Recognizing Your True Self.

I remember back a long time ago, in my head when I used to think about the future and what I was destined to do I had two visions in mind. What’s funny is that these visions appeared to be completely opposite. I am a very passionate person, especially when it comes to things I believe in. LOVE and deep care for human life and happiness is one of my sincere passions. So in one vision I always saw myself as this person “tree-hugger” type person that spread knowledge and fought for the things I believed in. I imagined myself not feeling the need to really have a big house, lots of money, a nice car as long as I was living what I believed in and helping others. The other vision I was destined to be this rich woman and nothing else mattered as long as I could have and buy the things I wanted. I never pictured this person being one in the same, I didn’t see it possible. One valued self and one valued things. As much as I knew the person that valued self was the TRUE me it was really hard to not want to value things. And it still is. Especially in a society that puts so much focus on the value of things and their relation to your importance as a person.

As I have grown older I’ve come to learn more about the difference between one’s true self and their “everyday” self. Your true self is deeper than your everyday self. I touched on this a tad here. Your true self is who you are in your soul. The purest part of who you are. When we were born into life form we were born in our purest form. Then as we grow and we develope an ego and stories about ourselves and others based on the things that go on around us we start to develop our everyday selves. Our true self is the one that can feel peace, security, love while our everyday self is succumbed to suffering, stress, insecurity.  Just seeing the difference between the emotions these two selves bring about, you can imagine how your reality and experiences could be very different depending on which self is you are experiencing. How can you live according to your true self if you can’t recognize the difference?

I found an article by Deepak Chopra that explains the difference between your TRUE self and your EVERYDAY self.

At those dark, tough moments, try to get some outside perspective about what is happening. The qualities of the everyday self and the true self are actually very different:

1. The true self is certain and clear about things. The everyday self gets influenced by countless outside influences, leading to confusion.

2. The true self is stable. The everyday self shifts constantly.

3. The true self is driven by a deep sense of truth. The everyday self is driven by the ego, the unending demands of “I, me, mine.”

4. The true self is at peace. The everyday self is easily agitated and disturbed.

5. The true self is love. The everyday self, lacking love, seeks it from outside sources.

Because of human nature it is not as easy for some to recognize the difference between both. It takes a lot of insight and practice. I know I mention “The Path” a lot and to me living a life on The Path means being your TRUE self. It seems like it would be so easy but in fact is maybe one of the most challenging things for us to do. Although challenging, your true self will NEVER guide you in the wrong direction. It knows the reality you are meant to live and when you have faith in it, it will make sure you get there. Your everyday self on the other hand, guided by your ego, will do everything in its power to separate you from your true self because it values separation. Millions of people spend their lives chasing the value of “things” due to living from the ego. These “things” will decide the quality and value of life, at least according to how society has trained us. The ego tells us we are separate from the next person therefore we can be scaled as better or worse than them according to our job, money, degree…our “things” and this determines our happiness. Well one of the best quotes I heard was “I wish everyone could be rich so THEN they will know, that’s not where it’s at”.

So while your everyday self wants “things” your true self knows what it really needs to bring joy into your life. Once you can recognize that and trust it your life will change dramatically. The “things” will still be there but your reality about them and most importantly, yourself will change. Your true self will start to offer for you all the things your ego can’t. Pay attention to how you feel. When you feel good it means you are aligned with your higher power. When you feel bad it means you aren’t aligned. Stand up to your everyday self and go towards those things that make you feel good, because in the end thats the thing we are all chasing after. Happiness and inner joy.

“Once you begin to recognize and encourage the qualities of the true self, your life will begin to change. You’ll make better choices. You’ll expand your awareness. You’ll discover and encourage your purpose. You’ll challenge yourself to meet new goals.

The greatest spiritual secret in the world is that every problem has a spiritual solution, not because every prayer is answered by a higher power, but because the true self, once discovered, is the source of creativity, intelligence and personal growth. No external solution has such power. The true self is the basis for being deeply optimistic about how life turns out and who you really are, behind the screen of doubt and confusion. The path to it isn’t simply inspiring; it’s the source of solutions that emerge from within” – Deepak Chopra


What’s Your “Thing”?

So I was browsing some posts from the blogs I follow, I havent really been able to do so much. I came across “Save Your Own Ass” by Truth and Cake. It is about finding that thing that is yours. For most bloggers it writing. All my life I feel like I was always trying to find that one thing that I am good at AND love to do. Most of us do this when we are younger and some are still searching now. I’ve thought I had many things over the years. Soccer and track. I used to think those were my thing until I got hurt and never played the same. Drawing used to be my thing until I had to go to a “real” college and take “real” classes. Photography became my thing when people started asking me to take pictures of them and wanted to pay me. I mean I have a small business in it now that’s how “my thing” it is.  I love soccer (and still miss it greatly), I love track, I love drawing, I love photography…I love a lot of things but recently I have realized those things aren’t my THING.  I have discovered in the recent years that the thing I love to do and can’t seem to go without is growing and helping people. Not just helping people as in philanthropy, but helping people become better people.

I just have this natural inclination as I think we most do towards love. Having love, being love, watching love, spreading love. I always had little signs that were pointing me in this direction but never really paid attention to the commonality of it all. It was just in the few years that I  formally to pathways to self growth, law of attraction, power of intention, positive thinking type stuff. I became so intrigued because I got it instantly. I felt like my mind just automatically understood things on a very deep level and it all resonated with me instantly. I always wanted to share what I learned with other people. I watched The Secret probably 8 times in the span of a few months just because I always wanted to show other people and watch it with them every time. Every time I read a good psychology self-help book I will rave about it over and over. I am constantly talking to my friends and trying to give advice and pushing them towards their dreams.. I even find people I barely know and if I see they are feeling negative I try to add in a positive note. I mean I sometimes feel like I’m Angel’s Advocate (instead of Devils) because I feel like no matter what I am always trying to help others see the “bright” side of things.

Am I saying I’m perfect? NOT AT ALL. This is even more reason of why I feel so passionately about it. Self growth never stops. It’s never perfect. I always say ” if you stop growing you stop living”. We can always be better people and learn new things because we will always have new experiences. Every time I have a conversation with someone, find a new article, read a new book, share a few quotes… I am learning and growing too, I am becoming more aware of how to live my own advice. I never claim to be perfect. I never claim my words are the TRUTH. I just like to share what I am passionate about, what I have found to be true in my life, what I have experienced or witnessed in others, and I just dare you to see it as possibility. Is it possible? not “buts” about it. If it’s possible then what would that look like for you? If you don’t see it possible then why?  I crave learning just as much as I do sharing. I just love to expand my horizons and help others expand theirs.

About a year ago I found this really good blog and I started sharing quotes from the articles. I had found so much meaning and relation to the articles that I felt like if it had helped me so much and made me think twice about something in a positive way then maybe it can do that for others. You never know who its reaching and how much it could touch their lives at that moment as we ALL have our shit. Well randomly I would get these emails from people I didn’t even realize paid two cents of my attention thanking me for my posts because it had helped them. I felt this connection and love. It made me even more committed to sharing.

I have many plans and ideas as to how to work this thing of mine and the blog is just one. I can admit I am not the best writer. I have read many of blog that have made me want to quit because I felt I didn’t compare but for some reason I have not quit. I mean sometimes it’s very hard for me to write. It can be near impossible to articulate all the things going on in my head. I definitely speak better than I write in certain subjects. I have not quit though because I have come to see that writing may not be my thing but, although scary, my fears have not allowed me to stop because by doing it I am doing mything. This is the thing that gives me joy and enthusiasm. This is the thing that keeps me alive. When I go through tough time, the things that save me are positive influence. This is what saves my ass. Growing and Helping. By all means I am not a pro but I have a passion. Ask my friends, when I speak to them I speak with conviction. A passion so deep to truly just want the best for myself and others and learning and sharing how to get that. To get them to experience the miracles of ourselves and the experiences we have. Friend, family, or foe. By sharing my experiences, articles, quotes, and what I come to see as true, maybe just maybe it’s reaching out to some unknown person and helping change their life.

What is your thing?Maybe by finding and doing your thing you can have an impact on someone’s life too, even better, your own…. Sometime’s we don’t know until we do it. Let’s admit, at least us in the blogging world, writers and readers, love growing and helping.

Leaving you with a Paulo Coelho quote that was already posted the other day:

“Whenever we do something that fills us with enthusiasm, we are following our legend. However, we don’t all have the courage to confront our own dream”

Think about it!


I Want YOUR Opinion

SoOoOoooo since March 14th when my first post was published I have had 20 posts (this will be 21), 3 comments, 15 post likes, 11 subscribers, 6 twitter followers, 8 facebook followers, and 250 views in 5 different countries (USA, Australia, Rupublic of Korea, Switzerland, and Canada).

Annnnd, this is with barely publicizing. I just told a few of my friends about the blog the other day. When I started I wanted to see the flow of natural progression, I didn’t want people following me just because they were my friend and i was forcing them to so I didn’t really share what I was doing with many people. I shared the blog as I do when I share other articles or quotes but not as myself being the creator. I am pretty proud of myself considering most of these stats come from people whom have stumbled across my blog 🙂

If you are reading this, I just wanted your opinion thus far!!!

I follow various motivational blogs and when I thought to make one of my own, I had a few visions in mind. When I read something good I always want to share it with everyone I know. If you are Facebook friends with me, you know this truth. I share articles, quotes, and excerpts from blogs I read almost daily. It somewhat became my mission every day. I always think that if something is helpful to me then it could be helpful to others. You really never know until you share. Over the last year I had gotten a lot of positive feedback through people who were touched one way or another by my simple sharing. People had randomly written me to thank me for my posts because it was helping them in their life at that moment. One of the most powerful things I have learned is that we really are ALL one. Although we have different faces and stories, we all share similar struggles and experiences. One of my visions was to be a “one-stop-shop” and share with you different  articles/posts from some of my favorite places in hopes to continue to help other people by means of what helps me.

Another vision and my main objective was to document my experiences when it comes to following “The Path”.  If you are into motivational blogs then you should be somewhat familiar with the term “The Path”. {If not, I will go along to explain my version of what that means in another post}. I want to share my struggles, my steps into becoming more mindful, and my outcomes from following through on the things I learned and believe.

Although I have been interested and learning about things like Integrity, Law of Attraction, Truth, Intention, etc for the last couple years, it was not until recently that I really started trying to integrate into my life. Really follow the methods I was learning to become a better person, create a better life, and live my truth. I wanted my blog to be helpful and motivating yet also personal and relatable as well. I am still new to living my life on The Path and as much as I know, believe, and can preach, I don’t yet have AS much experience living it and really testifying the outcome. And that is what I want to bring to the table. I want to BE INSPIRING.

So many people can give you advice about life and how to be happy but it can be rare that the person is living that truth themselves, myself included. I am now trying to become someone who walks their talk. I want to bring you my personal experiences and that way over time you can witness, along with me, the transitions that happen when you follow your truth. This way when I write TO you, you KNOW that I am an experiencer of my words. Get ready because it’s about to get real personal in here.

Thirdly I want my blog to be interactive. I want to be involved in my readers lives as they will be in mine. I want to create a safe place where I can share and others can share with whatever they want.  I envision a symbiotic relationship. I want to give AND take. Learn AND teach. Speak AND listen. I am not perfect at this thing called life nor are any of us and we never will be. That’s why I feel that one of the MOST important things is to build meaningful connections with people in order to help each other and learn and do what we can to make the ride as enjoyable as possible.  We all need to know we are not alone but we can only know that by connecting, sharing, and being open and truthful with each other.

 SO I WANT YOUR OPINION. What can I do to make this My Mornin Coffee taste better? I am new to the blogging world as far as trying to create a deep interaction with people so any advice will be heard. What do you like that I am doing? What don’t you like? What will make you more involved? What makes you inspired to share? Do you want more articles from others/less?I want to hear it all!!!! I want your ideas, stories, questions, advice, EVERYTHING! I don’t want this to be just my blog I want it to be OUR blog. When you read the title it is MY MORNIN COFFEE which means it is YOUR Mornin Coffee. Out of all the statistics I shared above I am really not sure how many people will even see this post. Some might come across it today, some might not see it for months, but I ask you…IF YOU READ THIS POST, PLEASE LEAVE ME YOUR FEEDBACK! I appreciate you and your opinion. :)))

Let’s get ready to GET REAL!!!

THANKS!!! xoxo