May Cause Miracles: Final Review

As promised, here is the final review of May Cause Miracles. I will admit after I finished with day 42, I put the book down until yesterday. I think I mentioned in the last post how I am realizing that I have a hard time finishing stuff. Especially books. I have this tendency to ALMOST finish but many times never quite getting there. I’m curious as to why. Maybe I have a problem with things ending?!?! hmmmm something to look into.

Ironically, one of the first things the book says after Day 42, aside from the story of  the Golden Buddha (which I actually suggest you read first), is  one of two things that typically happens upon finishing the assignments.

1.  You become so inspired by the work that you commit to these principles in all of your affairs, deepening your spiritual practice more and more each day

2. You feel great and therefore conclude that the work is over. Within a few weeks (maybe even days), the ego convinces you that you’re healed and no longer need the daily practice. You lose sight of your miracle mindset.

What’s interesting is that as I just wrote that, I realized that one of these two options can be common for people during any process of changing bad habits. When spending a long period of time used to one way of life, and then trying to change for the better, your ego can go through a rough time and it will do what it needs to do to make sure you aren’t ignoring it for too long. Even if it is making you feel great for your progress convincing you that everything is fine, like in example #2. It’s like a sneaky little ghost, because over time, if you don’t continue your practice, the ego WILL sneak  its way back in convincing you that it knows best. It’s like when people who lose a lot of weight, they are told they have to continue their healthy practices to keep the weight off otherwise it can be easy to gain it all back.

I think the difference between success and failure (for lack of better words) is the difference between #1 and #2. When you find something that works for you in a positive way I think it is highly imperative to actively continue your practices. Humans are creatures of habit, habit is built by consistent repetitive behaviors. I’ve heard the average time it takes to form a new habit is around 60 days and that’s with daily repetition, but to KEEP that habit has to become a lifestyle.

I could already see myself slipping into #2 right after Day 42. I mean it took me a few weeks to even finish the book. I want to work on #1 and keeping everything I have  learned in mind so I can continue to practice choosing love over fear. I can admit, over the years, choosing fear has become the easy thing to do. Going the route of #2 is the EASY thing to do. Sticking to #1 takes effort and practice. Moment by moment we have choices to make. I’m ready!

If you have noticed, each week there were 7 basic principles to practice when learning how to choose love over fear. Witness Fear, Willing to choose Love, Shift perspective, Foster Gratitude, Practice Forgiveness, Expect Miracles, Reflect. Gabrielle puts the story of the Golden Buddha at the end because like in the story, we need tools to uncover our light within.

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“Cracking open to your golden light is one thing, but nurturing your glow is another”. Here are 8 ways Gabrielle’s suggests to KEEP your light shining bright:

1. Be Patient “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety” – (A Course In Miracles)

2. Seek to Find Joy In A Joyless Place “It’s easy to be committed  to love when everything is going great in our lives…It’s entirely different to be committed to love in the midst of the dark periods”.

3. Look At The Problem So It Can Be Solved “Upon recognizing each of our problems as assignments to grow, we can be guided to perceive them differently…Accepting this truth will help you honor all of your life’s experiences, the good and the bad”.

4. Don’t Obey the Ego’s Interpretation of Fear“Acknowledging your ego’s fear is much different from believing in it”.

5. Let Go of External PerceptionsYour external experiences doesn’t dictate your internal experience…Your happiness doesn’t rely on something outside of yourself.”

6. Deny the Ego’s Interpretation of the World – “Witness the ego in action but remember that the false perceptions are not your truth.”

7. Be Mindful Not to Make Your Practice Special – “There can be a tendency to make yourself special for choosing love…that specialness creates more seperation…be mindful”.

8. Learn the Happy Lessons of Forgiveness“Through forgiveness you will be released…Accept each encounter as an assignment and you will be released from the ego’s story”.

We all have fearful thoughts, we all can feel controlled by these  fearful thoughts from time to time, therefore I think this book can be a great read for anyone. Even if you consider yourself to be a mostly happy person, there’s always room for more happiness. May Cause Miracles takes a very subtle approach to recognizing your everyday thoughts and strengthening your power to CHOOSE love every time.

Whether you are trying to lose weight, stop an addiction, change your attitude, strengthen relationships, Following your dreams, etc… It all involves learning how to choose loving thoughts over fearful ones. Fear halts your life, while Love moves you forward.

You can read my progress throughout May Cause Miracles by clicking on the links below:
Week 1: Here and Here
Week 2: Here and Here
Week 3: Here
Week 4: Here
Week 5: Here and Here
Week 6: Here and Here

Think about any changes you are going through…how can what you’ve read above help you in your practice? Feel free to leave a comment below.

xoxo,

barista

Don’t forget Gabrielle has a 6-week live online course for May Cause Miracles starting starting soon. For more info and to sign up CLICK HERE

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Intuition

Intuition is not really a thought or a running dialogue, it is a quiet sense of things. The chatter of thoughts that run through our heads feels very different from intuition. The stream of thoughts is driven by habit and conditioning and is usually tinged with emotions. Intuition is not emotional nor is it derived from old conditioning or fear, it has a simple purity to it that is almost impersonal.

~ Deepak Chopra

If you wanna be HAPPY you have to GIVE UP.

I know, I know…I’ve been laggin on the post lately. I promise I will get to something juicy soon. But for now I was reading a post from Purpose Fairy and I thought it was pretty convienant given conversations I’ve had with friends over the last few days. The post was called “15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy”.

Happiness is the purpose of life. If you aren’t happy, you aren’t doing it right. Humans are creatures of habit. We create certain habits for the purpose of many different things. The outcome can give us pleasure, can give someone else pleasure, protect us… Some of these habits developed wayyyyy when you were a little kid. Now do you think its logical that what was best at the time for a 2 year old is best for a 30 year old? Even a 14 year old and a 30 year old? Most likely not. When things have been habit for so long though, years upon years,  it can hard to recognize what just isn’t doing you any service anymore. It is time to free yourself.

Well in the article I read they list 15 things that one has to give up if they want to start being happy. Pure and LASTING happiness always starts from inside. Here are the ideas:

1. Give up your need to always be right

 There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame

 Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk

 Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs

about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining

 Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change

 Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” 
Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels

 Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
 Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Which of these steps are you guilty of? How is it working out for you? How much happiness has it ended up costing you? There comes a time when you have to weigh your options and realize your happiness is important, and in the end, what we all strive for. If you aren’t happy NOW in the present, when are you going to be happy? The present is ALLLL you’ve got. So do what makes you happy NOW and I promise it will lead to actions that will cause you to be happy in the future. If that leads you to somewhere off the path of what you’re plans were, let it, at least you know it’ll lead you to somewhere you want to be.

My challenge is to be mindful in the steps above and how you contribute to them…where they take you…and try to let them go and just EXPERIENCE the difference and how it works out for you. 🙂 When you can be happy inside, you can them start to fully accept happiness from others and better yet, spread happiness to others. Your happiness is in the palm of YOUR hand.

xoxo,