14 Ways to GIVE LOVE

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY my fellow lover,

So there are many varying opinions about Valentine’s day from different people. If you are in a relationship, it’s a day to express your love. If you’re not in a relationship, today can be known as Single’s awareness day. And no matter which category you fall, you may think of Valentine’s day as just a another day on the calendar.

We all know that Valentine’s day is a highly commercialized “holiday” here in America. Billions of dollars are spent every year on flowers, cards, presents, candy, chocolate etc. It seems to have become more about showing off how big your present is rather than how big your love is. I’m not gonna act like I haven’t participated in the debacle. I would post pictures of the lovely flowers I would receive or box of strawberries. I would feel special when I received something, and with social media, and the help of the ego, I would want to share just how special I was with everyone because of what I would receive. And sometimes I still let that get the best of me. “I am special because I get ____ , wanna see? Here’s a pic or a post about it”

Valentine’s Day has come to represent that if you are in a relationship then you are worthy and if you aren’t then you are unworthy. Some people feel as though, since they don’t have a loved one there to shower them in gifts, that it’s just a reminder of how single they are and how unworthy they feel watching everyone else flaunt their stuff.

That is simply untrue and I’m here to share that Valentine’s Day does not have to represent the receiving of love as much as it can represent the GIVING of love. And guess what, you don’t have to be a relationship to GIVE love!!! Isn’t that awesome? I know that love is something that should be expressed EVERYDAY but face it, Valentine’s Day isn’t going away any time soon so while it’s here, we can still use it to represent a day of GIVING LOVE.

Give to your friends, your parents, your children, your partners, strangers, YOURSELF! Feel the love within and share it’s overflow with those around you. Make today about sharing and making others feel special. Besides, the more you give the more you open yourself up to receive.

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I’m doing you a favor and giving you 14 EASY WAYS TO GIVE LOVE TODAY whether you’re single or not:

1. SMILE AT EVERYONE YOU SEE AND SAY HELLO

2. BUY SOME FLOWERS AND PASS THEM OUT AT WORK (good deed of the day btw)

3. LEAVE A NICE CARD ON A STRANGERS WINDSHIELD TELLING THEM THEY ARE PERFECT

4. PAY FOR LUNCH FOR THE PERSON BEHIND YOU

5. MAKE SOME COOKIES AND SHARE

6. CREATE A SOUNDTRACK WITH YOUR FAVORITE INSPIRING SONGS AND GIVE IT TO A FRIEND

7. HUG, HUG, HUG!!!

8. THANK THOSE YOU APPRECIATE

9. SAY I LOVE YOU IN THE MIRROR

10. SAY A SILENT PRAYER FOR EVERYONE YOU PASS

11. CALL YOUR PARENTS AND TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM

12. HELP SOMEONE IN NEED

13. BLAST HAPPY MUSIC WHILE YOUR DRIVING

14. and I know I said this already but seriously just….. SMILE!!! WALK AROUND SMILING AND I GAURANTEE, YOUR PRESCENCE WILL BRIGHTEN THE DAY OF THOSE AROUND YOU!

 

Today I am going to leave LOVE NOTES around for strangers to find!!!

What will you do today to focus on GIVING your love rather than receiving love from someone else??

 

xoxo,

barista

 

 

 

 

Good Deed Sunday 2/2/14 (Late Post)

So I have another late post for you. I had school all weekend so I really had no time that I could be on the computer unless it was cutting into my sleep. School also made it a bit harder this week in completing some of my good deeds because I was working on homework during the week which seemed to take more precedence.

The interesting part as I was preparing to write this blog and the deeds from last week, a piece of me really wanted to lie to you. I wanted it to seem like I completed all the deeds, completed the makeup deeds, and ended the month 31/31. It’s funny to notice that ego part that wants everything to seem “perfect, to not feel like I failed, to not feel judged. Then I come to the conclusion that the only person judging me is ME! I am judging myself in that moment. It’s like that quote “What others think of you is none of your business”…. I can not feel judged unless I am also judging myself. Especially when I DON’T know what others will or are thinking.

I know my intentions and my circumstances so there is no reason for me to feel ashamed. By lying, I would only be harming my self esteem by buying into the judgements that I placed on myself. So as I learned in class, one of the most powerful tools to healing is compassionate self forgiveness. Forgiving yourself for the judgements you place on yourself and others. So “I forgive myself for judging myself as failing…I forgive myself for buying into the belief that this process has to be perfect”.

So let’s get on to the deeds last week:

1/27/14: SAY GOOD MORNING TO YOUR CO-WORKERS:
This one was easy, because I do it everyday. I did make more effort to just say Good Morning to everyone else though too

wpid-IMG_2278.jpg1/28/14: MYSTERY DEED aka PUT A LOVE NOTE IN A LOVED ONES LUNCH:
So the loved one I chose never brings lunch to work so of course I made him a lunch this day and left him a cute little note with it. I left it on the counter as a surprise. Our little one tried t o ruin the surprise and tell  daddy to go look in the kitchen but daddy just thought it was mommy’s lunch. So I had to call him after I left and let him know the I made it for him.

BONUS:
Today I also completed the past deed of doing a TEn MINUTE MEDITATION. I completed the meditation in my counseling session.

1/29/14: DO A LITTLE DANCE AND BE SILLY:
I tend to complete this one a lot. Usually me and my son make up little dances and try to make daddy laugh. This time, my son was already sleep, so i just did a silly dance for the big boy. It included moonwalking so I bet you can just imagine.

1/30/14: LEAVE SOME HOMEMADE COOKIES AT YOUR NEIGHBORS DOOR:
So I picked this deed thinking that It would be easy to complete along with the other deed of making cookies and sharing. I have realized though that’s its not so easy for me to bake during the week so I may have to save these deeds for a weekend.

1/31/14: GIVE YOURSELF A PEP TALK:
This one was a good one for today because it was my first day back at school this month. I was also behind on doing homework and stressing about that, along with working and trying to get a lot of stuff done for a new person that I will be training. So although simple, my person pep talk was just telling myself to do the best I can, what gets done will get done, and let it go into the universe. PS: I got my homework back and got 200/200. YAY!

BONUS: I also completed the deed of BE MINDFUL of my please, thank yous, and you’re welcomes.

2/1/14: LET ANOTHER CAR TAKE THAT PARKING SPOT and smile and wave:
I picked this one for this day because I thought it would be easy since I have school and most people arrive at the same time. But when I arrived on this day there was no one there at the same exact time as me so really I had no one to give a spot to. The intentions were there but the opportunity was not. It will stay in my mind though.

and yesterday Sunday, If I’m sticking to the truth, I didn’t even pick a good deed. So there was nothing this day for Good Deeds to complete. Full day of school and forgot to look in the journal that morning.

SO FAR: this week with the bonus deeds, I completed 6 deeds still which is awesome bringing my count to 26 out of 33 deeds so far. AWESOME

THIS WEEKS DEEDS:

2/3/14: GIVE CREDIT WHEREVER YOU CAN

2/4/14: START A BIRTHDAY CALENDAR to help you remember to send cards

2/5/14: SMILE WHEN YOU TALK ON THE PHONE, it makes your voice friendly

2/6/14: bless your interruptions as an opportunity to TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND SMILE


2/7/14: MYSTERY DEED

2/8/14: LEAVE A BIG TIP
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Good Deed Sunday: 1/26/14 (Late Post)

Ok so during a previous week, I had a good deed of sending friends a Thank You note for being a good friend and it was awesome because this last week, everyone at separate times were sending me pictures of the little “love notes” I sent in the card and telling me how it was a pleasant surprise or how they needed it at that moment. So it felt really good to make some of my friends feel special.

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“Thank You for this. Things have been pretty hectic around here. I needed this!”

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“Super Cute!!! Thank You”

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“Amazing friends make my world go round. Thank You [Ashley]  for being you”

Let’s catch up for this last week and you can also see what the mystery deed was (I know it’s been killing you to know).

1/19/14: TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU LOVE THEM and appreciate them: 
As easy as this one is, or seems, it was a little strange for me to just do it out of the blue over the phone. I mean I’ve gotten into the habit of saying I say I Love You frequently to my parents but for some reason to, what would seem like random, to tell them I appreciate them felt more….(gasp) vulnerable. I haven’t always been in a place of being comfortable sharing feelings with my parents while I was growing up so I’m learning it still has somewhat of a hold on me now. Also I think with this day and age and having texting and messaging and that sort of stuff, I think society has a harder time sharing their feelings face to face or voice to voice. I didn’t want to pass on this good deed so I still completed it, and as much as I wanted to do it over the phone (because my parents don’t live close enough for me to see them), I was feeling too vulnerable in the moment, so I did it through a text message. Both parents replied and I could tell were grateful to hear that from me.

1/20/14: MYSTERY DEED aka SEND A FRIEND A BELOVED BOOK from your shelf:
The reason I picked this as a mystery deed is because this is the type of deed I like to be a surprise. I didn’t want any friends to EXPECT anything and like the element of surprising someone and them receiving something unexpected. This particular deed, one of my friends was mentioning a book she thought she should read because it kept appearing in her path and it was a book I have. I had not read it yet and knowing that I wasn’t going to have time any time soon, I sent the book for her to read. She doesn’t check her mail frequently so I don’t think she’s seen it yet, but I’m sure after this post she’ll go home and check tonight 🙂

1/21/14: HUG YOUR CHILD for no reason at all: 
This one is super easy because I hug my child all the time. He’s 5 so he’s constantly getting smothered in kisses and hugs from me. I thought this might be an interesting one for parents with older children because it might be something they don’t do as often, making it a pleasant surprise for their child. If you are a parent of an older child and you completed this deed, or want to complete it, share your experience in the comments below.

1/22/14: bake your favorite kind of cookies and SHARE: 
This is a deed I did not get a chance to do this week. I had no time the previous night to bake cookies so my plan was to bake them on this night and share them with my co-workers the following day and when I was going to make them, I didn’t have any eggs. I literally haven’t even gone to the grocery store since. 😦 I’m going tonight though, so I’ll make sure I pick up some eggs.

1/23/14: MEDITATE for ten minutes:
I have to admit, this one I did not remember to do. I was going to do it at lunch but then had errands to run so decided to do it at bedtime and forgot. 😦

1/24/14: BUY A COFFEE for the person behind you in line:
This one was fun because I don’t drink coffee and I rarely end up in a coffee shop. So on this day I deliberately went to Starbucks just to carry out this deed. I did not order a coffee for myself, I instead bought some food so I could quickly slip out before the person behind me knew they were getting their coffee paid for. The funny thing is, there was a really long line when I went in but no one was coming in after me. I was laughing in my head thinking “of course this happens”. When I was paying for my food, two people walked in. I gave the cashier a $20 and as she was going to give me my $15 change I told her to keep $10 and pay for the next one or two coffees behind me. As I was walking out I heard her say, “Oh she’s paying for your drink”. I didn’t turn around I just kept walking. It was kind of awesome to feel like some sort of mysterious deed lady haha.

1/25/14: TELL A STRANGER HIS/HER CHILD IS BEAUTIFUL: 
I had a lot of opportunity for this one this day because not only did I go to a child’s birthday party, but my son also had a basketball game. I told one of the mom’s at the birthday party that her daughter was beautiful. I’m sure she’s heard it before because her daughter was just so adorable, but as a parent I know it’s still feels nice when people say that.

1/26/14: BE HAPPY FOR SOMEONE and tell her.
I accidentally picked 8 deeds last week instead of 7 but being that I am late on this post it’s good that I had previously picked this for yesterday and it was already shared with everyone. I went to my fiance’s cousin’s girlfriends (you got that?) baby shower yesterday. It was so nice and beautiful. We are both pregnant and only 4 weeks apart from each other. It’s cool because the babies are cousins and will be close in age. By the end of the shower, I couldn’t remember if I had specifically told her I was happy for her so just in case, I wrote it again on her Facebook to let her know how excited and happy I am for both and I can’t wait to meet the little one.

So as January is coming to an end, I have officially completed 20 of 26 deeds that I have picked. Sometimes things happen or I won’t get the opportunity to do it on the specific day I was meaning to. For that, I want to at least try to have “make up” days before the end of that month. So this week I will be doubling up with new deeds as well as some that I have missed from the previous weeks.

The new deeds this week are:

1/27/14: SAY GOOD MORNING TO YOUR CO-WORKERS

1/28/14: ***MYSTERY DEED***

1/29/14: DO A LITTLE DANCE AND BE SILLY

1/30/14: LEAVE SOME HOMEMADE COOKIES AT YOUR NEIGHBORS DOOR

1/31/14: GIVE YOURSELF  A PEP TALK

2/1/14: LET ANOTHER CAR TAKE THAT PARKING SPOT, smile and wave

“Make Up Deeds”:
* Walk around your block and PICK UP TRASH”
*BE MINDFUL of saying “Please”, “Thank You”, and “You’re Welcome” (I halfway completed but wasn’t very mindful and could do better)
*WRITE A POSTCARD TO A LONG LOST FRIEND
*BE QUICK TO APOLOGIZE
*bake your favorite cookies and SHARE
*MEDITATE FOR TEN MINUTES

Can’t wait to see how this week goes and if you’ve been following along or would like to I would love to hear from you in the comments section below

xoxo,

barista

Are You Staying True to Your Inner Moral Beliefs?

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“With the self as a focal point, you sustain the illusion that you are your body, which is a completely separate entity from all others. This sense of separateness leads you to compete rather then cooperate with everyone else” – Wayne Dyer

Being that it was Martin Luther King Jr. Day yesterday, I thought today was perfect day for this post. MLK represented a man you was very connected to his intention and Source. He consciously chose to act out of his loving instead of his ego, even through the hardest of times, which lead him to making great connection with many people on many levels.

I hear and read so many people, myself many times included, that have the intention of being and acting one way (kind, love thy neighbor, accepting, compassionate, empathetic) yet many times have a hard time staying connected to that intention and can end up acting in a way that can be quite the opposite (judgemental, mean, rejecting, jealous). I know sometimes I can feel so passionate about something I perceive as negative that I also respond in a negative manner. In reality, this is making me no different then the source that caused my reaction. As Dr. King has said “Darkness can not drive out darkness, only light can do that”. So how can we learn to stay connected to our inner most intentions and project light onto all situations?

Integrity

One of my goals for myself is to continue to discover and define my inner moral code and consciously, with intention, chose to live by that code during all situations. One of the things that gets in the way of that intention is my ego. We all have one and in respect we all NEED one. The ego can be very successful at helping us achieve the things we want in life with its goal minded orientation, but it can also harm us in many ways, especially when it comes to continuously acting out of our Authentic Self. The Self that wants to maintain our intentions and inner moral code.

In observance of Martin Luther King Jr. Day yesterday, I would like to quote a section from Wayne Dyer’s book, The Power of Intention, in his words. May we all strive to live a life of personal integrity and stay true to the person we have the intentions of being.

Seven Steps for Overcoming Ego’s Hold on You

1. Stop being offended. The behavior of others isn’t a reason to be immobilized. That which offends you only weakens you. If you’re looking for occasions to be offended, you’ll find them at every turn. This is your ego at work convincing you that the world shouldn’t be the way it is. You can’t reach the power of intention by being offended. By all means, act to eradicate the horrors of the world, which emanate from massive ego, but stay in peace. Being offended creates the same destructive energy that offended you in the first place and leads to attack, counterattack, and war.

2. Let go of your need to win. Ego loves to divide us up into winners and losers. The pursuit of winning is a surefire means to avoid conscious contact with intention. Why? Because ultimately, winning is impossible all of the time – Someone out there will always be faster, luckier, younger, stronger, and smarter – and back you’ll go to feeling worthless and insignificant. You are not your winnings or victories. There are no losers in a world where we all share the same energy source. Let go of your needing to win by not agreeing that the opposite of winning is losing. Be at peace, and match up with the energy of intention. And ironically, although you’ll hardly notice it, more of those victories will show up in your life as you pursue them less.

3. Let go of your need to be right. Ego is the source of a lot of conflict and dissension because it pushes you in the direction of making other people wrong. When you’re hostile, you’ve disconnected from the power of intention. Letting go of your need to be right in your discussions and your relationships is like saying to the ego, I’m not a slave to you. I want to embrace kindness and I reject your need to be right. In fact, I’m going to offer this person a chance to feel better by saying she is right, and thank her for pointing me in the direction of truth. When you let go of the need to be right, you’re able to strengthen your connection to the power of intention. Keep in mind, the ego is a determined combatant. I’ve seen people willing to die rather than let go of the need to be right.

4. Let go of your need to be superior. True nobility isn’t about being better than someone else. It’s about being better than you used to be. Stay focused on your growth, with a constant awareness that no one on this planet is any better than anyone else. We all emanate from the same creative life force. Let go of your need to feel superior by seeing an unfolding of God in everyone. When you project feelings of superiority, that’s what you get back, leading to resentments and ultimately hostile feelings.

5. Let go of your need to have more. The mantra of the ego is more. It’s never satisfied. No matter how much you achieve or acquire, you’re ego will insist that it isn’t enough. You’ll find yourself in a perpetual state of striving, and eliminate the possibility of ever arriving. Yet in reality, you’ve already arrived, and how you chose to use this present moment  of your life is your choice. Ironically, when you stop needing more, more of what you desire seems to arrive in your life. Since you’re detached from the need of it, you’ll find it easier to pass it along to others, because you realize how little you need in order to be satisfied or at peace.

6. Let go of identifying yourself on the basis of your achievements. This may be a difficult concept if you think you are your achievements. I can  hear your ego loudly protesting. Nevertheless stayed tuned to this idea. All emanates from Source! You’re not this body and its accomplishments. You are the observer. Notice it all; and be grateful for the abilities you’ve been given, the motivation to achieve, and the stuff you’ve accumulated. The less you need to take credit for your achievements and the more connected you stay to the faces of intention, the more you’re free to achieve, and the more will show up for you.

7. Let go of your reputation. Your reputation is not located in you. It resides in the minds of others. Therefore, you have no control over it at all. If you speak to 30 people, you have 30 reputations. Connecting to intention means listening to your heart and conducting yourself based on what your inner voice tells you is your purpose here. If you’re overly concerned with how you’re going to be perceived by everyone, then you’ve disconnected yourself from intention and allowed opinion of others to guide you. This is your ego at work. It’s an illusion that stands between you and the power of intention. Leave your reputation for others to debate, it has nothing to do with you.

When I think of Martin Luther King Jr. and the type of man I have learned he was, I conclude that he succeeded in these seven steps. He and others with the loving centered heart like his (Ghandi, Mother Teresa, Jesus, Buddha) are the epitome of what living with personal integrity and intention are about.

Overcoming the ego is what allows people to stand out and stay remembered in a good manner. They connect with the masses and they exert a light into the darkness of others. The lift you up and they stay true to that inner voice directing them in ALL circumstances.

Let us all see this and use it to become a better version of ourselves. To emanate the purpose of our existence. Don’t let the darkness take control. Spread love and light to the world! Live a life of intention!

Happy Tuesday

xoxo,

barista

Good Deed Sunday: 1/19/14

Another week down of Good Deed’s accomplished. Yay! Let’s see how this last week went

1/12/14 BE MINDFUL of saying “Please” and “Thank You” and “You’re Welcome” – all day long
I kind of butchered this one because I wasn’t particularly mindful about it for the day. I know I say Thank You a lot, I try to make sure of it to show my appreciation for others effort and work, so I’m not doubting I didn’t say that throughout the day but I’m not so sure I was very mindful with the “Please” and “You’re Welcome”. I have a habit of saying “No Problem” when people say Thank You to me so I’m going to continue to work on the “You’re Welcome”. And also saying Please more often.

1/13/14: start a list of books you’d like to READ FOR FUN:
My for fun books are very similar to books I now have to read for school. Some sort of Self-Growth type of book is what I usually lean towards. I love expanding my knowledge and interest in the area. I rarely read many other types of books when I do read like fiction and such so if you have any suggestions, I would love to hear. It’s nice to read other types of books too. I have a list of books I need to finish reading as well as one’s I want to start. With school, I have so much reading, we read about 4 or so books at a time, so I’m not sure when I’ll get to the for fun list but I’m glad I now have one.

Books I want to finish reading:
*The Liar in Your Life – The Way to Truthful Relationships by:Robert Feldman
*Add More ING to Your Life by: Gabrielle Bernstein
*The Power of Intention by: Wayne Dyer
*Wishes Fulfilled – Mastering the Art of Manifesting by: Wayne Dyer (one I had for class that I didn’t finish)
*Love Lust and Faking It by: Jenny McCarthy

Books I want to start reading:
* A Course in Miracles by: Foundation for Inner Peace
* The Untethered Soul – The Journey Beyond Yourself by: Michael Singer
* Daring Greatly – How The Courage to Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead  by: Brene Brown (only read the first couple pages)
* The Four Agreements – A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by: Don Miguel Ruiz
* Daily Love – Lessons Learned on a Journey from Crisis to Grace by: Mastin Kipp (released Sept 2014)

1/14/14: EAT YOUR NEXT MEAL IN SILENCE (and away from a computer):
On this day I didn’t have too long of a lunch break but I ate my lunch in my car in silence. I’ll admit I had to fight the urge to pick up and check my cell phone. It’s interesting noticing that urge when you are specifically trying not to do so

1/15/14: STRIKE UP A CONVERSATION with a person at the cash register:
I completed this goal with the person at Trader Joes while I was doing my grocery shopping. I’ve always thought it could be somewhat awkward when you’re just standing there waiting and no one is really talking so it was nice to have a conversation.

1/16/14: BE QUICK TO APOLOGIZE:
Super Fail at this one. Again, was not too mindful of the deed this day until the day was over. Even got into a few small arguments this day that probably could have settled faster had I been mindful of this Good Deed for the day. I tell ya, that need to “BE RIGHT” is a kicker. It’s got a strong hold on me. I will need practice this deed more often.

wpid-20140117_154458.jpg1/17/14: SEND A FRIEND A THANK YOU NOTE for being a good friend: 
So far this has been one of my favorites. I’ve stood in the stationary section at Target so many times wanting to get cute Thank You cards so this was an awesome reason to be able to do that. I love the cards I got and instead of sending a card to ONE friend, I sent cards to 10 friends. I also found these cute little “LOVE NOTES” that i included in each card. Kind of like a fortune cookie, you have to tear open each note to reveal a cute saying inside about love. Part of me wanted to open each note and read it but I left that to my friends.

1/18/14: WRITE A POSTCARD TO A LONG LOST FRIEND:
This one was a little difficult yesterday because I could not find a postcard. BUT I did get a long lost friends address and will continue looking for a postcard today to send. If I can’t find a postcard, I’ll try to at least send a small card or note.

now on to the deeds for this week:

1/19/14: TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU LOVE THEM and appreciate them

1/20/14: ***MYSTERY DEED***

1/21/14: HUG YOUR CHILD FOR NO REASON AT ALL

1/22/14: bake your favorite kind of cookies and SHARE.

1/23/14: MEDITATE FOR TEN MINUTES

1/24/14: BUY A COFFEE for the person behind you in line

1/25/14: TELL A STRANGER HIS/HER CHILD IS BEAUTIFUL

1/26/14: BE HAPPY FOR SOMEBODY and tell her

***I’ve realized that some of the deeds I would like to complete without giving away what it’s going to be. Some deeds are more fun for both parties if no one expects it coming. So in the event there is a deed like this, you will see MYSTERY DEED, and I will let you know the deed during the following Sunday***

If you have followed along, I would love to know how the deeds have gone for you in the comments below. Or If you would like to follow along, keep me updated.

Don’t forget to follow my FACEBOOK PAGE so you can get a daily reminder of each deed.

xoxo,

barista

Fuck It, Its My Birthday!

imageToday is my birthday. YAY!!! I took off work today and had a plan to just spoil myself all day. After all my Good Deed of the Day is to Treat Myself.

Originally my plan was to wake up and do some sort of exercise, maybe go hiking or activate my Dailey Method Living Social Coupon I bought. Then I envisioned going to Lake Shrine and doing some meditation and reading. Followed my coming home and taking a nice bath. After getting ready and maybe getting my hair blow dried at the Drybar followed by a mani/pedi before dinner with my friends tonight. Sounds great huh?

Well I woke up this morning, looked outside and saw nothing but fog. I felt like it instantly made me start to feel lazy as if I didn’t want to start what I was planning on doing. “But it’s gonna be so cold outside” my mind was telling me as my heart just wanted to enjoy the calm of the day. I started listening to my mind which didn’t put me in such a great mood.

I got up, went downstairs where my fiance was making me breakfast and my son was writing on my birthday cards. The energy was off so of course Law of Attraction was doing its job, as always, and the fiance and I started bickering all morning. GREAT! Originally I wanted to blame him for putting me in a not so good mood but I take responsibility for the energy I was putting into the universe. According to my calendar verse today, based on my favorite book Ask and It is Given,

“It is not possible for anyone else to create your reality”. Damn Right.

I drank my healthy veggie/fruit smoothie, ate some eggs and tater tots (my fav), said goodbye to everyone as they headed to work and school, went back upstairs and laid back in bed. My friend was texting me asking me what I was doing today and I was telling her my plans but also my fear that I was going to end up doing nothing that I wanted and waste time being lazy in bed. The whole time just looking outside at the fog feeling that same fog in my body. Looking at my clock, I started feeling miserable as if I was wasting time. It was already 8:30am.

“If I’m going to go hiking, I should go now, but I really want to take a warm bath, it’s so cold outside…. but is it a waste of time to take a bath BEFORE I exercise and get sweaty?…should i go hiking now or later. I havent been in a while, what if I can’t make it all the way. Ok maybe I’ll go to the gym. Or Dailey Method. But will people stare at me because I’m taking the class pregnant? I know pregnant women do it but I’m an out of shape pregnant woman…Ok ill go exercise then while I’m out go get my hair done then take a bath….wait will the bath ruin my newly done hair? Ok maybe I should skip the exercise, take a bath now then go do the other stuff. Wait but what if there’s traffic to get to Lake Shrine and back? hmm is there somewhere else peaceful but closer I can go to. Oh maybe I’ll walk around the lake…. but it’s soooo cold. I’m just wasting time now. I definitely won’t fit everything in now. Damn I bet I’m just gonna end up doing NOTHING that I want to do and just lay in this damn bed all day. Fuck the cold weather.”

All of this was consistently going through my head causing me to lose motivation and of course not feel good about myself. Then my friend text me and writes “Just do what feels good. You don’t have to think about it if you don’t want to.” and it letting those words sink in that gave me instant results. I said “U are right” and I got up and started running myself a warm bath. Something that I havent done in FOREVER!!! and now being pregnant is something that has been very much needed for myself.

“Fuck it if I don’t exercise today. Fuck it if I have to take a bath twice. Fuck it if it doesn’t go as planned. Right now I’m cold and a bath sounds nice so I’m gonna take one.” were the new thoughts going through my head. So I got in the bath, but on my SONGS FOR THE SOUL playlist and enjoyed it for an hour. While I was in the bath I get a text from my fiance telling me that I had a pregnancy massage, pregnancy bath, manicure and pedicure booked at 1:15pm at Burke Williams. Ask and It Is Given.

See, the second I listened to my heart and let go of the fear, my resistance wall went down. My new positive energy was set free into the Universe which in return, I was given EXACTLY what I wanted today. I hadn’t even told my fiance any of my plans. Maybe I won’t exercise today, I won’t get to Lake Shrine, but guess what, I’m taking responsibility of my reality , soooo…. FUCK IT! I’m filling my day with other things that make me feel good, including writing to you and that my friend is a TREAT!

As I was looking in my makeup drawer right before I started to write this blog, I randomly found some birthday cards from last year along with a piece of paper I had written some notes on, I assume from maybe an online seminar I had listened to. One of the notes said:

“No matter how much we work on the physical body, that doesn’t lead us to having the right mindset and consciousness of LOVE. It can actually promote the opposite. Your perception has to change first. If we see ourselves as perfect as we are then we use our positive thoughts to transform us vs the other way around.” Damn right 🙂

Today, in honor of my birthday, I would like you to just say “FUCK IT”. Don’t buy into the negative thoughts in your head. Think good, and do what makes you feel good. Let go of the fear, welcome the sounds of the heart, break the resistance wall with a sledgehammer and watch the Law of Attraction do it’s job, returning you with the ever flowing manifestations of your powerful self.

Most importantly TREAT YOURSELF today!

Gotta jet to the Spa now and get pampered. I’m not even re-reading this before I post. Fuck It! Happy Birthday to Me!

xoxo,

barista