May Cause Miracles: Week 6 Part 2

imagesCAQRU0YXI know its been a little while since I wrote my last May Cause Miracles post. I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to work on following through. I have noticed that when something is coming to an end, procrastination sets in big time and it takes me forever to actually finish, if at all. This happens a lot especially when reading books.

Day 39 was about Gratitude to the World. My favorite quote from this chapter is “when you stop trying to make the world serve you, then you can serve the world”.  Gratitude is very important in these processes because it becomes very easy to focus on the negative things around you versus the good things you are thankful for. “I am grateful for my new perceptions  of the world”.

For this evening exercise I had to write a gratitude letter to someone who has greatly affected my life. “By charing your gratitude with others, you inspire them to carry on their sacred path. Shining light on the accomplishments of others brings more light to the world”.

My letter was to my fiance, Justin. I can admit, and I’m sure he could tell you, I don’t do enough focusing on the great things he does for our relationships. So I wanted to take the opportunity to do so. I wasn’t going to share it, but here goes (also will be his first time reading):

Dear Justin,
I just wanted to let you know because I don’t express it enough….Thank You! Thank you for loving me. For always thinking of me. For being thoughtful and always there. For listening to the things I like and love and showing up. For always planning amazing stuff and surprising me. Even though I don’t like surprises I appreciate the effort behind them. For keeping a spark alive even when I don’t give back like I should. Thank you for loving me even when I’m crazy, when I wake up with wild hair, and can be annoying. Thank you for even the hard times because it’s those moments that are making me grow. Forcing me to grow even though you may not realize it. Sometimes I don’t realize it either. I know I don’t always give back in the same ways you give to me but I want you to know I do notice it, and I DO appreciate it. I love you for being that guy. I’m trying and focusing on being the best I can be so in return I can be the best for the relationship. Thank you for the patience. I love you!
Love, Ashley

After gratitude day comes the day for forgiveness. Forgiveness is always huge because it allows you to let go of things that can hindering the possibility to effectively move forward. It’s a huge cause of fear and leads to resistance when it comes to choosing the love path.

“I forgive the false projections I have placed on the world” was the affirmation for Day 40. On this evening I had to write another letter, this time one of forgiveness to a person or organization I have been resenting. It’s interesting because my letters of gratitude and forgiveness were to the same person. This one is a little more personal to both parties involved so I will not be sharing it, but it was a little enlightening to write the things I had held on to. To look at how those fears have held me back.

The biggest thing was to choose to see love instead of the false projections. The false projections are the surface of the behaviors I was resenting whereas love is what’s deeper inside. The truth I know is there and was empowering to commit to see the truth versus the fears. Something I have to continue to remind myself, especially when shit seems to hit the fan 🙂

The book is a “40 day” guidebook but to complete the week there is actually 42 days. Day 41 is about fully taking in that I AM A MIRACLE WORKER! “I am here to be truly helpful”. It’s all about remembering that this is what we are here for. Gabrielle stated that one of her resolutions was to measure her success by how much fun she is having. I was then to look at the areas we focused on in the book and see how I could inject more fun into those areas.

Here are some of the questions that were asked. Take a look and see how you can apply these to your life.

Self Love: In what ways can I have more fun on my own in my everyday life?

Miracle of the Body: How can I enjoy he process of physical activity? What innovative and challenging workouts can I try? How can I enjoy the process of eating healthy foods?

Holy Relationships: How can I bring more fun into my relationships? What thoughts, conversations, actions, activities can I bring into all of my relationships?

Miracle of Abundance: How can I bring more fun into my career or place of work? Hoe can I have fun while I am creating abundance?

Miracle Worker of the World: How can I bring more fun into the world?

As Gabrielle suggests, challenge yourself into incorporating more fun into each of these areas of life every month. “If you intend to have fun, you will have a fun life”.

Wrapping up Day 42….THE LAST DAY!!! I will share this last day as well as some insight from the final chapter, in a later post. Although I am done with my 42 days of practice, the real work has only begun!!!

I would love to know if you have been reading May Cause Miracles though as well as your experiences if so. Feel free to share in the comments below.

xoxo,

 barista

 

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May Cause Miracles: Week 5 Part 2

Here we pick back up from yesterday with Part 2 on Day 31 of “May Cause Miracles”. This is the day where I had brought in the shift from thinking about lack to thinking about abundance. I actually liked this day a lot. Although not always easy, thinking about abundance and FEELING abundant is nice. It feels full. It feels less stressful. It feels like enough. There was an epiphany in those moments. The feeling we all “strive” for  through money, we can actually CHOOSE to feel that way when we want. Imagine that 🙂 “I choose to believe in abundance and accept this belief as my reality”. 

charity1During this day Gabrielle mentioned something that I actually had recently become familiar with. One of our old clients at my job used to give 10 percent of her income “to a place where [she was] spiritually fed”. This client made a lot of money so this place in turn also made a lot of money. She truly believed that by giving, it in turn attracted more money to her. This concept is called Tithing.

After I heard of that, I actually thought about it and it was kind of amusing because our clients that would make regular donations were the ones that continued to make lots of money. The clients that did not give at all were the ones that had a hard time making money.

This is what actually inspired me to start my $50 donation give-aways. I wanted to do it every month but for now I do it sporadically. I didn’t want to limit the places where I would give to and I know there are so many organizations I had no clue about so I  turned it into a contest where I would take suggestions from others and randomly choose someone and donate the $50 to the organization they suggested in their honor. I never thought of giving to a place in which I am spiritually fed. So in the future I will do that as well while I continue to hold the contest. This “makes a statement to the Universe that you believe abundance must be shared. In sharing your wealth, you create more of it”.

Day 32 is always my favorite day… you guessed it Gratitude day. Nothing changes your perspective and attracts more into your life then recognizing and being grateful of what you have. Have I said that before? I dunno, wouldn’t doubt it Just like with tithing, when you are grateful for what you have you are putting it into the Universe to attract more. If you can not be happy with what you have then that puts into the Universe that you will continue to be unhappy with whatever else you get as well. Abundance attracts abundance. “I am grateful for what I have, and I welcome all the gifts this day will bring”.

Following gratitude always comes forgiveness which is what Day 33 was about. The book says that “the ego uses past financial drama in many individual ways to create chaos in the present…when your self worth is tied up in your net worth, you probably have been attacking yourself for quite some time”. We have discussed the need for forgiveness in the previous weeks but “Forgiveness offers me everything I want”. We all know people often search for outside sources to make them happy. So the bottom line is that WE WANT TO BE HAPPY right? If I continue to hold myself to past financial standards, there is no way I can truly be happy. So to let that go I must forgive.

Then this leads of to the 6th day of every week which is the  day I witness miracles happen. It’s about surrendering to my inner guide and letting the creativity come to me.  Now that I think back on it, on this day something totally awesome happened to me. I was already going to share that story with you in my next post before I even made the connection so I think I will still leave it that way. Yea yea there I go being a tease again, sorry!!! Day 34 the affirmation was “I welcome in infinite possibilities. I will receive”. 

Last but not least Day 35 was reflecting which I like to do with these post of mine.

Man I only have one week left. It actually kind of makes me sad. I enjoyed having these exercises to do daily. I can honestly say that before I started this book I was already trying to be more aware of my thoughts but this book has indeed heightened that experience for me. I cant wait to fully reflect after the full 6 weeks. I am so excited I made it this far and kept it going and most importantly, I fully followed through on my commitment. It means so much.

Week 6 is pulling it all together and working on becoming a true miracle worker.

till then, stay tuned in a few days for my awesome story about what happened to me on Day 34. Manifesting Miracles. :)))

xoxo,

barista

May Cause Miracles: Week 3

How about some afternoon coffee today? Good Afternoon!!!

So as you can see, I spent a few extra days on week 3. I just finished yesterday, Day 21, which was reflection day.  I’m going to try to sum it all up in one post instead of the usual two. This week was all about  BODY IMAGE. The focus was trying to see your body as spiritual and not physical. You ever heard that phrase

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience”?

That’s the jest of this chapter. To see our body as a vehicle in which we are able to express love. How can we use the body to express love.

mad3_character_large_332x363_chimpsImmediately one of the pictures I got in my head was when you see in a cartoon or something, little monkeys standing on top of each other under human clothing pretending to be a human.

We are a soul inside of a body and we are using this body as an outlet so the voice and actions of love can be heard, seen, and felt. Our purpose is not to compare ourselves to other spiritual beings yet that’s what we are CONSTANTLY doing.

It’s funny because as I check my Facebook lately I see tons of pictures and updates of people “getting ready” for summer. Some of whom  main focus is their body and how it’s going to look at the beach or at the pool. We view our body as being either more special or less special than someone elses.

Now I’m not against getting in shape, we all know I want to do so but this last week I also have become more aware of my reasoning for wanting it so badly. The focus in this chapter showed me that when we can see our body from a different perspective and recognize its true purpose, which is a way to express love, we will innately want to take care of it in the ways it needs. Eating good, stretching, drinking water, getting exercise, rest, etc. In return we will get the results we need but without the added pressure of just trying to look good. Even aside from that aspect, your thoughts alone have such a big impact on your body including addictions, illnesses, and energy levels to name a few.

On Day 15 I realized I have some very fearful projections of my body while answering some of the questions in the book.

*My ego’s fearful beliefs are that my body isn’t in shape enough. My skin isn’t clear enough. I’m not good enough.
*My energy is really low sometimes and I just want to sleep all day. I have a hard time getting out of bed.
*Other bodies are more special if they don;t have stretch marks or extra skin or saddle bags. People that are in shape are better to look at.
*I fill my loneliness with food, the computer/internet, “working” or doing stuff I “need” to do.
*sometimes I feel like having a good body is not something that is meant for me. I think I will never get the body I want.
*My ego has convinced me that my body is always two steps from being good enough in some way. My body is bigger than some but smaller than others. Sometimes I can see someone with a bigger body and still think it’s better than mine because they don’t have stretch marks on their stomachs or their legs may be smaller. It makes me feel like I’m in a lose/lose situation.

Those are some ways I have recognized my ego takes control over my thoughts about my body. The affirmation of the day was “My false perceptions of my body are an attack. Today I choose love instead of my ego’s perceptions”

The thing I love about this book is that it really gets you to pay attention to the fact that your fearful thoughts are not real. Day 16 was again the willingness to let go of your fearful thoughts with “I turn my perception of my body over to my inner guide. Show me what you got” and Day 17 focusing on knowing that I am not my body. I am free”.

Now let’s skip to Day 18. This day was good ‘ol Gratitude day. Letting go of seeing your body as separate and focusing on seeing it as just as special as all other bodies. “I am grateful for my body” was the affirmation of the day. I tried to remember to say this as often as needed. When you let this affirmation sink in, you will really start to take care of your body. Some examples the book listed was while you’re at the gym, say the affirmation and take the time to stretch a little more. While eating lunch, take the time to TASTE your food. Savor the flavors. Chew slowly. Can you see how stopping to actually pay attention to all the things your body can do, and be grateful, you will want to take care of it?

 F. ALSE  E.VIDENCE  A.PPEARING  R.EAL

The evening exercise was to see how fear’s projections affects your perception of your body. I had to write some of my fearful projections of my body and then let my inner guide lead me with a mindful loving response. Ex:

Fearful thought: My stretch marks on my stomach are ugly. People will looked at them and be grossed out or talk about them (can you tell I have a huge insecurity will my stretch marks?)
Mindful Response: I recognize this as a fear and that I do not know what people think. I surrender to letting my inner guide take over.

Fearful Thought: I can’t stay on a healthy diet or lifestyle because I am lazy
Mindful Response:  My laziness is a product of my fearful thoughts. Once I am able to surrender that fear and I will be fueled and guided by love.

These were true answers given to me by my inner guide… What’s even more powerful that when writing my fearful thoughts down, I saw how SILLY and UNREAL they are. FEAR IS A BITCH!!!!

Day 19 again is the F word. Forgiveness! I had to write a letter to my inner guide exposing all my secret fearful thoughts and forgive myself for them and ask my inner guide to take over. By exposing the secrets I give them less power.  “Forgiveness restores my perception of my body back to love”. 

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAAnd on to Day 20 which tied it all together for me!!! “I accept my body’s true function, I accept I am a messenger for love”. This was the affirmation of the day as well as the meditation focus of the evening. I meditated on this phrase and let my inner guide take over to write.

As I was meditating I saw myself standing on the edge of the spa at my house. We were having people over and I was in my bathing suit. Well since we have lived in our new place for the last 4 months, I have not been in our spa. Aside from the weather being cold, I have had opportunities but won’t do it with friends over because I am majorly insecure about my body and you guessed it, my stretch marks or extra skin (from having a baby). During this image I felt free. I radiated confidence and love for myself and through that my friends felt it.

Now the part that hit me is I DO strongly believe I am a messenger for love. Its obvious in my conversations, my blog, my advice etc. I DO feel my purpose is to spread love. This means that I have to BE love. I have to embody LOVE.

How can I be a messenger for Love if I don’t Love the body in which that message is being projected? I show through loving myself and my body what Love is. LOVE accepts all things as they are. I HAVE to accept all things as they are, including my body, until then, I am not accurately and fully expressing the message!

WOW what a revelation!!!

before i end this post, just want to say thank you for getting this far. I know it was a lot.

…and on to week 4… RELATIONSHIPS!!! wooo hoo 😉

xoxo,

barista

 

 

 

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barista

May Cause Miracles: Week 2 Part 2

After I had my lovely miracle on the evening of Day 10, I feel like they haven’t stopped since. I noticed myself all throughout the rest of the week and weekend creating miracles. The book does say that once you start witnessing miracles, it’s when you don’t that there’s something wrong.

Day 11 was self-gratitude day. Again always one of my favorite days because there’s such a great shift when you can fully recognize all in your life AND be thankful for it all. It brings you into the PRESENT. “I Am Grateful For This Moment”.

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This week I had to show SELF-gratitude.

I AM GRATEFUL:
1. That I get to see my son grow up
2. That I am a good friend
3. That I continue to work on my relationship
4. For my soul, my faith, my God, my Light, My Source, My Universe
5. That I help people when I can
6. For ALL my books, blogs, seminars, etc.
7. For my mind and it’s ability to think beyond
8. When I love, it’s forever
9. That I keep in touch with people close to me
10. That my family and friends value me.
11. My Life and my PURPOSE!
…and many more!!!!

This weekend I went away to Monterey/Carmel with some family and my fiance to check out wedding venues. The first day, which was Day 12, my fiance wanted to take our son whale watching so he could have some fun while we were there. We were going to do it Sunday morning before we head back to Los Angeles but we had some time on Friday when we got into town so we decided to go. I thought it might be cutting it too close because of an appt we had but he said it was only 2 hours so we would actually finish in time before we had to check out a wedding venue that evening at 4pm.

Well within the first hour of the trip, my soon-to-be mother in law got really sick and started throwing up on the backside of the boat. She was having the worst experience ever from being sea-sick. All of a sudden it was 3pm and we had JUST gotten out to where the whales were. There was NO WAY we were going to be back by 3:30pm.

My fiance asked the worker on the boat and he said no way the boat isn’t due back until 4:30pm. This meant we were going to miss our very first appt. I immediately got really upset. I went to call the venue and in my head was cursing my fiance for even deciding to set up this trip before our appt. I told him it was cutting it too close but he assured me it would be fine. Well it wasn’t. “Why did I listen to him?” “This was such a bad idea” “I KNEW this wouldn’t work out” “I can’t believe we are stuck on this boat and it’s all [my fiance’s] fault.” While that was running through my head I remembered the affirmation of the day which was “I Forgive Myself For Having This Thought. I Choose Love Instead”.

I immediately started thinking about how he just wanted to do this so our son would have fun. So we could all have a good time. He really didn’t know that the trip was this long since the guy that sold us tickets told us it was only 2 hours, not 3.5 hours. I began to feel grateful for his efforts. By the time I got off the phone with the venue, instead of being angry and cursing my fiance out I actually told him THANK YOU!!!

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Fo me this was a big step because I will admit, I am very used to arguing and placing blame. This time I went up to him and said “Thank you baby for your efforts in trying to put this idea together”. After that I started getting sea-sick and had to sit with my head in between my legs the whole way back. My son even got sea-sick and threw up. Although the trip was NOT very eventful, we DID get to see some whales though so I can’t say it was completely a bust. In the end we all got laugh about it and we didn’t end the trip being mad at each other. A MIRACLE!!!! And to imagine, things could have ended quite differently if it weren’t for that simple shift in perception I actively chose.

Although I am entering Day 15 today, I don’t want to overwhelm you with too much in one post so I will add yet another part to week 2 for days 13 & 14 tomorrow and then we can go over part 1 of week 3 in a few days.

Until then, xoxo

barista