May Cause Miracles: Week 6 Part 1

help-others finally coming to an end of my MCM journey. It only took me a few months 🙂 Here we are week 6. I started Day 36 on April 11th and finally coming to an end in a few days. You could probably guess I had to do week 6 more than once. Three times to be exact. The first time I attempted I was about to start day 39 and just didn’t feel like I had focused well on the previous days so decided to do it again. The second attempt,  I had gotten to the evening exercise of Day 39 and kept forgetting to do it. I actually didn’t end up picking up the book for like 4 days so again wanted to start the week again. I’m still finishing a few days but want to at least put out there the first half of the week.

Week 6 is all about becoming a miracle worker. Realizing that your job is not limited to just yourself. It’s about becoming a miracle worker for the world. Helping others. You are a better help for others when you help yourself first. You can inspire and understand through experience.

“You’ll realize the transformation is not for you alone. You’ll learn that you’re here to use this gift to shine light on the dark world around you. You become a miracle worker in the world. As you begin to understand how love is crucial to the healing of the world, your miracle work will take on a whole new meaning.” – Gabrielle Bernstein

The beginning of the week, Day 36, is like the beginning of all the week. Witnessing your fears. “For my peace and the peace of the world, I choose love”. Each week there was a theme and each first day of the week started with witnessing your fears in perspective of what the theme was. Your fears about your body, career, money, relationships. This day it’s witnessing your fears in perspective of knowing that you MUST do so for the sake of the world.

The thing that stood out to me on this day was that FEAR is not real. I know that I have actually mentioned that in a previous post, how fear even stands for FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL. Fear has a good way of feeling so real in the moment. It’s easy to recognize when others are in a fearful state but it takes a lot of patience and mindfulness to recognize it in yourself and change your mindset. Knowing this and experiencing this should already help us relate to others with the compassion we need to offer ourselves. My practice and work is to become more aware of my fears IN THE MOMENT and choosing not to react as a result  of fear.

“Inner Guide, I welcome you to show me where to go, what to do, and what to say“. This was the affirmation for Day 37. The book mentions that the more you start to dedicate yourself to love, the MORE your ego will work against that notion. The funny thing that I just put together is that during the 3 times I have worked on week 6, I think my ego was working in overload this whole time. I feel like I have gotten in more arguments with my fiance, reacting more to his actions, allowing my ego to take control. I’m almost positive it came along because I had been to open to becoming a miracle worker. And guess what, truthfully many times, my ego won! That’s actually part of the reason I wanted to do the week over again and again because I had acknowledged that I  had not been putting my love skills to work. The only choice I choose though, is to keep moving forward and keep at it.

On this Day I had to witness the present fears and choosing to turn them over to my Inner Guide.

Some of my fears on this day were:

*I’m not good enough to be a mentor/coach
*I will continue to work in a job that I don’t LOVE and that isn’t taking me towards my goals
*I am scared of marriage
*Not giving my child enough attention.
*Re-living my past
*Not having another baby soon
*I won’t get the freedom I am looking for
*To stand in my truth fully without waver

Along with what I took in from Day 36, I had to recognize that these fears weren’t real and I had still have to trust that my inner guide will handle it from here and if I listen will lead me to the path that’s best for me.

I already shared with you guys Day 38. Click this link so you can read it.

Although the book is a 40 day guidebook, it technically goes to 42 days to finish out the week completely so I will share days 39-42 with you in a few days.

xoxo,

barista

May Cause Miracles: Week 3

How about some afternoon coffee today? Good Afternoon!!!

So as you can see, I spent a few extra days on week 3. I just finished yesterday, Day 21, which was reflection day.  I’m going to try to sum it all up in one post instead of the usual two. This week was all about  BODY IMAGE. The focus was trying to see your body as spiritual and not physical. You ever heard that phrase

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience”?

That’s the jest of this chapter. To see our body as a vehicle in which we are able to express love. How can we use the body to express love.

mad3_character_large_332x363_chimpsImmediately one of the pictures I got in my head was when you see in a cartoon or something, little monkeys standing on top of each other under human clothing pretending to be a human.

We are a soul inside of a body and we are using this body as an outlet so the voice and actions of love can be heard, seen, and felt. Our purpose is not to compare ourselves to other spiritual beings yet that’s what we are CONSTANTLY doing.

It’s funny because as I check my Facebook lately I see tons of pictures and updates of people “getting ready” for summer. Some of whom  main focus is their body and how it’s going to look at the beach or at the pool. We view our body as being either more special or less special than someone elses.

Now I’m not against getting in shape, we all know I want to do so but this last week I also have become more aware of my reasoning for wanting it so badly. The focus in this chapter showed me that when we can see our body from a different perspective and recognize its true purpose, which is a way to express love, we will innately want to take care of it in the ways it needs. Eating good, stretching, drinking water, getting exercise, rest, etc. In return we will get the results we need but without the added pressure of just trying to look good. Even aside from that aspect, your thoughts alone have such a big impact on your body including addictions, illnesses, and energy levels to name a few.

On Day 15 I realized I have some very fearful projections of my body while answering some of the questions in the book.

*My ego’s fearful beliefs are that my body isn’t in shape enough. My skin isn’t clear enough. I’m not good enough.
*My energy is really low sometimes and I just want to sleep all day. I have a hard time getting out of bed.
*Other bodies are more special if they don;t have stretch marks or extra skin or saddle bags. People that are in shape are better to look at.
*I fill my loneliness with food, the computer/internet, “working” or doing stuff I “need” to do.
*sometimes I feel like having a good body is not something that is meant for me. I think I will never get the body I want.
*My ego has convinced me that my body is always two steps from being good enough in some way. My body is bigger than some but smaller than others. Sometimes I can see someone with a bigger body and still think it’s better than mine because they don’t have stretch marks on their stomachs or their legs may be smaller. It makes me feel like I’m in a lose/lose situation.

Those are some ways I have recognized my ego takes control over my thoughts about my body. The affirmation of the day was “My false perceptions of my body are an attack. Today I choose love instead of my ego’s perceptions”

The thing I love about this book is that it really gets you to pay attention to the fact that your fearful thoughts are not real. Day 16 was again the willingness to let go of your fearful thoughts with “I turn my perception of my body over to my inner guide. Show me what you got” and Day 17 focusing on knowing that I am not my body. I am free”.

Now let’s skip to Day 18. This day was good ‘ol Gratitude day. Letting go of seeing your body as separate and focusing on seeing it as just as special as all other bodies. “I am grateful for my body” was the affirmation of the day. I tried to remember to say this as often as needed. When you let this affirmation sink in, you will really start to take care of your body. Some examples the book listed was while you’re at the gym, say the affirmation and take the time to stretch a little more. While eating lunch, take the time to TASTE your food. Savor the flavors. Chew slowly. Can you see how stopping to actually pay attention to all the things your body can do, and be grateful, you will want to take care of it?

 F. ALSE  E.VIDENCE  A.PPEARING  R.EAL

The evening exercise was to see how fear’s projections affects your perception of your body. I had to write some of my fearful projections of my body and then let my inner guide lead me with a mindful loving response. Ex:

Fearful thought: My stretch marks on my stomach are ugly. People will looked at them and be grossed out or talk about them (can you tell I have a huge insecurity will my stretch marks?)
Mindful Response: I recognize this as a fear and that I do not know what people think. I surrender to letting my inner guide take over.

Fearful Thought: I can’t stay on a healthy diet or lifestyle because I am lazy
Mindful Response:  My laziness is a product of my fearful thoughts. Once I am able to surrender that fear and I will be fueled and guided by love.

These were true answers given to me by my inner guide… What’s even more powerful that when writing my fearful thoughts down, I saw how SILLY and UNREAL they are. FEAR IS A BITCH!!!!

Day 19 again is the F word. Forgiveness! I had to write a letter to my inner guide exposing all my secret fearful thoughts and forgive myself for them and ask my inner guide to take over. By exposing the secrets I give them less power.  “Forgiveness restores my perception of my body back to love”. 

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAAnd on to Day 20 which tied it all together for me!!! “I accept my body’s true function, I accept I am a messenger for love”. This was the affirmation of the day as well as the meditation focus of the evening. I meditated on this phrase and let my inner guide take over to write.

As I was meditating I saw myself standing on the edge of the spa at my house. We were having people over and I was in my bathing suit. Well since we have lived in our new place for the last 4 months, I have not been in our spa. Aside from the weather being cold, I have had opportunities but won’t do it with friends over because I am majorly insecure about my body and you guessed it, my stretch marks or extra skin (from having a baby). During this image I felt free. I radiated confidence and love for myself and through that my friends felt it.

Now the part that hit me is I DO strongly believe I am a messenger for love. Its obvious in my conversations, my blog, my advice etc. I DO feel my purpose is to spread love. This means that I have to BE love. I have to embody LOVE.

How can I be a messenger for Love if I don’t Love the body in which that message is being projected? I show through loving myself and my body what Love is. LOVE accepts all things as they are. I HAVE to accept all things as they are, including my body, until then, I am not accurately and fully expressing the message!

WOW what a revelation!!!

before i end this post, just want to say thank you for getting this far. I know it was a lot.

…and on to week 4… RELATIONSHIPS!!! wooo hoo 😉

xoxo,

barista

 

 

 

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