Quick Update

Hey you…

Just here to give you a quick update as far as my good deeds go. Looks like another break, as far as blogging goes, may be needed. Basically I’m 8 months pregnant and have a case of pregnancy brain aka horrible memory.

Ive been forgetting to bring my journal with me to pick deeds for the week. I finally found it today so I will try to pick deeds daily but might not have time to post them for the week here.

I usually write blog posts either early morning before work or before bed the night before but with this little human inside of me sucking every piece of energy I have, its been a little more difficult. Plus ive been going into work early everyday to train my replacement. Which means being even more tired daily. Oh and add a kid and a fiance. Good thing they’ve been helpful and supportive. Wheeww im tired just writing this.

Friday is my last day of work for maternity leave so after that I will for sure be dedicating more time to my blog in general starting week. Ive been waiting to have this extra time to dedicate to you. Im excited!!

For now if u are interested in my good deeds of the day,  please stay tuned through my Facebook Page . I will post them as I pick them there.

Thanks for understanding and I can’t wait to get to a more regular schedule. 
Until then tell me whats been going on with you….have u committed any good deeds and random acts of kindness lately?

Xoxo
The Barista

Time Off

If you haven’t noticed, I did not post Good Deed Sunday, nor even  a late post yesterday. I have not been feeling too keen since Saturday and also been beyond busy. I have been feeling yucky in the stomach and just sort of nauseous. I thought this went out the window in the first trimester but feels like it’s back. Hopefully I am not getting sick.

I decided to take this week off for finding Good Deeds in the journal. This doesn’t mean I will not be mindful of random acts of kindness when and if the opportunities are available, I am just not going to commit to anything this week and take the pressure off from daily updates via Facebook.

I also do not know if it’s the pregnancy hormones or what, but for the last few days I have also just been feeling sort of down and somewhat defeated like I want to run away from everyone and everything but I have been reminded to surrender and let the spirit take care of all that I can not right now. SO I am being conscious of that.

I will update you on this last weeks deeds and how they went and communicate with you this Sunday (if not before) for the following deeds. The best part is, last week was RAOK week. RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS. But of course we try to make RAOK week a daily thing right?

wpid-20140209_183814.jpg2/9/14: BUY A NICE WATER BOTTLE so you will be less inclined to buy plastic bottles:
So I did not go out and buy a new water bottle although that was my intention. I did of course, clean off an existing water bottle that I love and will start to use that. For the most part, I do not buy bottled water often but I do drink water at work and use plastic cups so by bringing my own water bottle to work I can save on the plastic cups that I would be using.

BONUS DEED: LEAVE A BIG TIP:
On this day I was also able to fulfill an old deed from last week which was to leave a big tip. I went out to dinner with my son, to Chiles and I left the amazing waiter an 100% tip. That felt really good and I bet it made him smile.

2/10/14: PLAY FREEZE DANCE:
This one was fun. Like I previously said, I dance around my house a lot usually acting silly, so this one just added to the fun ness. I had my fiancé in control of the music while my son and I danced around the room. We would freeze when he stopped the music and often just laugh at each other. It was a nice short getaway outside the routine of dinner, homework, bedtime.

2/11/14: MYSTERY DEED aka (I forget exact wording) BRING YOUR CO-WORKERS A SURPRISE during the time of day you know everyone needs a pick me up:
I was unable to complete this one. My plan was to go to Jamba Juice during lunch and bring everyone back a some smoothie. But was unable to make it to Jamba Juice this day. I will try to do this before my last day of work though in two weeks.

2/12/14: scroll through your phone and CALL THE PERSON YOU’VE KNOWN THE LONGEST:
I actually completed this one the previous day, on 2/11. I did not count family members of course, just friends, and I called my long time friend Jessica. We have been best friends since we were 7 years old. Going on 23 years to be exact. The awesome thing is, we hadn’t talked in a while so it was something I was excited to do so I could catch up with her. She did not answer when I called but I was able to talk to her this last Sunday night and I get to see her this weekend. She lives in Northern California and I haven’t seen her since last April. So I’m excited to catch up.

2/13/14: BAKE WITH YOUR KIDS:
Usually I don’t have much time to bake during the week, rarely at all in general, but I made time this week just for that. I made some valentine cupcakes with my son. He got to do all the stirring and of course the best part of licking the spoon clean afterwards. That of course is always a favorite childhood memory. I made a short video but am unable to download it here. But the cupcakes came out wonderful.

2/14/14: BUY A BUNCH OF FLOWERS on your way to work. Give each one to a colleague you appreciate:
I actually completed this one on Thursday morning because most of my co-workers have Fridays off. I stopped at the grocery store that morning and bought a small bouquet of 6 orange roses and gave one to each of my co-workers including myself. It was a nice surprise and perfect way to kick off Valentine’s day.

If you remember from Friday’s post though, I was able to leave a few love notes on strangers cars. Hopefully they took the time to read them 🙂

2/15/14: Clean out your sweater drawer and TAKE EXTRAS TO CHARITY:
Saturday turned out to be a beyond busy day for me so I was unable to complete this deed BUT being that I am in nesting mode, I will make sure to do this one before the baby comes.

If you complete any deeds this last week, whether from my list or just your own, I would love to hear about them in honor of RAOK week.

Besides that, I had a maternity photo shoot this last Sunday and I have two baby showers coming up this weekend so I feel very excited about those. Only 6 weeks left and I’ll be a new mommy of two. Exciting and Scary all at once as I have no idea what to expect but of course you will be updated.

I will be resting this week and I hope you enjoyed your weekend and have a wonderful week!!!

xoxo,

barista

Good Deed Sunday 2/2/14 (Late Post)

So I have another late post for you. I had school all weekend so I really had no time that I could be on the computer unless it was cutting into my sleep. School also made it a bit harder this week in completing some of my good deeds because I was working on homework during the week which seemed to take more precedence.

The interesting part as I was preparing to write this blog and the deeds from last week, a piece of me really wanted to lie to you. I wanted it to seem like I completed all the deeds, completed the makeup deeds, and ended the month 31/31. It’s funny to notice that ego part that wants everything to seem “perfect, to not feel like I failed, to not feel judged. Then I come to the conclusion that the only person judging me is ME! I am judging myself in that moment. It’s like that quote “What others think of you is none of your business”…. I can not feel judged unless I am also judging myself. Especially when I DON’T know what others will or are thinking.

I know my intentions and my circumstances so there is no reason for me to feel ashamed. By lying, I would only be harming my self esteem by buying into the judgements that I placed on myself. So as I learned in class, one of the most powerful tools to healing is compassionate self forgiveness. Forgiving yourself for the judgements you place on yourself and others. So “I forgive myself for judging myself as failing…I forgive myself for buying into the belief that this process has to be perfect”.

So let’s get on to the deeds last week:

1/27/14: SAY GOOD MORNING TO YOUR CO-WORKERS:
This one was easy, because I do it everyday. I did make more effort to just say Good Morning to everyone else though too

wpid-IMG_2278.jpg1/28/14: MYSTERY DEED aka PUT A LOVE NOTE IN A LOVED ONES LUNCH:
So the loved one I chose never brings lunch to work so of course I made him a lunch this day and left him a cute little note with it. I left it on the counter as a surprise. Our little one tried t o ruin the surprise and tell  daddy to go look in the kitchen but daddy just thought it was mommy’s lunch. So I had to call him after I left and let him know the I made it for him.

BONUS:
Today I also completed the past deed of doing a TEn MINUTE MEDITATION. I completed the meditation in my counseling session.

1/29/14: DO A LITTLE DANCE AND BE SILLY:
I tend to complete this one a lot. Usually me and my son make up little dances and try to make daddy laugh. This time, my son was already sleep, so i just did a silly dance for the big boy. It included moonwalking so I bet you can just imagine.

1/30/14: LEAVE SOME HOMEMADE COOKIES AT YOUR NEIGHBORS DOOR:
So I picked this deed thinking that It would be easy to complete along with the other deed of making cookies and sharing. I have realized though that’s its not so easy for me to bake during the week so I may have to save these deeds for a weekend.

1/31/14: GIVE YOURSELF A PEP TALK:
This one was a good one for today because it was my first day back at school this month. I was also behind on doing homework and stressing about that, along with working and trying to get a lot of stuff done for a new person that I will be training. So although simple, my person pep talk was just telling myself to do the best I can, what gets done will get done, and let it go into the universe. PS: I got my homework back and got 200/200. YAY!

BONUS: I also completed the deed of BE MINDFUL of my please, thank yous, and you’re welcomes.

2/1/14: LET ANOTHER CAR TAKE THAT PARKING SPOT and smile and wave:
I picked this one for this day because I thought it would be easy since I have school and most people arrive at the same time. But when I arrived on this day there was no one there at the same exact time as me so really I had no one to give a spot to. The intentions were there but the opportunity was not. It will stay in my mind though.

and yesterday Sunday, If I’m sticking to the truth, I didn’t even pick a good deed. So there was nothing this day for Good Deeds to complete. Full day of school and forgot to look in the journal that morning.

SO FAR: this week with the bonus deeds, I completed 6 deeds still which is awesome bringing my count to 26 out of 33 deeds so far. AWESOME

THIS WEEKS DEEDS:

2/3/14: GIVE CREDIT WHEREVER YOU CAN

2/4/14: START A BIRTHDAY CALENDAR to help you remember to send cards

2/5/14: SMILE WHEN YOU TALK ON THE PHONE, it makes your voice friendly

2/6/14: bless your interruptions as an opportunity to TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND SMILE


2/7/14: MYSTERY DEED

2/8/14: LEAVE A BIG TIP
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Good Deed Sunday: 1/26/14 (Late Post)

Ok so during a previous week, I had a good deed of sending friends a Thank You note for being a good friend and it was awesome because this last week, everyone at separate times were sending me pictures of the little “love notes” I sent in the card and telling me how it was a pleasant surprise or how they needed it at that moment. So it felt really good to make some of my friends feel special.

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“Thank You for this. Things have been pretty hectic around here. I needed this!”

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“Super Cute!!! Thank You”

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“Amazing friends make my world go round. Thank You [Ashley]  for being you”

Let’s catch up for this last week and you can also see what the mystery deed was (I know it’s been killing you to know).

1/19/14: TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU LOVE THEM and appreciate them: 
As easy as this one is, or seems, it was a little strange for me to just do it out of the blue over the phone. I mean I’ve gotten into the habit of saying I say I Love You frequently to my parents but for some reason to, what would seem like random, to tell them I appreciate them felt more….(gasp) vulnerable. I haven’t always been in a place of being comfortable sharing feelings with my parents while I was growing up so I’m learning it still has somewhat of a hold on me now. Also I think with this day and age and having texting and messaging and that sort of stuff, I think society has a harder time sharing their feelings face to face or voice to voice. I didn’t want to pass on this good deed so I still completed it, and as much as I wanted to do it over the phone (because my parents don’t live close enough for me to see them), I was feeling too vulnerable in the moment, so I did it through a text message. Both parents replied and I could tell were grateful to hear that from me.

1/20/14: MYSTERY DEED aka SEND A FRIEND A BELOVED BOOK from your shelf:
The reason I picked this as a mystery deed is because this is the type of deed I like to be a surprise. I didn’t want any friends to EXPECT anything and like the element of surprising someone and them receiving something unexpected. This particular deed, one of my friends was mentioning a book she thought she should read because it kept appearing in her path and it was a book I have. I had not read it yet and knowing that I wasn’t going to have time any time soon, I sent the book for her to read. She doesn’t check her mail frequently so I don’t think she’s seen it yet, but I’m sure after this post she’ll go home and check tonight 🙂

1/21/14: HUG YOUR CHILD for no reason at all: 
This one is super easy because I hug my child all the time. He’s 5 so he’s constantly getting smothered in kisses and hugs from me. I thought this might be an interesting one for parents with older children because it might be something they don’t do as often, making it a pleasant surprise for their child. If you are a parent of an older child and you completed this deed, or want to complete it, share your experience in the comments below.

1/22/14: bake your favorite kind of cookies and SHARE: 
This is a deed I did not get a chance to do this week. I had no time the previous night to bake cookies so my plan was to bake them on this night and share them with my co-workers the following day and when I was going to make them, I didn’t have any eggs. I literally haven’t even gone to the grocery store since. 😦 I’m going tonight though, so I’ll make sure I pick up some eggs.

1/23/14: MEDITATE for ten minutes:
I have to admit, this one I did not remember to do. I was going to do it at lunch but then had errands to run so decided to do it at bedtime and forgot. 😦

1/24/14: BUY A COFFEE for the person behind you in line:
This one was fun because I don’t drink coffee and I rarely end up in a coffee shop. So on this day I deliberately went to Starbucks just to carry out this deed. I did not order a coffee for myself, I instead bought some food so I could quickly slip out before the person behind me knew they were getting their coffee paid for. The funny thing is, there was a really long line when I went in but no one was coming in after me. I was laughing in my head thinking “of course this happens”. When I was paying for my food, two people walked in. I gave the cashier a $20 and as she was going to give me my $15 change I told her to keep $10 and pay for the next one or two coffees behind me. As I was walking out I heard her say, “Oh she’s paying for your drink”. I didn’t turn around I just kept walking. It was kind of awesome to feel like some sort of mysterious deed lady haha.

1/25/14: TELL A STRANGER HIS/HER CHILD IS BEAUTIFUL: 
I had a lot of opportunity for this one this day because not only did I go to a child’s birthday party, but my son also had a basketball game. I told one of the mom’s at the birthday party that her daughter was beautiful. I’m sure she’s heard it before because her daughter was just so adorable, but as a parent I know it’s still feels nice when people say that.

1/26/14: BE HAPPY FOR SOMEONE and tell her.
I accidentally picked 8 deeds last week instead of 7 but being that I am late on this post it’s good that I had previously picked this for yesterday and it was already shared with everyone. I went to my fiance’s cousin’s girlfriends (you got that?) baby shower yesterday. It was so nice and beautiful. We are both pregnant and only 4 weeks apart from each other. It’s cool because the babies are cousins and will be close in age. By the end of the shower, I couldn’t remember if I had specifically told her I was happy for her so just in case, I wrote it again on her Facebook to let her know how excited and happy I am for both and I can’t wait to meet the little one.

So as January is coming to an end, I have officially completed 20 of 26 deeds that I have picked. Sometimes things happen or I won’t get the opportunity to do it on the specific day I was meaning to. For that, I want to at least try to have “make up” days before the end of that month. So this week I will be doubling up with new deeds as well as some that I have missed from the previous weeks.

The new deeds this week are:

1/27/14: SAY GOOD MORNING TO YOUR CO-WORKERS

1/28/14: ***MYSTERY DEED***

1/29/14: DO A LITTLE DANCE AND BE SILLY

1/30/14: LEAVE SOME HOMEMADE COOKIES AT YOUR NEIGHBORS DOOR

1/31/14: GIVE YOURSELF  A PEP TALK

2/1/14: LET ANOTHER CAR TAKE THAT PARKING SPOT, smile and wave

“Make Up Deeds”:
* Walk around your block and PICK UP TRASH”
*BE MINDFUL of saying “Please”, “Thank You”, and “You’re Welcome” (I halfway completed but wasn’t very mindful and could do better)
*WRITE A POSTCARD TO A LONG LOST FRIEND
*BE QUICK TO APOLOGIZE
*bake your favorite cookies and SHARE
*MEDITATE FOR TEN MINUTES

Can’t wait to see how this week goes and if you’ve been following along or would like to I would love to hear from you in the comments section below

xoxo,

barista

Good Deed Sunday: 1/19/14

Another week down of Good Deed’s accomplished. Yay! Let’s see how this last week went

1/12/14 BE MINDFUL of saying “Please” and “Thank You” and “You’re Welcome” – all day long
I kind of butchered this one because I wasn’t particularly mindful about it for the day. I know I say Thank You a lot, I try to make sure of it to show my appreciation for others effort and work, so I’m not doubting I didn’t say that throughout the day but I’m not so sure I was very mindful with the “Please” and “You’re Welcome”. I have a habit of saying “No Problem” when people say Thank You to me so I’m going to continue to work on the “You’re Welcome”. And also saying Please more often.

1/13/14: start a list of books you’d like to READ FOR FUN:
My for fun books are very similar to books I now have to read for school. Some sort of Self-Growth type of book is what I usually lean towards. I love expanding my knowledge and interest in the area. I rarely read many other types of books when I do read like fiction and such so if you have any suggestions, I would love to hear. It’s nice to read other types of books too. I have a list of books I need to finish reading as well as one’s I want to start. With school, I have so much reading, we read about 4 or so books at a time, so I’m not sure when I’ll get to the for fun list but I’m glad I now have one.

Books I want to finish reading:
*The Liar in Your Life – The Way to Truthful Relationships by:Robert Feldman
*Add More ING to Your Life by: Gabrielle Bernstein
*The Power of Intention by: Wayne Dyer
*Wishes Fulfilled – Mastering the Art of Manifesting by: Wayne Dyer (one I had for class that I didn’t finish)
*Love Lust and Faking It by: Jenny McCarthy

Books I want to start reading:
* A Course in Miracles by: Foundation for Inner Peace
* The Untethered Soul – The Journey Beyond Yourself by: Michael Singer
* Daring Greatly – How The Courage to Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead  by: Brene Brown (only read the first couple pages)
* The Four Agreements – A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by: Don Miguel Ruiz
* Daily Love – Lessons Learned on a Journey from Crisis to Grace by: Mastin Kipp (released Sept 2014)

1/14/14: EAT YOUR NEXT MEAL IN SILENCE (and away from a computer):
On this day I didn’t have too long of a lunch break but I ate my lunch in my car in silence. I’ll admit I had to fight the urge to pick up and check my cell phone. It’s interesting noticing that urge when you are specifically trying not to do so

1/15/14: STRIKE UP A CONVERSATION with a person at the cash register:
I completed this goal with the person at Trader Joes while I was doing my grocery shopping. I’ve always thought it could be somewhat awkward when you’re just standing there waiting and no one is really talking so it was nice to have a conversation.

1/16/14: BE QUICK TO APOLOGIZE:
Super Fail at this one. Again, was not too mindful of the deed this day until the day was over. Even got into a few small arguments this day that probably could have settled faster had I been mindful of this Good Deed for the day. I tell ya, that need to “BE RIGHT” is a kicker. It’s got a strong hold on me. I will need practice this deed more often.

wpid-20140117_154458.jpg1/17/14: SEND A FRIEND A THANK YOU NOTE for being a good friend: 
So far this has been one of my favorites. I’ve stood in the stationary section at Target so many times wanting to get cute Thank You cards so this was an awesome reason to be able to do that. I love the cards I got and instead of sending a card to ONE friend, I sent cards to 10 friends. I also found these cute little “LOVE NOTES” that i included in each card. Kind of like a fortune cookie, you have to tear open each note to reveal a cute saying inside about love. Part of me wanted to open each note and read it but I left that to my friends.

1/18/14: WRITE A POSTCARD TO A LONG LOST FRIEND:
This one was a little difficult yesterday because I could not find a postcard. BUT I did get a long lost friends address and will continue looking for a postcard today to send. If I can’t find a postcard, I’ll try to at least send a small card or note.

now on to the deeds for this week:

1/19/14: TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU LOVE THEM and appreciate them

1/20/14: ***MYSTERY DEED***

1/21/14: HUG YOUR CHILD FOR NO REASON AT ALL

1/22/14: bake your favorite kind of cookies and SHARE.

1/23/14: MEDITATE FOR TEN MINUTES

1/24/14: BUY A COFFEE for the person behind you in line

1/25/14: TELL A STRANGER HIS/HER CHILD IS BEAUTIFUL

1/26/14: BE HAPPY FOR SOMEBODY and tell her

***I’ve realized that some of the deeds I would like to complete without giving away what it’s going to be. Some deeds are more fun for both parties if no one expects it coming. So in the event there is a deed like this, you will see MYSTERY DEED, and I will let you know the deed during the following Sunday***

If you have followed along, I would love to know how the deeds have gone for you in the comments below. Or If you would like to follow along, keep me updated.

Don’t forget to follow my FACEBOOK PAGE so you can get a daily reminder of each deed.

xoxo,

barista

Good Deed 1/12/14 Continued…

So yesterday I didn’t get the chance to write the good deeds for the week so here ya go:

1/13/14: start a list of books you’d like to READ FOR FUN

1/14/14: EAT YOUR NEXT MEAL IN SILENCE (away from a computer)

1/15/14: STRIKE UP A CONVERSATION with the person at the cash register

1/16/14: BE QUICK TO APOLOGIZE

1/17/14: SEND A FRIEND A THANK YOU NOTE for being a good friend

1/18/14: WRITE A POSTCARD TO A LONG LOST FRIEND

 

have fun this week and let me know how it goes!

xoxo,

barista