The Invitation

A classmate posted this in our USM group and I absolutely loved it. Speaks Loud.

 

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The Invitation   By: Oriah Mountain Dreamer

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, ‘Yes.’

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

 

:::sigh:::

 

xoxo,

barista

Positively Positive: The real SECRET to achieving more success than you can ever imagine!

Re-Post from Positively Positive.

Written by Kute Blackson

There are so many books today on success that will teach you…

How to make millions without any effort.

How to get everything and anything that you want whenever you want it.

How to manifest your soulmate to your exact specifications in less than seven days. Guaranteed!

There are so many promises of success formulas and secret affirmations to control your reality exactly how you want it.

They are all great, but if you practice the key I am about to share with you, you will manifest beyond your wildest dreams.

We tend to think that we know what we want, but, often, we are determining what we want based on who we think we are.

It is indeed helpful to be as clear as possible about what you want in life.

However, sometimes, it can be easy to get so attached to what you think your goals should look like or how you think life should be that you block the flow.

The mind can only take you so far, sometimes limiting what’s possible because it can’t see the whole picture. It functions in a purely linear and logical manner.

So what is the secret key to success?

Surrender.

Yes, surrender.

Surrender is not about giving up. Rather, it’s about opening beyond your mind’s perception to the highest good that is possible in any situation.

Surrender is a giving up of your limited idea of what you think should be and being open to the infinite fulfillment and creativity of the Universe manifesting.

Surrender doesn’t mean not being in action. It’s about bringing your actions into alignment with the highest flow and working in harmony with life.

Your intention and prayer becomes: “Universe, I ask for only the highest possible outcome for my Soul and all concerned. Only the highest outcome!”

Trust that your soul has an intelligence that is way beyond your mind.

When you surrender, you tap into a higher level of wisdom. When you surrender, you tap into infinite intelligence. When you surrender, you access the zone of miracles.

You may not always get what you thought you wanted. But, in surrendering, you receive what your soul is most needing at this moment.

As you evolve, you often realize, in retrospect, that what you thought you wanted was not necessarily the case.

Trust bigger than your mind.

Real success isn’t simply about what you achieve but who you become and how you evolve as a soul.

What you achieve will come and go. Who you become will remain forever.

When you surrender, you go beyond your mind and bring yourself in sync with the entire universe that is already working on your behalf, rather than just your limited small self.

You will find that incredible things will happen in ways that are beyond what you originally planned.

Surrender and set yourself free.

Surrender and you will see the miracles manifesting all around.

Surrender and you will achieve success beyond anything you can imagine.

I would love to hear your comments below. Tell me about a time in your life when things turned out in a way that surpassed your best expectations.

Love.Now

Kute


If you are ready to achieve the next level of your success, then join me on a life changing journey—Boundless Bali Bliss.


Kute Blackson is a life coach and speaker. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom. For more on Kute, please visit his website and follow him on Twitter.

The Butterfly

I came across the story below and thought it had simple meaning worth sharing.

You know when you hear someone else talking and sharing experiences with you and, from the outside looking in, and the solution seems so obvious. How many times do you wanna just shake people and just scream “How can you not know the answer?” Ok maybe I’m the only one that wants to get physical.

Especially when it’s someone you really care about, it can be hard not to force YOUR idea of what’s best for them. Maybe you’ve gone through a similar experience before, maybe we’ve seen them go through a similar experience before….One reason we do things like this, is because we are trying to save others from a struggle we think they can avoid… Besides we are “just trying to help”.  Truth is, no one knows what’s best for someone else. Only you know what’s best for you and they know what’s best for them.

Having open conversations, giving WANTED advice, and sharing knowledge can be very harmless but we have to know when to let go and let others go through what they need to go through. We have to trust that they will learn exactly they need to learn, to grow into exactly the person they need to become. We all have a journey.

The Story of the Butterfly

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly.
One day a small opening appeared.
He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours
as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole.
Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further.

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So the man decided to help the butterfly.
He took a pair of scissors and
snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon.
The butterfly emerged easily but
it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch it,
expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge
and expand enough to support the body,
Neither happened!
In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life
crawling around.
It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness
and haste did not understand:
The restricting cocoon and the struggle
required by the butterfly to get through the opening
was a way of forcing the fluid from the body
into the wings so that it would be ready
for flight once that was achieved.

Sometimes struggles are exactly
what we need in our lives.
Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us.
We will not be as strong as we could have been
and we would never fly.

Are there ways in which you can relate to the butterfly? Are there ways in which you can relate to the man? How can you can accept the struggles in your life and in others?

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your thoughts or story in the comments below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else

xoxo,

barista

Creating “Miracles” from Juicing

After 93 hours of juice fasting, I had my first full meal on Friday night. I went into the fast with the “I’ll TRY” attitude and never really intended to make it through 7 days. Hell I never though I’d make it far past 1 day but I did a whole heck of a lot better than I imagined. I also feel like I learned so much in the time period I did it.

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The first two days for me were soooooo incredibly hard. You already read how the first day went, well day 2 went pretty similar. I had the same typical obsessive thoughts about food and relating the WANT to taste and chew something to the thought of starvation. More headache and a little light-headedness. I started the morning sipping a juice and had another smoothie at lunchtime which held me over the rest of the work day. I then came home and got ready for the gym. This time I was able to get into a Zumba class so I didn’t have to worry so much about doing boring cardio and thinking about food the whole time.

My son had come to the gym with me and afterwards he wanted some food from Chick-Fil-A. They do have some of the best chicken nuggets I’ve tasted so I knew this was going to be hard. While in the line I was thinking “Maybe I’ll just get the three-piece chicken tenders”. I ordered his food and the attendant ask the closing question, “Would you like anything else?”. As much as I wanted to order me some tenders, I replied “No, that’s it”. I was proud of myself for not giving in. Or as I like to say, telling my “fuck it” brain to fuck off!

He was eating in the back seat and by the time he got home he said he was done. I put him to bed and went back downstairs to check out the left over food. There was one chicken nugget and some french fries. I wanted to throw it all away but my mind got the best of me and I ate the chicken nugget. Knowing that I was going against what I had wanted, I took the french fries and fed them to the dogs. I then went upstairs and went to bed. The funniest thing happened next

I was asking my boyfriend how he was doing with the fast, he said he was fine. I asked him if he had any food at all. He said no at first and then I was telling him how someone had eaten the nuts that were in the pantry. He then broke down and said “Ok, I ate some”. I laughed and said “Oh, so you lied to me”. He answered saying that he was lying to himself. Isnt that something familiar? I’m pretty sure we all try to lie to ourselves about certain things. We act as if we can believe the lie then maybe whatever it is didn’t really happen or exist. We try to make ourselves feel better, not by accepting the truth, but trying to believe a lie.

It was funny because the next thing I said was “OK FINE, I had one of the chicken nuggets”. It was like we both wanted to lie, but honestly it felt so good to tell the truth. It was so funny at the same time because here we are both admitting to eating very small portions of food as if it were bad and we didn’t want to go to hell. There was no judging, we laughed about it and went to sleep.

After I made it past day 1 and 2, I was figuring day 3 was my goal. I wanted to make it through 3 days and see how I felt. Day 3 was a breeze. I hadn’t really thought much about eating at all. I felt like I had the most energy I’ve had in the earlier 2 days and my “starvation” had gone away. I heard usually  after 2-3 days the hunger goes away and I wanted to know if that was true and how not being “hungry” after 3 days of not really eating anything felt.  I felt awesome I and I felt like I had reached my point of satisfaction.

Since we are telling the truth here, ONE of the main reasons I was interested in starting the fast was to lose weight. I had gained weight and was 10 lbs heavier than normal. After spending the last couple months binge eating and eating horribly, the calories had got me. So I was excited to lose a few pounds, especially before leaving for Bali in a few days. The other reason was still true though, I wanted to challenge my discipline and get my control  back. After these last few days, became just an added bonus to what I really got out of it.

I knew that food had a hold on me. During that time period I was gaining ten pounds, I knew so many times when I had eaten stuff I knew inside I didn’t really want to eat but had given in to what I played off as a “weakness”. Its amusing when you actually notice those moments in which you have to make a decision either go towards what your inner self is aligned to or go against it. One of the most important steps in making any type of change is being able to recognize those moments. Do I continue down the path of which I am used to, or do I choose something different? Choosing the path you are used to is usually the easy choice. Usually when it’s easy, you aren’t learning. That moment you decide to choose something different then what you are used to, you have created, what Gabrielle Bernstein would call a “miracle” and you have opened the door to learn something new.

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Throughout this process I’ve had  a few of those moments. The first 20 minutes I was in work I had this moment while staring at chocolate. In 9/10 cases I would have chosen to eat the chocolate. I debated over it in my head and I chose to do something different. I chose to stay on the path in which I wanted to follow. And guess how I knew that was the right path? Because it felt good! I didn’t regret my decision and I didn’t feel bad about it. One of the sure-fire ways to know you are aligned is…YOU FEEL GOOD! A few times I gave in and did what I would normally do. When I ate the pineapple on day 1, I was in that moment and decided to go against myself. I knew the moment right before I chose to eat it that I was eating it because I was making a “fuck it” choice. Something inside of me KNEW that I didn’t need it, that I didn’t want it, that eating it wasn’t aligned to my true choice but that part of me that is used to giving in, gave in.

During the time that I was fasting, especially after making it through day 1 and 2, I realized that I have so much more control over my choices then I give myself credit for. Even through the moments I gave in, there is something to be said about taking responsibility over those choices as well. Realizing that every moment I have a choice and taking full responsibility for my choices, even if they are against my inner self, gives me a sense of freedom. Cutting the excuses and releasing the blame can be very empowering.

Being able  to get through these few days showed me that all the excuses and blame I placed on why my eating habits were the way they were, didn’t really exist. There was no truth behind the excuses or the blame. All the excuses or blame did was made me feel powerless to the choices I was previously making. “I have a sweet tooth”, “I’ll start eating better tomorrow”, “I already fucked up so why stop”. Being able to hold a steady ground pushed those statements out the door.

The best part is, when I did decide to eat on Friday, I was at ESPNZone and there were so many bad things I could have gotten. But again, I had that moment in which I had to make a decision. Trust me, I wanted nothing more than to have some hot wings or some artichoke and spinach dip but in that moment I knew that those things weren’t aligned to my goals so I chose a chicken salad with the dressing on the side.

Now that I have tested myself and I have proof that I can stay on the path in which I want to follow, there is absolutely no excuse or blame for going the other way. If in moments I choose to go the other way, all I have to do is take  responsibility and learn from it. I believe those moments in which I “gave in” were necessary to further that lesson.

I know that I don’t have to eat a chocolate every time I see it. I know that I’m not  gonna die just because I’m not “chewing” something. I know that I don’t have to pick the most unhealthy meal just because it’s an option. I know that if I can  handle a few days of not eating food, that when I do eat it, I don’t have to go overboard. I know that  I have become more mindful to the thoughts that play out in my head and the control I was letting them have on me. I am more mindful of my actions. In that I can be more mindful to my habits and turn them into intentions.

Even though I had a meal on Friday and a meal on Saturday.  I don’t think I am done with the lessons quite yet. I am going to continue on this “juicing” journey. I will place no restrictions on myself but I will continue to pay attention to my mind and my body and listen to what it is teaching me.

My challenge to you is, try to become aware of those moments in which you have a choice…. and choose differently. Even if its something small. Those small “miracles” will lead to great change!

xoxo,

barista

Mind Over Matter

Let me just say, nothing is more annoying than spending a lot of time writing a post and it not saving at the end… ya that just happened.

ROUND 2:

mind_over_matterSo last week my cousin decided she wanted to try a 7 day water fast. I told her “GOOD LUCK”. Being that I had tried a 24 hour water fast before, and how hard it was for me, I for sure thought 7 days would be unbearable. Believe it or not some people do 21 to 30 days or even longer. So in the scheme maybe 7 days isn’t so bad. 24 hours should be icing on the cake right?

Well during my 24 hours I not only obsessed about food, but I got a really bad headache as well which is a common side effect. I for sure thought my cousin would be in worse shape. Headaches, no energy, wanting to sleep all day, maybe even give in and eat. To my surprise she did a great job. I wasn’t with her during the day and maybe she slept a lot I dunno, but to me she seemed fine. She was taking hot yoga classes, we went on a hike (where I’m not gonna lie, she had a hard time), she even walked around for a few hours with me at a bridal expo. It seemed like she didn’t even have the urge to eat. Her first day, I wasn’t even thinking and asked her to go grocery shopping for me. What a brat I am!! But she didn’t eat food, and she didn’t get sick. She appeared to have fine energy, and again, she did a great job! Her thought was “Why wouldn’t I be normal?” MIND OVER MATTER.

She decided for the following 7 days she would ease herself into a juice fast and asked me if I wanted to join. I was hesitant at first but she was excited and told me she found recipes so I figured I would give it a TRY. I’ve always wanted to try it anyways. With “try” being the word that was allowing me to escape if I needed to.

Yesterday was the beginning of Day 1. I was motivated. Got dressed and made myself thejuices of the day. Having had done 24 hours on water before, I knew what to expect as far as obsession over food goes, the hunger pangs, and maybe a little headache or so.

I was doing fine, and then I walked into a tenant’s office to deliver her something and there it was. Her bowl of chocolate. She must have filled it up that morning because there were these new big pieces of chocolate with caramel oozing out the sides. If you know me or have read My Mornin’ Coffee, you might know that I have a bit of a candy addiction. Part of me wanted to grab the candy and say “fuck it, no one will know…it’s just a bit of chocolate” but the other part of me was thinking “you can’t give in within the first 20 minutes of being at work, no way”. I told my “fuck it” brain to “fuck off” and passed the bowl of chocolates. MIND OVER MATTER.

Throughout the day I was doing pretty good then my fiance text (he’s trying it too) with “I’m starving”. I text him back “It’s MIND OVER MATTER, and now your mind  is on food”. What guess what happened? Now MY mind was on food. I started picturing a grilled cheese sandwich and chewing it. Savoring the taste of it. The experience of it filling my stomach. Oh the chains food has on me. Then I became starving. Like deathly.

My cousin text me and told me to go get a smoothie so I did. It held me over the rest of the work day but I knew my biggest struggle was going to be when I got home. The place where I like to snack, snack, and then snack some more. It’s such a habit that sometimes I just end up with food in my mouth before I even realize what I’m doing. I remember one time I wanted to stop eating junk food/processed sugar and I was watching TV. Next thing I know I’m sitting stuffing a bag of marshmallows down my throat. SWEAR, I didn’t even realize. It was like I was hypnotized or something. Again, the chain food has on me.

After work I had my counseling session and then decided to go straight to the gym to take a class. I wanted to take a class because I knew by doing just cardio I’d have more time to obsess over food. I got to the gym a bit late and the class was pretty full so cardio it was. I began doing cardio, with no music or TV. Could this get any worse? Let’s just say the WHOLE time all I did was think about food. How I just wanted to chew something and swallow it.

One of the reasons I even wanted to try this fast was to practice and strengthen my discipline. I know that food has a tight chain on me and I want to free my mind. It is quite interesting to pay attention to how much I obsessed over food through out the day and tricked my body into thinking I was dying of starvation. But only when I chose to focus on it. If I was focused on something else I was totally fine. MIND OVER MATTER.

I came home and almost immediately wanted to give in. I went upstairs and told my fiance I needed to eat something just very small. I would still be fine but I just needed SOMETHING in my stomach. He said “make a juice” but I was convinced it wasn’t enough. This is how i felt:

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I went downstairs, looked in the cabinets a few times, looked in the refrigerator and grabbed three small pieces of cut up pineapple, I was gonna eat it without my fiance knowing. RIGHT when I did that I heard the door close as my cousin just came back from a hot yoga session. DAMNIT I was gonna get caught. I hid them in my hand and passed her slyly and walked up the stairs. She then asked “How’d you do today?”. Aw man, I couldn’t lie. I said “Fine until now” and I slid into my room and stuck the piece of pineapple in my mouth. She asked what I meant and I showed her the remaining pieces of pineapple. She said it was fine and that she was about to make a juice and asked if I wanted  one.

Look  at that, it was FINE. Who would have thought. In my head I was in “fuck it” mode and probably would have given in to other food if it wasn’t  for the feeling of “yea it is fine”. It was what it was. I had three pieces of pineapple and it was fine. I could still continue on my juice fast. I wasn’t a failure. I didn’t have to give up. Again, MIND OVER MATTER.

Most times, when people feel like they’ve failed it can be very easy to give up completely. In reality, you should acknowledge your “failure”, you ACCEPT it and learn from it, and you continue to move on. I learned that I really didn’t even need that pineapple. It was all in my head. My cousin made a juice, I drank half of it, we talked about stuff and I was  fine the rest of the night.

Some of this may sound crazy, I’m literally fighting myself from eating food. Some people find it hard to understand. Why would I choose this? Why don’t I just eat? Do I have an eating disorder? Am I trying to lose weight? JUST EAT if you’re hungry! Funny thing is, half the time I obsessed over food, I wasn’t hungry. It was a mental thing. Your body doesn’t go into starvation mode after just one day. I wasn’t dying. I wasn’t “starving”. I was still consuming nutrients and vitamins.

I am a slave. A slave to  food, to television, to the internet and my cellphone.  A slave to what people think about me, how I  look, my image. A slave to my mind. What is something that controls you? Alcohol, a boyfriend, gossip, cigarettes, self-esteem? Even if you think nothing, when you take something away, even if only for 24 hours, you can think more clearly and catch a glimpse of what’s really going on. If you are mindful. Most people don’t eat because they are hungry. They aren’t “starving” when they think they are. We develop habits and they begin to control us to the point that we just do what we do, think how we think, for no other reason then simply because that’s what we are used to. Even if it’s something we don’t even like.

As humans, we are capable of FAR more than we can ever imagine. Our mind can be a very limiting place. You can see just throughout this post I went from almost giving in during the beginning of the day, to thinking I was “starving” to actually giving in and wanting to give up, to ending the night with feeling like a success. All in a mind’s day work. Wouldn’t it  be nice to live your life out of intention versus habit? To feel like the things you do are because of a choice you are making rather than something that just happens so “fuck  it”?  Could you imagine the things you could begin to create when you realize the true control you have? You break free from the chains and begin to live the life you choose. MIND OVER MATTER.

I challenge you to CHALLENGE YOURSELF….and win!!! just witness how life will unfold.

Here’s to Day 2!!!

xoxo,

barista