How To Create A Heart-Centered Affirmation and Radically Change Your Life!

CatAndMirrorGood Afternoon,

Today I want to talk a little bit about Affirmations and how they can help change your life. If you don’t know what an affirmation is, it is a statement of intention. Something you want to affirm as being true. When we create affirmations, it is a statement we are affirming to the Universe that is expressing the direction in which we intend to move towards.

We all express lots of self talk during the day but the question is… how empowering is it? As discussed on many occasions before, our thoughts lead to our feelings. Repeated thoughts then lead to beliefs. So when you take some time to think about some of the thoughts that go through our head, especially the ones that happen continuously, what are some things you have declared to be true?

“I’m never going to lose this weight”
“They don’t care about me”
“I’m never going to find a good guy/girl”
“My relationship will never get better”
“I don’t have money or time to take a nice vacation

How many of you have thought these exact thoughts or ones that were similar? Can you see how statements like this can cause you to feel disempowered? To feel victimized, like you have no control over your life or your future. My guess is, when these thoughts come up, it doesn’t leave you feeling really good. Do you want to feel good? Do you wan to feel empowered? Do you want to feel like you do have control over your future and have a say in creating the reality that you would like? Changing “I’m never going to lose this weight” into “I am capable of losing this weight” is one thing but let’s go a little further and create a powerful Heart-Centered Affirmation that bring out the qualities that you want to share with the world. Something that gives you power and motivation that will heal and change your whole life for the better. Let’s start manifesting the person you know you are inside. C’mon let’s do it!

There are many types of Affirmations, today we are going to focus on creating a Heart-Centered one which focus on the quality or qualities you want to portray in your everyday life. These next steps are steps from a worksheet I received at school that helped me create powerful statement.

HOW TO CREATE A HEART-CENTERED AFFIRMATION

1. Pick a Quality (or Qualities)
In this step you want to think about qualities you want to strengthen in your current life. Attributes that would assist you in outwardly and inwardly calling you forward to that of your true Loving Essence. Something you want to posses more of. One thing we did in class was we sat in meditation for a few minutes focusing on the step and would pick the first quality or few qualities that would come to mind. You can also look at a list and pick one or two that bring a spark to your inner self when you read it

2. Anchor in Spirit by beginning with I AM…..
This is an important step because you are affirming that this statement is already true. You already posses these qualities.

3. Bring your process into the present (NOW)
We can do this by using action words ending in “ing” or “ly”. We can even insert our qualities right here. Example, If your quality is Acceptance then you want to use AcceptING. If your quality is Courageous then you will use CourageousLY.

4. Maintain a positive forward focus
Stay away from using phrases like I AM NOT or any words that are used in the negative.

5. Use energizing and descriptive words
This will help enliven and enrich your affirmation.

6. Include your Quality.
This seems like a no-brainer but sometimes we can get lost in the descriptive vocabulary, describing the traits of the quality that we can forget to use the actual word. If you did not use your quality in action form during Step 2 then make you don’t forget to insert it somewhere.

7. Include both Inner and Outer focus
This means focus on the intentions you want to bring forward from within and outside.

8. Include Enthusiasm.
This will help empower your process and make you feel excited when you think about or read your affirmation.

Here are some examples my teacher gave of affirmations using the guidelines above:

Quality: Trust
“I am trusting my Loving and sharing it openly”
– Inner focus “trusting my loving”
-Outer focus “sharing it openly”

Quality: Surrender
“I am surrendering to Spirit’s Love and sharing my joy with all”
-Inner Focus “surrending to Sprit’s Love”
-Outer Focus “Sharing my joy with all”

Quality: Courage. Strength of Heart. Trust. Authentic Expression.
“I am courageously standing in the Strength of my heart, gracefully trusting and following my inner guidance, authentically expressing my gifts in the world, while sharing the beauty of who I am”
-Inner Focus “courageously standing in the Strength of my heart, gracefully trusting and following my inner guidance”
-Outer Focus “authentically expressing my gifts in the world, while sharing the beauty of who I am

Once you have created an affirmation that resonates powerfully with you, you want to make sure to bring it alive within your Self. You have to know that your quality already exists within your consciousness in its full entirety. To bring overall change and healing in your life you want to engage with your affirmation on a daily basis. Speak it with heart. Write it down in multiple places so you can see it and be reminded of it often. Feel it’s presence and power inside. Hold a clear positive intention to activate and energize your quality within. Visualize yourself embodying your quality and affirmation. Lastly, use your everyday experiences as opportunities to demonstrate your quality and affirmation.

Using meaningful affirmations can have a HUGE effect on your overall life and experience of the world. They empower you to create the experiences you wish to have in your life. They allow you to shift your thinking and program new beliefs which will lead you to take action in the direction you truly desire. Sometimes it may feel weird at first, especially if you’re not used to believing it, but if it holds meaning to you, it will start to transform your overall being. You can create more than one and you can change an existing one as you see fit and as your experiences change. The key is to feel the power and let it live within, therefore to be expressed authentically.

Go ahead give it a try!!! Share your affirmation below, let me know if you need help.

My current Affirmation: “I am freely standing in my truth, sharing my soul courageously with others, thus creating Authentic Empowerment within and all around me”

live inspired!

xoxo,

barista

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LOA: Attracting Kundalini

GOOD Early Afternoon Fellow Readers,

First off I want to touch on where I am at in “May Cause Miracles” if you are wondering. I am still on week 5. Day 31 AGAIN to be exact. I actually had started last week got to Day 34 and then had not read the book for a few days so I decided to start the week all over again this week at Day 29. This week is all about Money and Finances and I KNOW I have huge issues surrounding money, and my fear over money can definitely run my life so I want to really focus well on this week.

Aside from that, I also realized I really have to start writing here more because I feel like I’m having so much more to write now and I’ve tended to skip all together which I don’t want to do. I have B-School that I have been doing and want to write about, my “May Cause Miracles” journey that I want to touch on more often, I did Oprah and Deepak’s meditation challenge that I never spoke about, along with just day-to-day life going on. I never even wrote about my trip to Bali at all. SHAME ON ME!!! I promise I will get to that soon though.

Ok so for today…. if you read my blog then you might know that I am a huge fan the Law of Attraction and being able to co-create your life and experiences. I have studied it and witnessed it again and again over these last few years within myself and others close to me.

If you are not sure what the Law of Attraction is, the basics are that you attract whatever vibrations/energy you put out into the Universe back to you. I have had some fun and testing this recently and it just blows my mind how it has worked. I will share some more stories later but now my recent story has to do with Kundalini yoga, my friend Siri Shakti Kaur, and Mastin Kipp of The Daily Love.

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So I first heard of Kundalini yoga via Mastin. He had mentioned it on his blog and how he loved doing it. I had never even heard about it before but after hearing him speak about it, along with some of his other blogger friends,  it started to spark my interest.

A few months ago, I think around December some time, I had reached out to an old friend of mine, Siri Shakti. I saw that she had moved down to Southern California and I was in a moment of wanting to make more friends and start connecting more with like-minded people (those of spiritual path and growth) especially those with kids. I had connected with her through FB and we started writing back and forth. Well suddenly we are talking and she asks me if I ever had tried Kundalini yoga (sign #1) . My mind was a little blown because here I had recently just heard about it and she’s asking me if I had ever tried it. I told her no but  I was interested because of The Daily Love. So she mentioned a place in North Hollywood that she likes to go to and we had tried to plan something towards the end of January before I was going to Bali. Not gonna lie, I did have a slight wonder if it was maybe the place Mastin went to because how AWESOME would that be to try it with him considering he’s one of my biggest inspirations.

During the month of January of cousin Tiara was staying with me during her trip to Los Angeles. During one of her first weekends here we had gone to Agape Spiritual Center for the first time. During the session a random girl had sat next to my cousin and towards the end they started talking about how they wanted to check out this seminar that was being held a few hours later. We were walking out and talking to this girl and she sees this guy she knew and starts talking to him. She introduces him to us and says that he is a Kundalini yoga teacher (sign #2). That is when I finally mentioned that I felt like it was being presented in my path. I go from never hearing about it before to it being brought to my attention more than once now, within a few weeks.

That night I was having Sunday dinner with my fiance’s family and we are talking to his cousin about Bali and we started talking about yoga. I mentioned how I wanted to try Kundalini yoga and ask her if she’s heard of it. She then says that she is a certified teacher of Kundalini which I had never even knew (sign#3). Well 3rd times a charm so I now knew 100% that I must meet with Siri and try it out. This was kind of freaking me out.

Well low and behold Siri and I had to cancel because we were both really busy so we decided it would obviously be best to wait until after my Bali trip. After I came back from Bali I was browsing on The Daily Love and saw that he had created an Events tab. I checked it out and the very next event that was coming up was “Mastin Kipp presents: An Evening with Your Heart” , in Hollywood, where it was going to be a 3 hour night; one hour of Kundalini yoga instructed by Sat Siri Dougherty and 2 hours of a seminar given by Mastin. BAM!!!

I hit up my friend Siri Shakti on Facebook, mentioned to her that she should come with me. I wasn’t sure she’d be able to since it was from 7-10pm and she lived about an hour or so away but she said YES and we both signed up. So just this last Saturday I had connected with my friend Siri, after 9 years of not seeing each other, trying out Kundalini yoga for the FIRST time, and all along side the guy who I had first ever even heard about it (and in my head wanted to try it out with), Mastin Kipp! Annnnd I get to attend one of his seminars while we are at it. Talk about quadruple whammie!

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The night was amazing!!! The night started with a small speech by Mastin and a few WONDERFUL original song sung by musician Chris Assaad, contributor to TDL. This guy has such a beautiful voice, the whole time he was singing I was having the chills. Then we had a Kundalini yoga session with Sat Siri Dougherty. This particular Kundalini session had moves that was geared towards us opening the heart chakra so afterwards we went through some “Kipp Heart Therapy” with Mastin where we learned how to talk to our hearts. Distinguishing your mind’s voice from your heart’s voice.

Extremely powerful!!! I was crying, others were crying. There was an energy in this room that was just felt beyond words. I actually ran into someone I had met from B-School a few weeks earlier as well as met two other people there from B-School for the first time. I was going to explain more what the night was about but don’t want this post to get too long so maybe in another post soon. I know I’m a tease!!!

Mastin has another night just like this coming up next month on May 18th. I’m thinking about signing up again. If you live in or around the LA area, I definitely say check it out.

This story was just a small example of how the Law of Attraction has worked in my life. Just in the last week I have played around with an intention in the beginning of the day and seeing how it manifested by the end of the day and it’s been working!!! LOA is real!

I dare you today to think of something small you want to attract, think positively about it all day, and see what comes to you!!! Would love to hear any stories of how it works out for you or how it has worked in the past!!! Until next time,

xoxo,

barista

Creating “Miracles” from Juicing

After 93 hours of juice fasting, I had my first full meal on Friday night. I went into the fast with the “I’ll TRY” attitude and never really intended to make it through 7 days. Hell I never though I’d make it far past 1 day but I did a whole heck of a lot better than I imagined. I also feel like I learned so much in the time period I did it.

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The first two days for me were soooooo incredibly hard. You already read how the first day went, well day 2 went pretty similar. I had the same typical obsessive thoughts about food and relating the WANT to taste and chew something to the thought of starvation. More headache and a little light-headedness. I started the morning sipping a juice and had another smoothie at lunchtime which held me over the rest of the work day. I then came home and got ready for the gym. This time I was able to get into a Zumba class so I didn’t have to worry so much about doing boring cardio and thinking about food the whole time.

My son had come to the gym with me and afterwards he wanted some food from Chick-Fil-A. They do have some of the best chicken nuggets I’ve tasted so I knew this was going to be hard. While in the line I was thinking “Maybe I’ll just get the three-piece chicken tenders”. I ordered his food and the attendant ask the closing question, “Would you like anything else?”. As much as I wanted to order me some tenders, I replied “No, that’s it”. I was proud of myself for not giving in. Or as I like to say, telling my “fuck it” brain to fuck off!

He was eating in the back seat and by the time he got home he said he was done. I put him to bed and went back downstairs to check out the left over food. There was one chicken nugget and some french fries. I wanted to throw it all away but my mind got the best of me and I ate the chicken nugget. Knowing that I was going against what I had wanted, I took the french fries and fed them to the dogs. I then went upstairs and went to bed. The funniest thing happened next

I was asking my boyfriend how he was doing with the fast, he said he was fine. I asked him if he had any food at all. He said no at first and then I was telling him how someone had eaten the nuts that were in the pantry. He then broke down and said “Ok, I ate some”. I laughed and said “Oh, so you lied to me”. He answered saying that he was lying to himself. Isnt that something familiar? I’m pretty sure we all try to lie to ourselves about certain things. We act as if we can believe the lie then maybe whatever it is didn’t really happen or exist. We try to make ourselves feel better, not by accepting the truth, but trying to believe a lie.

It was funny because the next thing I said was “OK FINE, I had one of the chicken nuggets”. It was like we both wanted to lie, but honestly it felt so good to tell the truth. It was so funny at the same time because here we are both admitting to eating very small portions of food as if it were bad and we didn’t want to go to hell. There was no judging, we laughed about it and went to sleep.

After I made it past day 1 and 2, I was figuring day 3 was my goal. I wanted to make it through 3 days and see how I felt. Day 3 was a breeze. I hadn’t really thought much about eating at all. I felt like I had the most energy I’ve had in the earlier 2 days and my “starvation” had gone away. I heard usually  after 2-3 days the hunger goes away and I wanted to know if that was true and how not being “hungry” after 3 days of not really eating anything felt.  I felt awesome I and I felt like I had reached my point of satisfaction.

Since we are telling the truth here, ONE of the main reasons I was interested in starting the fast was to lose weight. I had gained weight and was 10 lbs heavier than normal. After spending the last couple months binge eating and eating horribly, the calories had got me. So I was excited to lose a few pounds, especially before leaving for Bali in a few days. The other reason was still true though, I wanted to challenge my discipline and get my control  back. After these last few days, became just an added bonus to what I really got out of it.

I knew that food had a hold on me. During that time period I was gaining ten pounds, I knew so many times when I had eaten stuff I knew inside I didn’t really want to eat but had given in to what I played off as a “weakness”. Its amusing when you actually notice those moments in which you have to make a decision either go towards what your inner self is aligned to or go against it. One of the most important steps in making any type of change is being able to recognize those moments. Do I continue down the path of which I am used to, or do I choose something different? Choosing the path you are used to is usually the easy choice. Usually when it’s easy, you aren’t learning. That moment you decide to choose something different then what you are used to, you have created, what Gabrielle Bernstein would call a “miracle” and you have opened the door to learn something new.

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Throughout this process I’ve had  a few of those moments. The first 20 minutes I was in work I had this moment while staring at chocolate. In 9/10 cases I would have chosen to eat the chocolate. I debated over it in my head and I chose to do something different. I chose to stay on the path in which I wanted to follow. And guess how I knew that was the right path? Because it felt good! I didn’t regret my decision and I didn’t feel bad about it. One of the sure-fire ways to know you are aligned is…YOU FEEL GOOD! A few times I gave in and did what I would normally do. When I ate the pineapple on day 1, I was in that moment and decided to go against myself. I knew the moment right before I chose to eat it that I was eating it because I was making a “fuck it” choice. Something inside of me KNEW that I didn’t need it, that I didn’t want it, that eating it wasn’t aligned to my true choice but that part of me that is used to giving in, gave in.

During the time that I was fasting, especially after making it through day 1 and 2, I realized that I have so much more control over my choices then I give myself credit for. Even through the moments I gave in, there is something to be said about taking responsibility over those choices as well. Realizing that every moment I have a choice and taking full responsibility for my choices, even if they are against my inner self, gives me a sense of freedom. Cutting the excuses and releasing the blame can be very empowering.

Being able  to get through these few days showed me that all the excuses and blame I placed on why my eating habits were the way they were, didn’t really exist. There was no truth behind the excuses or the blame. All the excuses or blame did was made me feel powerless to the choices I was previously making. “I have a sweet tooth”, “I’ll start eating better tomorrow”, “I already fucked up so why stop”. Being able to hold a steady ground pushed those statements out the door.

The best part is, when I did decide to eat on Friday, I was at ESPNZone and there were so many bad things I could have gotten. But again, I had that moment in which I had to make a decision. Trust me, I wanted nothing more than to have some hot wings or some artichoke and spinach dip but in that moment I knew that those things weren’t aligned to my goals so I chose a chicken salad with the dressing on the side.

Now that I have tested myself and I have proof that I can stay on the path in which I want to follow, there is absolutely no excuse or blame for going the other way. If in moments I choose to go the other way, all I have to do is take  responsibility and learn from it. I believe those moments in which I “gave in” were necessary to further that lesson.

I know that I don’t have to eat a chocolate every time I see it. I know that I’m not  gonna die just because I’m not “chewing” something. I know that I don’t have to pick the most unhealthy meal just because it’s an option. I know that if I can  handle a few days of not eating food, that when I do eat it, I don’t have to go overboard. I know that  I have become more mindful to the thoughts that play out in my head and the control I was letting them have on me. I am more mindful of my actions. In that I can be more mindful to my habits and turn them into intentions.

Even though I had a meal on Friday and a meal on Saturday.  I don’t think I am done with the lessons quite yet. I am going to continue on this “juicing” journey. I will place no restrictions on myself but I will continue to pay attention to my mind and my body and listen to what it is teaching me.

My challenge to you is, try to become aware of those moments in which you have a choice…. and choose differently. Even if its something small. Those small “miracles” will lead to great change!

xoxo,

barista

Passing The Test!

For the last few years a friend and I always talk about how we want to invent/create something successful. Always thinking of ideas or seeing stuff, that we thought we imagined first, already out. Well I got this magical idea (no i will not share it yet) almost two years ago, wow i cant believe its been sitting for that long already, and I am FINALLY taking the steps I need to take to make it come to life. FINALLY!!!

I mean I just realized when writing that it’s been an idea in my head for 2 years now. 2 YEARS!!! what?!?! I mean I’m not the only one this happens to. People get great ideas alllll the time and just sit on them because they are too afraid to move forward. I bet you have an idea of something you want to do RIGHT NOW. Their classic excuse is “BUT I don’t know what to do next”. Well do you think all those people out there with all their ideas just magically know what to do next? No most of them don’t. But guess what? They find out what to do next….and then they do it. That is what makes the difference between the those watch their life and those that create it. We are all here living this experience because we have talents to share yet so many of us make excuses as to why we aren’t good enough for them. All those ideas in your head, all the things you want, the life you dream…. you have absolute control over creating it ALL. Not only are you good enough, but that’s why you are here, you deserve it all.

I went through the classic excuses; “I don’t know what I’m doing”, “I don’t have time”, “I don’t have money”….. I cant…I can’t… I can’t!!! What about the reasons I can or I want to. I have an idea and that ALONE is reason enough to move forward. If you want something and you are committed to it, you find out how to make it happen and you make room for it in your life. So many times I was in a certain situation and I thought about my idea and how “I really need to create it” yet so many times went by where I just talked about it and made no moves. I always dreaded the thought that if someone else created my idea it would be my worst nightmare because I did feel so passionate about it. Waiting 2 years to make a move though,  it was almost like I was waiting for someone else to do it first so I didn’t have to step outside my comfort zone.

 so FINALLY at the beginning of August I met with a guy that was more experienced at what I wanted to do and talk to him so I can FIND OUT how to move forward with my idea. The meeting went great, it ended with me needing to do a little more research about the product and competitors. While doing this I found two concepts that were a little similar to mine but they were very simple compared to what I wanted to create. I decided before I was done to try looking up the NAME that I thought of just to make sure there wasn’t something already made with the same name. AND THERE IT WAS!!! My idea was made and released just 3 days before I met with “the guy”. Not only that, it had the SAME NAME. I was devastated. I wanted to quit IMMEDIATELY!!! I felt like my worst nightmare had come true and someone already had a head start. I sulked for about a few minutes and then I realized what was going on. This was a TEST!!!

You see, life loves to throw you test to see how committed you are to what it is you say you want. This is something I REALLLLY want. I figured I can give up and let someone else make their way to glory possibly or I can keep going, think of a different name, and make my product better. I choose to keep going. I had a meeting the other day, we went over the design and how I wanted it to function and I have a meeting next week to continue to move forward.

How committed are you to that life and things you want? How many excuses have you made for why you can’t move forward? You are meant here to live and create greatness so instead of sitting and watching others create their dreams, its time for you to create yours. Follow your passions and do the things you love and want to do. Share with the world your creations. We all have something.  All it takes is your idea, your passion, and your belief!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!

xoxo,