Wise New Year Words From Dr. Wayne Dyer

Via Dr. Wayne Dyer’s Facebook Page:

Today is the dawn of the New Year. So you’re probably working on a list of things that you’d like to get done in 2015. Well, I’d like to ask you to forget about making these resolutions. Forget about deciding on the first day of January how you will be conducting your life in September, some nine months later. Any resolution that involves making decisions about future behaviors is a waste of time. It also reinforces the self-defeating notion of living in the future.

For 2015, wouldn’t you rather live in the present moment?

This day that you’re living right now is the only day you get. Period. You can resolve to be skinny when next July rolls around, or to quit smoking next month, or to write that book you’ve been meaning to, or to embark on your overdue exercise program by the end of this year. You can go about resolving until the cows come home, and you still have to live your life just like everyone else on the planet: One day at a time.

You can only live minute to minute. You can certainly use up your present moments thinking about what you’ll be doing in the future, but that doesn’t change the fact that you can only live in the now. The important question to be asking yourself is:

How am I going to live in the present moment this year?

Will I waste these moments reviewing the way I used to behave? Will I waste these moments reviewing how I would like to behave in the future rather than resolving to live each day to the fullest?

The New Year is a good time to initiate a plan so you can make some changes and help live your life to the fullest. See if you can practice thinking differently. Decide very specifically what it is that you would like to change about yourself in 2015. If you have some goals in mind, vow to work on them day by day rather than making them a year-long project.

When you set up day-to-day goals for yourself, you can begin living this way for the rest of your life. Remember this little piece of advice, which will be extremely helpful to you if you can incorporate it into your life: When you go for one entire day without eating sugar (or not smoking, or being assertive, or any other new behavior), you are a totally different person at the end of that day. What you must learn to do is let that totally different person decide on the second day whether to do it again on this new day, rather than letting the same old person decide today that it is going to be difficult in a couple of days anyhow, so what’s the use. Always let the New You make the decision, and then you’ll be living your present moments.

Remember, you are in control of all thoughts in your head. When you are using up your present moments to worry about the future, constantly reviewing the past to come up with how you should have done it differently, or contemplating disaster, remind yourself that you are wasting this particular present moment.

Practice cancelling out negative thoughts for a few minutes at a time. Vow to enjoy the next five minutes regardless of what has previously transpired or what you think is about to happen. Remind yourself of the folly of wasting your present moments on mental activity that focuses exclusively on your past or imagined future. All of your thoughts about what you should have done, or how terrible things were in the past will not change one tiny slice of the past.

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As you celebrate this New Year and each precious present moment, here are 10 reminders to help you live in the Now:

1. Remember that habits are changed by practicing new behavior. By practicing new thinking every five minutes, you’ll soon begin to master the art of present-moment living.
2. Do an honest assessment of your “problems.” You’ll very likely discover that almost all of your problems are really in your head and not located in reality.
3. Take time to be mindful of everything around you. Begin to look at your entire surroundings in a new light. Observe every detail on every face, every building and every object. If you do this often enough it will become a habit that will facilitate your being alive in every moment of the year.
4. Change your attitude. Begin an attitude-redevelopment plan. That means practice enjoying everything you do.
5. Be specific about what you want and take action. Decide on one thing that you would like to work on and do it today. Work at it daily, rather than making it a long-range objective.
6. Create a self-improvement agenda for yourself. Put on your agenda whatever activities you’ve always thought about but never had time to do. Do them now.
7. Rid yourself of mundane chores that are not really that important. Spend more time making your life a pleasure.
8. Eliminate procrastination as a lifestyle. Instead of talking to yourself about what you are going to do next week or even tomorrow, use this time to start a new task.
9. Don’t give up control of your life to others. You cannot enjoy the present moment if you are busy trying to make everyone else like you. People respect you more when you operate from a position of strength and self-reliance.
10. Feel good about yourself. You are a magnificent human being. Always feel good about that self that you are always with.

For 2015, as I have for many other years, I vow to be fully alive and see the world the way Walt Whitman described it to be many years ago: “To me…every cubic inch of space is a miracle.” I really believe that.

I wish you a New Year filled with many miracles. May you live a long and productive life—one present moment at a time.

Love,
I AM,
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

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14 Exciting New Ways to Kickoff 2014!

Happy New Year!!!! Welcome to the year 2014. Another year that will be filled with greatness. As I was looking over my last year, I discovered how many firsts were completed. How many dreams were manifested. I can’t help but be grateful for what’s come to me and excited for all coming this next year.

Its time for us to keep Breaking The Shell and continue steping out of the comfort zone. Expand the horizons. Check things off the bucket list. Get adventurous. Manifest your dream life. Yolo right?


Here are 14 things you can do to Kickoff 2014:

 

1. Make A Vision Board
Get out all those magazines, glue sticks, and scissors and start scrapping your visions for the year. You can host or go to a party or put on some Super Soul Sunday and make it on your own. Go through the magazines and cut out any pictures and words that make you feel good and represent things you want to happen for you. Paste them on a poster board to hang up somewhere you can see it everyday. Vision boards are amazing ways to get a representation of what’s currently on your mind and an even more amazing way to feel and stay motivated through out the year. Why settling with just a cut out on the fridge when you can have a whole poster of things that brighten your day.

2. Plan a Retreat
Whether it’s for a month, a week, a weekend, or just one night, I want you to plan a retreat that you want to go on this year. Plan it as a family trip, a friends weekend away, or a private getaway for just you. We can all agree that vacations are relaxing and something we all need. Pick a place you’ve always wanted to go with events you’ve always wanted to try. Figure out travel arrangements, where you will stay, your itinerary for the time you will be there, everything from beginning to end. The one thing I don’t want you to do is think about the cost or how unrealistic the trip is. It doesn’t matter if you ever end up going on the trip or not but the idea is to put your dreams into the universe. Who knows, maybe you’ll realize how doable you retreat really is, or maybe someway, somehow it will manifest into your life on it’s own.

3. Start a New Class
Have you ever wanted to learn how to make cakes like a cake boss? Paint like Picasso? Act like Brad Pitt? Or simply just try Bikram Yoga? Think of something you’ve always wanted to try and sign up for a class. Take a baking class, sign up for salsa, join a meditation group, or get a month pass for an exercise class. 90% of the work to starting a new routine is just starting. Not only is this a good way to scratch a goal off the bucket list but it’s also a great way to get out of the house and meet new friends.

4. Try a New Restaurant
Drive down the street and see if there is any place that you never eaten at before. And if you haven’t had that type of food, even better. If you live in a small town and have tried every place, then drive to the next city and see what comes up there. We get so used to going to the same places over and over that we may be missing out on the little gem right in front of our noses. Another good idea is to try a new item on the menu. Start expanding your horizons.

5. Just Drive
Take a solo drive and just drive. Find the road less traveled and see where it takes you. We all have navigation on our phones or in our cars these days so don’t worry about getting lost. Just drive, listen to fun music, and use the time alone to dream.

6. Write a handwritten letter to a friend
And send it to them. Don’t you love getting mail that isn’t a bill. Especially when it’s unexpected. How long has been since you’ve actually handwritten letter? Get out some pretty stationary, write something awesome for someone you care about, even better if it’s someone you don’t get to speak to often, and send it this weekend. Put some glitter in the envelope too 🙂 Glitter always makes people smile.

7. Splurge on a new outfit.
Don’t wait until you reach your goal weight. Buy a new outfit NOW! Splurge on some new shoes that you like or a new dress/suit. Why wait? The future never comes so feel good now!!!  And if there’s something you want that is really out of your range, take a picture of it and put it on your vision board.

8. Put the Phone Down.
Isn’t it awkward these days now when you go out and all you see are people on there phones. I can easily admit that I can be that person. I have been working on becoming more aware and putting my phone down often but let’s plan to REALLY start living in the real world instead of the virtual world in our hands. When you go out to eat, everyone leave your phone in the car. When you’re at home, leave your phone in the room. When you’re in the elevator, TALK to the person in there with you. As great as technology is and the availability of information and communication, ironically it’s enabled us to communicate less face to face. Regain that connection with your fellow humans by becoming present! Maybe even choose to spend one day a week without your phone all day. No matter how much you think you need it, for work, emails, emergencies etc…..remember there used to be a time when we didn’t have cell phones. There’s always a way to figure it out!

9. Carry Your Camera Around
And no not your phone camera. Start bringing your point and shoot or your DSLR with you and take some pictures. Capture memories. Get creative. Take pictures of the places you go, the people you’re with, colors and patterns you see, and NOT the food you eat. Trust me you’ll be so happy you’ll have these memories later in life. Get them printed and hang them on your wall  or make a canvas for a friend.

10. Have a Game Night
Nothing is better then having some friends over and playing some games. You can even go back to childhood and have a Connect Four Tournament or Battle Ship wars. Just have fun, laugh, and feel like a kid again.

11. Trade Recipes
Who doesn’t like being able to make new foods. Get a small group of 7 friends and trade new easy recipes with each other. Write your favorite receipe down on 7 different note cards and pass them out to your friends while they pass theirs to you. By the end of the exchange, you’ll have a weeks worth of new ideas to try.

12. Sit in Silence
Whether in your room or on top on  a hillside somewhere, just sit in silence. Close your eyes or keep them open. Listen to the sounds around you, feel the energy in your body, smell the scent of the air. Listen to the thoughts in your head. Just breathe and appreciate the life that you live

13. Clean Up

Go through your closet, your garage, your junk drawers and get rid of anything you don’t need or don’t use. If you haven’t used it in this last year (and know you wont this next year) then get rid of it. If you know you won’t ever have a yard sale just take everything to the Good Will. Get it out your house and give it away. Not only is that clearing the clutter in your place, but it’s clearing the clutter in your brain. You will FEEL more energized because you will free up the energy you spent always “thinking” you needed to get rid of it. JUST START!

14. SMILE
Life is too short to worry about anything else but being happy. Smile…it’s contagious. Smile at a stranger, smile at your family, smile at your friends, look in the mirror and smile at yourself. Smile at your face, your body, your soul. No matter how you were feeling before, I promise, all it takes is a smile to raise your energy level even if just a little.

 

HERE’S TO 2014…A YEAR BOUND TO BEAT THE REST

How To Free Up Your Energy and Enjoy The Present.

Do you sometimes find yourself wondering where all your energy has gone? A couple of months ago I found myself in that place and had no idea why I had been so tired and drained. I thought maybe something was wrong with my health, so I went to the doctors and they took a bunch of blood test, (when I say a bunch, think about 20 viles worth) and like I feared, besides being a bit low on vitamin D, everything seemed fine. I say feared because it’s like I wanted to see if there was SOMETHING wrong so I could then have an answer as to why I was feeling the way I did. When everything came back fine, then I was back at square one not knowing the answer or how to reach a solution.

I know there are many things that could affect our energy, such as our diet, or simply maybe we’re just doing too much. Sometimes it can even be more obvious than that though. What about just the things we SAID we would do but never get around to. How does that take a toll on our energy levels? Do you have those books you bought that you keep meaning to read but don’t seem to find the time? What about cleaning the garage like you said you would a few months ago? Maybe just buying that plant for your living room that you keep forgetting about?

Living in the world we live in now, where we have so much stimuli going on around us and busy seems to mean we’re important, we get into the habit of over committing or putting too much on our plate. Doing too much at the same time or in each day. Since when did busy mean better?

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Some people juggle getting kids ready for school, working a full shift, running a few errands, making time for the gym, taking kids to practice, making dinner for the family, catching up on a side business when everyone is asleep, and finally getting to bed, all in one days work just to wake up and do it all over again tomorrow. Then the weekend comes where it would seem to be rest time, and here comes birthday parties, and taking kids to sports or activities, tending to the backyard and cleaning the house, doing laundry, etc. and before you know it, it’s back to Monday. Oh Monday! If this is you, I could imagine how you are tired and where your energy is going. Look at all those areas where your energy is being expended.

Now add on top of that, remembering all those unread books, or that dirty garage, or that corner of the room with the missing the plant. All those internal commitments use energy too and although is seems like it can’t be taking too much energy, it may be taking more energy then some of the things you are actually doing. So even those of you that don’t have a “busy” day like the one I played through above, you still could find yourself lacking energy because it’s geared towards all the unfulfilled commitments you have yet to do. Every time we say we are going to do something and we do not get around to it, that is good energy that we are just mortgaging, unable to use elsewhere.

To get a clear picture of this, I want you to make two lists. One of your current scene, that lists all the things/activites you have going on in which you are physically extending energy to. You can get detailed or just straight forward

example of some things on my list (very straight forward)
*Relationship
*Child
*Job
*Photography
*School
*Son’s Sports
*Reading books for school
*Homework
*Blog
*Planning a party
*Hanging out with friends
*An argument with a family member

you get the point. Any and everything that your energy is currently going to.

Now, make a second list of all those things you said you would do but never seem to get around to it. When I say you never get around to it, I mean not even a little bit. Meaning you can put the gym down if you really never get to the gym, but don’t put it on the list if you only go 2 times a week instead of the 4 times that you want. That’s something that can go on the above list. Make sense? So stuff like, cleaning out your closet, throwing away old papers, etc.

Examples of stuff on my list:
*Books I’ve been meaning to read
*Organizing stuff in the garage
*Cleaning out old toys and giving them away
*Taking the toys from Tyson’s birthday (back in April) to Children’s Hospital
*Juicing again in the morning
*Buy new plants for the backyard
*Buy new bedsheets/comforter for my bed
*Editing pictures from a free photoshoot I did for a family member.
*Helping my son practice how to ride his bike without training wheels.
*Cleaning the trunk of my car

That’s already a lot of stuff and I had way more on the list. But do you get the point? There’s all this energy that is physically being used day to day and then a bunch of energy being used just thinking about all the things you committed to doing but haven’t done yet. NO WONDER WE’RE SO TIRED!!! We’re spinning 100 plates on sticks all while only being able to give each one a fraction of our attention at a time. Not only is that energy drained, but half ass work getting done. Plates will eventually start to fall and now you’ve just added mess to clean up to your To-Do list.  

So how do we clean this up? How do we get our energy back? Well for starters, let’s work on actually completing some of the things on list #2. How about we just remove some plates. Maybe seems a little crazy to basically add on to list #1 BUT most likely the things on list #2 are things that once complete, it’s complete. It’s not ongoing like a relationship or job would be. So why not make all that mortgaged energy useful and then available for your everyday life. All those things you need to do in the future, let em go. You just took some plates off, relax! Remember the goal is to stay present and not drain ourselves by the shoulda/woulda/couldas. Then we can work on completing some of the stuff on our first list leaving us not only more energy but more time to just enjoy what is.

To start this process right now, I want you to write one more list. Make a list of things you know you can ABSOLUTELY without a doubt complete this month. We want to take baby steps here to avoid not over committing again. Not only will fulfilling these commitments free up your energy but it will always make you FEEL good for following through with what you said you were going to do. If it’s only one or two things that is totally fine. I want you to win!! If it’s reading a book you haven’t gotten to, something as simple as skimming through the entire book in a few minutes can be helpful. If going to the gym is on your list, just getting there, swiping your card and leaving could make a difference.

Some things on my list I will complete in the next month:
*Go outside with Tyson at least once so he can ride his bike
*Buy new plants for the backyard
*Workout at least 5 times
*Sign up for Oprah and Deepak meditation series.
*Make a blog post at least two times a week

Now go down that list and  enthusiastically talk about and imagine you doing it RIGHT NOW!!! The mind can’t tell the difference between you just thinking something and actually doing it and studies show that if you get in the habit of visualizing, it is more likely that you WILL actually do that thing you are imagining yourself doing. Get excited, get detailed. Go over with a friend your vision, Picture the room, the people involved, the sounds, the smells. Most importantly picture it and feel it. Just witness how much energy you free up this next week or month and only commit to things you can complete. Be truthful. It’s better to not make any commitments then to leave commitments unfulfilled. Not only will you lessen the number of spinning plates but you’ll be able to gear more love into each one, producing amazing results. Keep me updated!!!

the higher your energy level the more efficient your body the more efficient your body the better you feel copy

xoxo,

 barista

Reflect on the Journey

It’s the last day of the year!!! Some never thought we’d make it to see this day but we’re here at the end of chapter on another year with promise and hope for many more to come.

hindsight-rear-view-future-past-road-mirrorI like for everyone to take some time today and REALLY reflect on this past year and what has happened.

As I look back on 2012, I remember the feeling I had last January and knowing that 2012 was going to be a BEGINNING to awesome things and boy have I manifested that. I started this blog which is a huge step in the direction I want to go. I went to New York for the first time and with my mother of which we hadn’t been on a vacation together for a loooong time. I tried some things I’d never done before like zip lining and parasailing. Both also taking me out of my comfort zone due to my fear of heights. I got engaged to my love and the father of my child of whom I’ve been involved with for the last 7 years. I experienced freedom by setting some truths free and the outcome forced me to grow. We moved into a new house of which we absolutely love, in the process let go of some old and welcomed some new. I’ve been able to spend some amazing quality time with my family. We’ve decided that we want another baby. I created a model of an app idea I’ve been sitting on for two years, and met with some people to see what it’s going to take to make it. I got to meet and have a short conversation with a huge inspirator of mine, Mastin Kipp. I’ve learned more about living a healthy lifestyle. I’ve witnessed new beginnings for my loved ones around me be it babies, marriages, new boyfriends, new schools, new houses, new jobs, new perspectives. I’ve felt love, loss, anxiety, calm, peace, pain, happiness, joy, and a multitude of other emotions! I EMBRACE IT ALL. I am now equipped with knowing even more of what I want to create for myself and my future.

Sometime today, preferably before things get too wild, try to sit down in a quiet space and just go over all the events that took place this last 12 months. Were there things you did for the first time? Did you do something you’ve always wanted to do? Did you step out of your comfort zone? If so, what was the outcome? Did something terrible happen to you at all? What were the lessons learned? How have you become better? Can you see, even a little, how it fits the bigger picture? What were your moments of joy? Did you do anything to step closer to your dreams?

Years come and go and some of us never fully take the time to reflect on our journey. It is fufilling to take a rest break, look back at all the places you’ve been, painful, joyful, loving, or hard and just fully welcome who you are today because of everything. To let go for a second all the woulda coulda shouldas, the whatifs and maybes, and embrace ALL your experiences.

Tomorrow we can focus on our blank canvas of the new year. Today let’s be thankful for our journeys thus far!

xoxo,
barista

Making Changes.

Happy Holidays Everyone! So I’ve been visiting with my mother for the last 6 nights and while I’ve been here I have gotten this very familiar feeling. It could be because New Years is coming up and we all have those good ‘ol resolutions we all like to make, but this feeling is one of really wanting to make big changes in my life.

I feel like lately I have been tested in different way to show me that I need to live the life I want to live. BE the way I say I want to be. I believe we all have an idea of the type of person we want to become (you know those whispers in your head) and the universe is constantly testing us to see how dedicated we are to living that truth. Isn’t is funny, when you think about being healthy and you even start going to the gym, you get invited to that birthday dinner and surrounded by food that you shouldn’t be eating. What about when you think about wanting to be a compassionate person and then that person you can’t stand is randomly thrown into your path. These are moments in which you are being tested. Will you fail or will you pass? Well it depends on how committed you are.

What has come up a lot for me while I have been here is my eating habits, which propelled me  into thinking about a bunch of other things I want out of my life, some even so simple. It’s the holiday season so yea I have been around a lot of not so good food. Ok, ok, I admit I’ve lived off of red velvet mini cupcakes, green olives, and sugar cookies!!! This has indeed been a reminder of how I DON’T want to live. I know, I should be able to excuse myself for the sake of the holidays, which could be true if I had eaten healthy the rest of the year, but really the opposite has been true. At least for the last few months. I have been very very gluttonous to say the least.

This morning was looking at a bunch of people’s before and after pics from eating clean, and training hard, and I just felt this motivation inside of me to really become that person that can follow through on her goals. I have been so close in the past and it’s almost like when I knew what I was doing was working, or that I was succeeding at my goal, I started to mess it up. Like I wanted to prove to myself “see I’m not worthy”. Today that familiarity came with thinking that “I AM WORTHY”. Knowing that I CAN make the changes I want to make. Knowing that I do deserve to reach my goals. You do too!!! It was a familiar feeling because deep down its the pure thought and it’s this single thought that will change your life because you are destined to live the life you dream. We all know that thoughts lead to action. So what actions have you been taking? How have your thoughts contributed to that?

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I feel like in my head, I know a bunch of changes I want to make, goals I want met, and it’s easy to “forget” what they all are at certain times, or not think of them often. So I think I want to write them all down. I just got a new journal that I want to start writing in so maybe that’s a perfect place to start. For some reason, writing things down makes them a little more permanent. Also when you make lists like that you start to think more clearly and you can come up with some things you may have not even thought about to a certain extent before.

I know we still have a few days before the New Year but today I want you to make a list of the things you want to work on. Juicing every morning, washing your face every night, having 10 minutes to yourself every afternoon, doing something new once a month…I challenge you to write all the things you want to change, start, do. Do it without judgement. Remember you can’t begin to change something if you can’t admit it needs changing. Start today!! This way when the new year comes, you are ready with your list and you are motivated with a clear vision already in sight. I’m interested in some of the things on your list. I’ll share mine when it’s done. I’ve actually been dying to do this!!! Don’t forget, you can continue to add to this list as you think of more things. Just make sure you WRITE IT DOWN! Watch how an act so simple will change your perspective!

xoxo,

barista