I remember back a long time ago, in my head when I used to think about the future and what I was destined to do I had two visions in mind. What’s funny is that these visions appeared to be completely opposite. I am a very passionate person, especially when it comes to things I believe in. LOVE and deep care for human life and happiness is one of my sincere passions. So in one vision I always saw myself as this person “tree-hugger” type person that spread knowledge and fought for the things I believed in. I imagined myself not feeling the need to really have a big house, lots of money, a nice car as long as I was living what I believed in and helping others. The other vision I was destined to be this rich woman and nothing else mattered as long as I could have and buy the things I wanted. I never pictured this person being one in the same, I didn’t see it possible. One valued self and one valued things. As much as I knew the person that valued self was the TRUE me it was really hard to not want to value things. And it still is. Especially in a society that puts so much focus on the value of things and their relation to your importance as a person.
As I have grown older I’ve come to learn more about the difference between one’s true self and their “everyday” self. Your true self is deeper than your everyday self. I touched on this a tad here. Your true self is who you are in your soul. The purest part of who you are. When we were born into life form we were born in our purest form. Then as we grow and we develope an ego and stories about ourselves and others based on the things that go on around us we start to develop our everyday selves. Our true self is the one that can feel peace, security, love while our everyday self is succumbed to suffering, stress, insecurity. Just seeing the difference between the emotions these two selves bring about, you can imagine how your reality and experiences could be very different depending on which self is you are experiencing. How can you live according to your true self if you can’t recognize the difference?
I found an article by Deepak Chopra that explains the difference between your TRUE self and your EVERYDAY self.
At those dark, tough moments, try to get some outside perspective about what is happening. The qualities of the everyday self and the true self are actually very different:
1. The true self is certain and clear about things. The everyday self gets influenced by countless outside influences, leading to confusion.
2. The true self is stable. The everyday self shifts constantly.
3. The true self is driven by a deep sense of truth. The everyday self is driven by the ego, the unending demands of “I, me, mine.”
4. The true self is at peace. The everyday self is easily agitated and disturbed.
5. The true self is love. The everyday self, lacking love, seeks it from outside sources.
Because of human nature it is not as easy for some to recognize the difference between both. It takes a lot of insight and practice. I know I mention “The Path” a lot and to me living a life on The Path means being your TRUE self. It seems like it would be so easy but in fact is maybe one of the most challenging things for us to do. Although challenging, your true self will NEVER guide you in the wrong direction. It knows the reality you are meant to live and when you have faith in it, it will make sure you get there. Your everyday self on the other hand, guided by your ego, will do everything in its power to separate you from your true self because it values separation. Millions of people spend their lives chasing the value of “things” due to living from the ego. These “things” will decide the quality and value of life, at least according to how society has trained us. The ego tells us we are separate from the next person therefore we can be scaled as better or worse than them according to our job, money, degree…our “things” and this determines our happiness. Well one of the best quotes I heard was “I wish everyone could be rich so THEN they will know, that’s not where it’s at”.
So while your everyday self wants “things” your true self knows what it really needs to bring joy into your life. Once you can recognize that and trust it your life will change dramatically. The “things” will still be there but your reality about them and most importantly, yourself will change. Your true self will start to offer for you all the things your ego can’t. Pay attention to how you feel. When you feel good it means you are aligned with your higher power. When you feel bad it means you aren’t aligned. Stand up to your everyday self and go towards those things that make you feel good, because in the end thats the thing we are all chasing after. Happiness and inner joy.
“Once you begin to recognize and encourage the qualities of the true self, your life will begin to change. You’ll make better choices. You’ll expand your awareness. You’ll discover and encourage your purpose. You’ll challenge yourself to meet new goals.
The greatest spiritual secret in the world is that every problem has a spiritual solution, not because every prayer is answered by a higher power, but because the true self, once discovered, is the source of creativity, intelligence and personal growth. No external solution has such power. The true self is the basis for being deeply optimistic about how life turns out and who you really are, behind the screen of doubt and confusion. The path to it isn’t simply inspiring; it’s the source of solutions that emerge from within” – Deepak Chopra