed that when something is coming to an end, procrastination sets in big time and it takes me forever to actually finish, if at all. This happens a lot especially when reading books.

Day 39 was about Gratitude to the World. My favorite quote from this chapter is “when you stop trying to make the world serve you, then you can serve the world”.  Gratitude is very important in these processes because it becomes very easy to focus on the negative things around you versus the good things you are thankful for. “I am grateful for my new perceptions  of the world”.

For this evening exercise I had to write a gratitude letter to someone who has greatly affected my life. “By charing your gratitude with others, you inspire them to carry on their sacred path. Shining light on the accomplishments of others brings more light to the world”.

My letter was to my fiance, Justin. I can admit, and I’m sure he could tell you, I don’t do enough focusing on the great things he does for our relationships. So I wanted to take the opportunity to do so. I wasn’t going to share it, but here goes (also will be his first time reading):

Dear Justin,
I just wanted to let you know because I don’t express it enough….Thank You! Thank you for loving me. For always thinking of me. For being thoughtful and always there. For listening to the things I like and love and showing up. For always planning amazing stuff and surprising me. Even though I don’t like surprises I appreciate the effort behind them. For keeping a spark alive even when I don’t give back like I should. Thank you for loving me even when I’m crazy, when I wake up with wild hair, and can be annoying. Thank you for even the hard times because it’s those moments that are making me grow. Forcing me to grow even though you may not realize it. Sometimes I don’t realize it either. I know I don’t always give back in the same ways you give to me but I want you to know I do notice it, and I DO appreciate it. I love you for being that guy. I’m trying and focusing on being the best I can be so in return I can be the best for the relationship. Thank you for the patience. I love you!
Love, Ashley

After gratitude day comes the day for forgiveness. Forgiveness is always huge because it allows you to let go of things that can hindering the possibility to effectively move forward. It’s a huge cause of fear and leads to resistance when it comes to choosing the love path.

“I forgive the false projections I have placed on the world” was the affirmation for Day 40. On this evening I had to write another letter, this time one of forgiveness to a person or organization I have been resenting. It’s interesting because my letters of gratitude and forgiveness were to the same person. This one is a little more personal to both parties involved so I will not be sharing it, but it was a little enlightening to write the things I had held on to. To look at how those fears have held me back.

The biggest thing was to choose to see love instead of the false projections. The false projections are the surface of the behaviors I was resenting whereas love is what’s deeper inside. The truth I know is there and was empowering to commit to see the truth versus the fears. Something I have to continue to remind myself, especially when shit seems to hit the fan 🙂

The book is a “40 day” guidebook but to complete the week there is actually 42 days. Day 41 is about fully taking in that I AM A MIRACLE WORKER! “I am here to be truly helpful”. It’s all about remembering that this is what we are here for. Gabrielle stated that one of her resolutions was to measure her success by how much fun she is having. I was then to look at the areas we focused on in the book and see how I could inject more fun into those areas.

Here are some of the questions that were asked. Take a look and see how you can apply these to your life.

Self Love: In what ways can I have more fun on my own in my everyday life?

Miracle of the Body: How can I enjoy he process of physical activity? What innovative and challenging workouts can I try? How can I enjoy the process of eating healthy foods?

Holy Relationships: How can I bring more fun into my relationships? What thoughts, conversations, actions, activities can I bring into all of my relationships?

Miracle of Abundance: How can I bring more fun into my career or place of work? Hoe can I have fun while I am creating abundance?

Miracle Worker of the World: How can I bring more fun into the world?

As Gabrielle suggests, challenge yourself into incorporating more fun into each of these areas of life every month. “If you intend to have fun, you will have a fun life”.

Wrapping up Day 42….THE LAST DAY!!! I will share this last day as well as some insight from the final chapter, in a later post. Although I am done with my 42 days of practice, the real work has only begun!!!

I would love to know if you have been reading May Cause Miracles though as well as your experiences if so. Feel free to share in the comments below.

xoxo,

 barista

 

If you have not picked up the book yet, Gabby will be having a 6-week ONLINE course for May Cause Miracles. It focuses directly on the book and provides you with guidance as you read along. There will be videos and audio versions as well as her guided mediations. It’s an awesome way to experience the book. Check out and sign up HERE

May Cause Miracles: Week 6 Part 1

help-others finally coming to an end of my MCM journey. It only took me a few months 🙂 Here we are week 6. I started Day 36 on April 11th and finally coming to an end in a few days. You could probably guess I had to do week 6 more than once. Three times to be exact. The first time I attempted I was about to start day 39 and just didn’t feel like I had focused well on the previous days so decided to do it again. The second attempt,  I had gotten to the evening exercise of Day 39 and kept forgetting to do it. I actually didn’t end up picking up the book for like 4 days so again wanted to start the week again. I’m still finishing a few days but want to at least put out there the first half of the week.

Week 6 is all about becoming a miracle worker. Realizing that your job is not limited to just yourself. It’s about becoming a miracle worker for the world. Helping others. You are a better help for others when you help yourself first. You can inspire and understand through experience.

“You’ll realize the transformation is not for you alone. You’ll learn that you’re here to use this gift to shine light on the dark world around you. You become a miracle worker in the world. As you begin to understand how love is crucial to the healing of the world, your miracle work will take on a whole new meaning.” – Gabrielle Bernstein

The beginning of the week, Day 36, is like the beginning of all the week. Witnessing your fears. “For my peace and the peace of the world, I choose love”. Each week there was a theme and each first day of the week started with witnessing your fears in perspective of what the theme was. Your fears about your body, career, money, relationships. This day it’s witnessing your fears in perspective of knowing that you MUST do so for the sake of the world.

The thing that stood out to me on this day was that FEAR is not real. I know that I have actually mentioned that in a previous post, how fear even stands for FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL. Fear has a good way of feeling so real in the moment. It’s easy to recognize when others are in a fearful state but it takes a lot of patience and mindfulness to recognize it in yourself and change your mindset. Knowing this and experiencing this should already help us relate to others with the compassion we need to offer ourselves. My practice and work is to become more aware of my fears IN THE MOMENT and choosing not to react as a result  of fear.

“Inner Guide, I welcome you to show me where to go, what to do, and what to say“. This was the affirmation for Day 37. The book mentions that the more you start to dedicate yourself to love, the MORE your ego will work against that notion. The funny thing that I just put together is that during the 3 times I have worked on week 6, I think my ego was working in overload this whole time. I feel like I have gotten in more arguments with my fiance, reacting more to his actions, allowing my ego to take control. I’m almost positive it came along because I had been to open to becoming a miracle worker. And guess what, truthfully many times, my ego won! That’s actually part of the reason I wanted to do the week over again and again because I had acknowledged that I  had not been putting my love skills to work. The only choice I choose though, is to keep moving forward and keep at it.

On this Day I had to witness the present fears and choosing to turn them over to my Inner Guide.

Some of my fears on this day were:

*I’m not good enough to be a mentor/coach
*I will continue to work in a job that I don’t LOVE and that isn’t taking me towards my goals
*I am scared of marriage
*Not giving my child enough attention.
*Re-living my past
*Not having another baby soon
*I won’t get the freedom I am looking for
*To stand in my truth fully without waver

Along with what I took in from Day 36, I had to recognize that these fears weren’t real and I had still have to trust that my inner guide will handle it from here and if I listen will lead me to the path that’s best for me.

I already shared with you guys Day 38. Click this link so you can read it.

Although the book is a 40 day guidebook, it technically goes to 42 days to finish out the week completely so I will share days 39-42 with you in a few days.

xoxo,

barista

Day 38: “I Will Help Those In Need” – Funds 4 Nate

Good Morning Fellow Coffee Readers,

Today I wanted to share with you my experience of Day 38 of “May Cause Miracles” and how I decided to be of service to others. Week 6 is all about focusing on becoming a miracle worker. A quote that I liked from the book was that “being a miracle worker isn’t just about letting go of negative beliefs and becoming happy: there is much much more. Being a miracle worker is a practice of personal growth that leads to worldly transformation.”

Wednesday was my second time repeating Day 38 because I decided to start the week over again a few days ago. On Day 38 the focus is “Shift from ME to WE”. The morning reflection was:

“Today I prepare to shift my focus from me mentality to a we mentality. When I am of service to others, I get out of my own way and stop focusing on my own inner turmoil. Today I choose to shift my attention from my internal dialogue by consciously paying attention t o others. I will listen to those who want to be heard. I will help those who are in need. I will guide those who are lost. I will serve those who call for love.”

Although May Cause Miracles is not religious based book, because of the value of this particular prayer, for the evening exercise I had to recite the Prayer of Saint Francis (which you can find here) and then meditate in a way to get my inner guide to help me be of service to someone else. The first time I did this exercise I focused on someone I knew and how  I could be of service. The answer came to me as in to help my friend, who is on a tight budget, with photographing her wedding within her means and budget (I do photography on the side). This time I didn’t want to focus on anything specific but wanted to see what would show itself in my path. I told you, I’m having fun playing with manifesting stuff.

Last week a friend of mine’s boyfriend had a stroke while in the gym working out and was rushed to the hospital. I remember, at the time, vaguely knowing about it but not the extent of the aftermath. Well just yesterday (the day after my meditation mind you) I finally was able to visit the funding website they set up to get help for his medical bills because he needs to go through intense therapy to recover from a loss of many of his skills including his speech and motor movements. I had NO idea this was going on. I was amazed when I saw how many people had helped in just two days. They posted a goal of $15,000 and two days later over 80 people had helped and they raised more than $9,000 for her boyfriend.

I immediately knew that I had viewed this website on this day for a reason. My inner guide was bringing it to my path like  I had asked. I had actually saw her post about the website the day or so before but hadn’t gotten the chance to look at it and I believe it happened yesterday by no mistake or coincidence. I wasn’t even consciously thinking about my meditation from the night before. It wasn’t until after that I realized the connection. So this morning I donated $50 towards his funding. Being that I have a voice, on here especially, I feel the need to share with you the information and do with it what you will.

I know that many of you do not know my friend nor her boyfriend but I would LOVE for you to at least take a look at their website and read about his story. IF you feel compelled, feel free to donate for the help of his treatment. I’m almost positive they are going to end up needing way more than what  is being asked right now and any amount helps. Let’s come together and help show them the power of WE and raise well over the goal amount being asked. Sporadically I have hosted my “$50 give-aways” where I ask for ideas from other people of where to donate money but every once in a while, something more personal and close to home calls and this is one of those moments.

Check out www.gofundme.com/funds4nate and read Nathan’s story and I just ask, if the urge speaks, listen! Even $1 counts. Feel free to let them know My Mornin’ Coffee sent ya.  🙂

Here’s to a WE based mindset!!!

xoxo,

barista

Day 34: Hummingbird & Rose

Ok so on my last post I kinda teased you guys saying that something cool happened to me on Day 34 of my “May Cause Miracles” journey. “I welcome in infinite possibilities. I will receive”. Well today is your lucky day and you finally get to hear the cool story. Manifesting once again. It was awesome!! Strange enough the story has to do with INFINITY!

DSC01714So, as some of you know, I had recently picked two winners in a give-away I did to celebrate new and old subscribers on my one year anniversary. I had already planned on getting the winners gifts from one of my favorite stores, Handmade Gallery. Well after I found out who the winners were, I contacted them to see what kind of stuff they liked so I could have more of an idea of what to get them, because if you have been to the store before you probably know how hard it could be to pick out something because EVERYTHING is so amazing and unique. I could spend a good couple of hours just checking every little item out.

About 2 weeks ago I decided to go to Handmade after one of my meetings across the street. I had gotten an email from my “old” follower letting me know she had visited the site and telling me which items she was interested in. I hadn’t gotten a chance to look at the website at the actual items she liked but at this point, now knowing that they were both female, I knew I could still probably get them something they would like no matter what their style was.

Well as I was looking around, it wasn’t as easy as I had hoped. There were just too many options. The store was closing, I didn’t get to look long, and I certainly didn’t want to just grab just anything so I decided to come back the following week to look again. This time I was going to take the time to check out the website to see what my “old” customer was actually into. I looked the items up and decided to see what I could find in the store.

This last Tuesday after my meeting, I went over to the store and started to search for the items she liked. I was checking out one of the jewelry cases that caught my eye and as I glanced at the tag it actually happened to be by one of the artist she said she liked, Hummingbird & Rose. I loved everything in this case but I was searching for a particular Infinity necklace she said she liked. I couldn’t find it so then thought maybe I was confused and it was made by someone else so went searching around the store for it. While I was searching for this necklace I had picked up two other items for her, a “One Good Deed A Day” journal (which  I will get into in another post) and cool little print. Both were very inexpensive so I still had room to get her one more item, preferably the necklace she wanted, granted it be in the price range.

Searching, searching, searching, I couldn’t find it so I just decided I would get something else. Well I had no luck with that either because I didn’t want to get just anything so finally I went up to the woman at the cashier and asked her for her opinion. I told her I had a blog and was looking for something to give a winner of a contest. She says ” “I actually had wanted to give away a piece to someone or for a blog…”. I told her the amount and that I wanted something unique. She then proceeds to take me over the Hummingbird & Rose case near the counter and says that she is the maker of that jewelry. She says she will give me a piece for free. I ask her, to make sure, if it was her brand that has the Infinity necklace, she says yes but it was sold the day before. I tell her about how that is the necklace that my blog winner wanted and she tells me she can have one for me in a few days.

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I told her I didn’t want the necklace for free because I wanted to support her work so she decided to give it to me for half off. We both were so amused by what had just happened. She had said I must have been put in her path for a reason because she had been wanting to give a necklace away, and I just couldn’t believe that she was the maker of the necklace I was searching for. I ALMOST didn’t even ask her for her opinion but my intuition just told me to ask. I seriously spent all night flipping out about what had happened.

I picked up the necklace yesterday and will be sending the gifts to the winner this week. She was even so VERY  kind to add in an extra necklace for me as a gift. SOOOOO nice!!! Everyone please check out Anna’s jewelry line, Hummingbird & Rose. Aside from the lovely name, the jewelry is delicately beautiful. She has an Etsy page where you can view and buy your favorite items, including the Infinity necklace. Please click the picture below (and the links above) for her information feel free to let her know My Mornin’ Coffee sent ya.

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I’m so excited for my winner to receive her gift in the mail shortly. She lives in England and since Handmade will be closing down soon (which I just found out right after I had picked the winners; another meant to be) she will never get the chance to come check out the store herself so I am very glad I get to share some of the amazingness that store has to offer.

If you live in the LA area, please go visit Handmade before they close for good on April 30th. Everything in the store is on Sale so you will probably want to buy everything. Support our local artists!

xoxo,

barista