Just Cross The Road

Hey, you want to know a little secret? Sometimes I feel like I have no idea what I am doing. One of those times is right now! I can clearly see that fear has had a hold over me this last month.

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photo by UnforgettablyAlina Flickr

Not sure if you have noticed, but I haven’t been posting as frequently as I used to, and lately when I do, it’s like I have been forcing myself to, just to stay a floatI have been scared to write because sometime I feel like if I don’t have a way to sound motivating or inspiring, I don’t have a purpose in writing. I feel like every post has to be this perfect post, even when inside I know it doesn’t.

Question: But how can I be motivating and inspiring when I’m not feeling motivated or inspired? Answer: I don’t always have to be! ANDDDD it’s not up to me to decide whether I am for someone else or not.

I know I’ve known that answer… but it’s still very hard to let go of wanting everything to be perfect sometimes. Anyone else ever feel that way? Like if things don’t go perfect then they will fail. One of the hardest things is KNOWING the answer, KNOWING the right thing to do, yet still being unable to let go or make moves. It’s a feeling inspired by fear! It feels like you’ve been injected with just enough anesthesia to be unable to move, all while watching your life go in the opposite direction.

But I try to just remember the word FAITH, which I have tattoo of, and how having faith is about letting go. I know that’s one of my biggest lessons in these moments. Letting go in those moments of imperfection. Trusting that even if I can’t grasp it, that someone else is learning and growing through my vulnerability.  And that’s part of my purpose here. To inspire others to grow and learn.

What’s funny is that we tend to look at this visions of what we think to be as “perfect” and we aspire to be like that BUT who is it that we actually connect with more? It’s those that show their imperfections and vulnerabilities (yep, that word again). Those that seem to be just like us. Those that make us see that we already ARE perfect, we just need to embrace it.

Having said that, even though I FEEL like I am not perfect in this moment, I am stuck and can’t write, I have nothing motivating and inspiring to say…I KNOW in this moment, I AM perfect. Maybe this moment of being truthful IS inspiring and motivating someone even though I don’t know it.

I’m not going to lie, sometimes I want to end this blog, take a couple weeks off, but when it comes down to it I know its out of fear. And over everything else I let fear control, this is one thing I refuse to be hindered. I know this blog is the birth of my dreams. The one thing that even in these moments of feeling stuck, I know by continuing to show up for you, even if inconsistently, is keeping my moving forward. Even if I am crawling.

 So I am staying committed, even if it’s just posting something one time a week, even if it’s not perfect…to write. Just write. Allow myself to FEEL imperfect and write anyways. To not always have the answers but move forward anyways. To not always see the path ahead but feel for it anyways. To feel fear and let go and have faith anyways. If I can do that here with my blog then I even when I can’t tell, I know I’m being uplifted in other areas.

As hard as it is, to post like this feeling as though I’ve done nothing but blab…feeling like this has no point…I’m going to do it anyways. I’m going to let go of the fear.

Randomly, it makes me think of the joke…”Why did the chicken cross the road? To get to the other side!!!” I want to re-word it and ask “How did the chicken get to the other side?…he let go, and he crossed the road!” No matter who you are…it doesn’t matter how, but the only way to get to the other side, is to cross the road!

If you are someone that finds it easy to take the next step even when you’re scared, I’d love to know what keeps you moving forward?… If you are someone that constantly gets haulted by fear, what can you do to let go today?

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your thoughts or story in the comments below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else

thanks for listening and continuing to show up for me as I will continue to show up for you !

xoxo,

barista

True Power Lies In Your Perception

7366018_mA few days ago I was talking to my friend Emily about this new relationship she’s in. She seemed quite nervous. She proceeds to say “I wish I knew what was going to happen in the future with us!, I don’t want to waste any more time”

…there, there Emily, you’re not the only one. Don’t we all wish we knew the future sometimes?

I decided to play a little game with her. I asked her to tell me what her ideal future looks like. It was something she wasn’t even too clear about, so it was fun to get her to actually picture it and put it together.

After she told me what she wanted, I said “Done!…That’s exactly what’s going to happen. You’re going get married. Have kids. The career you want. Excited about life. In love and happy!… That’s what I see in your future”

She laughed it off.

I said “What you don’t believe me?” She said “Uh no, you don’t know the future.”

“Well what if I did?…Ok well let’s just sayyyy there was such a person that could tell you exactly how you’re future was going to look…. let’s just say they told you exactly what I just told you… that everything you want is EXACTLY what’s going to happen…would you believe them?”

“Um maybe”, Emily said a little more easy. “Ok well if you KNEW that was your future, if you knew within a year you’d be engaged… what would you do from now until then?” I asked.

“I’d relax”, she laughed.

Here’s the thing, whether it’s ME telling you what your future is going to look like, or some psychic that could predict your future, in reality it doesn’t matter. Even if this psychic has never been wrong, you’d still have to have some faith in what they’ve told you. You see, because you STILL wouldn’t really know for sure what’s going to happen UNTIL it happens. The only difference between me telling you your future, and a psychic telling you is that you would CHOOSE to believe the psychic.

That right there is the power of perception. You have the power to perceive anything however you CHOOSE to perceive it. If Emily wanted to believe me and what I said her future looks like she very well could. And just like she could place that power in my hands, she could also take that power herself. SHE could become her own psychic.

Just like in my post the other day, your beliefs become your thoughts which become your words which become your actions…and so on. Sometimes it could feel like you have no control over your perception but it’s actually the ONLY thing you have control over. If you believe in the possibility of your dreams, you will then start to act accordingly to what you believe.

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Emily had contemplated on breaking up with her boyfriend for no other reason then she was SO anxious about not knowing how things were going to end up and she didn’t want to waste time. In the back of  her head, she believes that maybe she’s going to end up alone. Very common for some people at our almost 30 age. I told her, that anxiousness, that fear…it was an opportunity. An opportunity to decide if she was going to move towards her dreams or towards her fears. She’s in a relationship with a guy she’s in love with and she’s very happy with him. This was the chance to not only see this is what she WANTS but also to ACCEPT that things are going the right way.

I asked her “Now that you know you’re going to marry him, do you still want break up with him?” “Well NO!” That answer is obvious because when you’ve been told what you’re future is going to be, you’re going to let it happen. You aren’t going to do anything or let anything come in way of it happening. If you believe he’s “the one” you are going to act like he’s “the one”. And if you’re acting like he’s “the one” then you won’t be surprised when he becomes “the one”. The Law of Attraction brings to you what you believe to be true.

Why are successful people successful? Because they believe they can achieve their goals or because they are afraid of failing? Because they BELIEVE they can achieve their goals. That belief is causing them to make the necessary moves they need to make to be exactly where they want to be. If they believed they were going to fail, they would fail. Period! If you truly believe you’re going to be alone in your future, big chance is you… will be!

When you can shift your beliefs and give yourself power, you will come to understand that the world is ALWAYS placing clues in your path. Clues that allow you to follow the direction of your TRUE desires. When you are OPEN you will start to notice what is being presented, you will understand it’s an opportunity to learn and grow, and you take it in order to accept your dreams coming true. If you are closed off, you will simply continue to miss your chances. You will become anxious and fearful of what’s going to happen next because the vision isn’t there. Or it could be there, but it’s the vision of your FEARS not your dreams. Anxiety and fear are nothing but indicators that your vibrations aren’t matching what the core of you desires. Take them as CLUES.

Things are always happening FOR YOU. It is up to you to recognize the opportunities and it is up to you to define what they mean to you. You do have to remember that you are a CO-creator. It’s you and your higher power. God, the Universe, your Source, all of the above, whatever you call it.

If things don’t happen EXACTLY how you envision, doesn’t mean your dreams won’t still come true. When you remember you are a co-creator, you’ll know your dreams will still come true, just maybe not in the way you always imagine. But guess what, they’ll happen even BETTER then you imagine. Because the Universe is way more expansive and creative than your mind, so it will bring you success in ways you could never think. It’ll also be a way that is also allowing you to learn the lessons you are on this Earth to learn. But you must have faith. The power lies in YOU. You don’t need a psychic to tell you what your dreams are and that they are going to happen because at the end of the day YOU are the one that has to believe it.

What are your dreams? How have you been acting accordingly? In what ways can you see your fears hindering you? Do you notice opportunities when they are in front of you?

What do you dare to dream today? How can you be more open to that dream?

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable in the comments below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else. 🙂

xoxo,

barista

 

RIGHT NOW!

relax_your_mindI realized I want need to become more present in the moment. Seems so cliché and easy to say, yet is one of the hardest things to do. I spend way to much time worrying about the future, as most of us do. Thinking about…planning for…being scared of!!! The problem with that is that the future never ends up exactly how we envision it to be. Shit just doesn’t always go as planned. Think about it, when has something gone EXACTLY how planned? probably never, but stuff ALWAYS works out and life always moves on, doesn’t it.

We tend to stress so much over the “what ifs” but the key is KNOWING that even if things go worse than planned, those moments are just a tiny piece of a bigger picture for you.

Think about some of the things you stress over when thinking about the future. How much time is wasted stressing out? Time that you can never get back. Wouldn’t it be nice to know that things will work out just the way it needs to? Well the secret is, IT DOES! Things ALWAYS work out for the best even if now it doesn’t seem so. How many times have you looked back and realized that all the stress was unneccessary? Yet for some reason, we continue to act the same way again and again and again.

The lesson is to TRUST! Trust in the Universe! Trust in yourself! If you have faith in higher power, you need to have faith in yourself. They go hand in hand. Your level of trust in yourself is a mirror of the trust you have in something greater.

You should still have goals, ideas, and plans but you have to KNOW that no matter what your goals, plans, and ideas for the future are, you will get to where you need to be yet sometimes it’s not in the way you expected. You have to let go of the expectations to make room for something more grand to happen. Start thinking about all the things you want to change. Things you want to come to you. What kind of person do I want to be and what do I want for my life?

For your creations to become reality you have to take action which requires you to respond to today! The present. Think about, what can I do TODAY to move closer to what I want? How can I enjoy TODAY?

Think about RIGHT NOW. What you have in your life RIGHT NOW. Be thankful for RIGHT NOW. That’s gratitude at its highest form. Being thankful for where you are, who you are, and what you have RIGHT NOW!!

When you do that, all the worries and stress tend to go out the window. You can breathe in the air of the moment and experience life…. which is RIGHT NOW. The past doesn’t exist anymore and the future never comes. The ONLY thing we have is RIGHT NOW

Living in the past or the future, or in many cases both, does nothing but limit you from becoming the greatest you can be.When you are living from one of those places, you are actually missing right now. And if you are missing right now, you are missing life. If you are missing life, then whats the point?

Living in the present allows you to paint on a blank slate in every moment. You can create whatever you want. Whatever you dream. That’s the fun part. It shouldnt be stressful. Every moment is new. It’s not fun painting on a canvas that’s already used.  When you live in the present you begin to LIVE. You begin to be HAPPY. You don’t waste any more of your time being regretful or afraid. The stresses lessen because you KNOW that no matter what, your path and all the things that have happened or are going to happened are for your greater good so you can reach your highest potential. The faster you start to recognize that and see how it’s played in your life RIGHT NOW, the more time you have to live a HAPPY fulfilled life and make every moment count and THAT is the point! Look at how fast time flies… don’t you want to be able to feel new every day? every moment.

So I challenge you to practice living in the now. One easy way to do that is just showing gratitude. Being thankful for right now. Let go of any pain from the past and any expectations from the future and just witness the miracles in front of you. Even if just for a moment a day…stop, breathe, and enjoy RIGHT NOW!

xoxo,

barista

Time to Process

Last week I did something that took a lot of strength and faith for me to do. A lot of being authentic and telling the truth. It has been a hard week for me and the other party involved as well as a lot of processing going on. I have been wanting to write about it for the last few days but I am still in a processing stage. Just letting you all know, I am still thinking of you and will be sharing my truth soon enough. Until then, take a look at this picture…

What does it mean to you? What do you think it represents?

xoxo,