If Trust is Risky, Why Put Yourself On The Line?

Do you find that you have a hard time trusting? Do you wish you could trust more, but you have been so hurt in the past that you don’t know how? If Trust is so risky, why take the chance? Because distrust leads to far worse scenario then trusting ever will. By not trusting, you close the door from anything great happening.

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There is one thing I can think of off the top of my head that people have the hardest time placing their trust in. The Future. What could, should, or would happen to us in the future because of some person, place, or thing. We will literally drive ourselves stir crazy wondering “WHAT IF…” about other people and what they can or might do, think, or say to us if we let our guard down (or even when it’s up) and what will happen to us in the future and if something will prevent us from receiving what we want.

Fear is the foundation for distrust. When we distrust we become overly consumed with more fear. We want to keep our guard tower manned with maximum security, making sure we know exactly what’s going on at all times, controlling the situation AT ALL COST. Even if that cost is our own peace and sanity.

That person is not going to get over on me“, “I can’t let that happen to me“, or “what can i do to make sure that ______ never happens to me?”, we tell ourselves. We begin to question ourselves over an over looking for the solution that will finally give us comfort. Yet what we don’t understand is that looking for a solution through the same fearful energy that brought us to this place is near impossible. Whatever solution we come up with, will never be enough because, it too, is produced through fear. We then find ourselves in a cycle of pretending everything is okay yet constantly questioning if it really is. Distrusting doesn’t sound very fun does it?

Ironically, by distrusting, we are trying to prevent something that could potentially hurt us. Yet  the fear that we engulf ourselves in through distrust is doing nothing BUT hurting us. Causing us to feel unsafe which is what we are trying to prevent all along. Distrusting can cause destruction because we are holding on too tight. It closes the door for any other possibility. Trusting on the other hand allows us to let go, and relax. It opens the door for multiple possibilities and better solutions.

Do we remember what gets us to the place of distrusting in the first place? [it’s okay, you can scroll back up if you need to check]. Yes! It’s FEAR. Have you ever really thought about what TRUST entails though? Trusting is like gambling in a way. Even when we think we have 100% chance of winning, do we ever really? Do we ever really know EXACTLY what’s going to happen? Can we control EVERY outside factor to make sure it plays in our favor only? The answer to all three of those question is…. you guessed it, NO! Outside factors in the one thing we DO NOT have control over. We do not have control over other people, places, or things, therefor as much as we would like to predict what the future will bring, we never know that something is going to happen until it happens.

Even if we can predict that something has a 99.9% chance of happening, we still have to save room for that slim chance that it won’t happen the way we think, if at all. It’s that 0.1% chance that will still be attached to fear. But that’s what trusting is. It’s knowing that something MAY not work out in the way we would like it to, but betting on it anyways. Trust takes courage, especially if in the past we may have lost a time or two.

“Whether we are aware of it or not, every act of trust carries with it a shiver of fear. A favorable situation can become dangerous. Deep down we know that life is insecure and precarious. However, if we do trust, the shiver carries with it a philosophical optimism: Life, with all its traps and horrors,  is good… The bet is implicit in trust itself. If we could be sure of everyone and everything, trust would have no value – like money, if it were suddenly limitless, or sunshine, if there were always fine weather, or life, if we were to live forever”
– Piero Ferrucci (The Power Of Kindness)

When you are someone that has a difficult time placing trust in the future, then the second you feel that shiver of fear, you’re alarm goes off telling you that something is wrong. The distrusting begins producing nothing but MORE fear. Remember though, Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Unless it’s a life threatening situation (which is not the situations we are talking about here), it does nothing but hold our energy and our action hostage.

So what’s the alternative then? How can you choose to trust instead? When we surrender to the idea that we can’t control everything. Through this surrendering, we come to the conclusion that we are MORE than capable of handling all that life brings our way. When we allow ourselves to acknowledge that trust will ALWAYS carry a little bit of fear, we can become more aware of when we are actively choosing to be in a place of trusting. This can allow us to reroute our alarm system. This time when you witness that shiver of fear arise, instead of the fear multiplying, it is now giving you knowledge that you ARE in a place of trusting and accepting that this ounce of fear just comes with the job. You will be aware that you are trusting because you CHOOSE to trust, and if the worst case scenario happens to take place, we can continue to trust that it’s for our highest good and continue moving forward.

We have the choice to trust or distrust. While we are in a place of distrust, it’s like we are constantly waiting for the bomb to drop. A bomb that may NEVER drop. We spend our time and energy trying to prevent the bomb from dropping. The thing is, if the bomb is meant to drop, it will drop, and you have no more control over it then you do of gravity. So instead of worrying so much about what COULD happen in the future, why not just enjoy your present. And if the bomb ends up dropping, you deal with it then and at least you enjoyed the ride to that point…then you get on another ride. If it never drops, then you continue enjoying that ride wherever it takes you. What’s the point of the ride if you can’t enjoy it? What’s the point of life, if you don’t live?

“In trusting, we let ourselves go. We know that all kinds of unexpected events may come our way. Our tension eases, our mind and our hearts open spontaneously to be possibilities. It is an ever new state of mind, in the present moment, because we have detached from all we know. But it is also a feeling as old as can be, because, before all betrayals and all disappointments, there was a time in which trusting another was the very substance of our life.” – Piero Ferrucci.

Do you have the courage to place the bet?

xoxo,

The Statement That Will Give You Chills

So the other day we went over Affirmations and I introduced steps on how you can create a heart centered Affirmation. I am reading this book “Wishes Fulfilled” by Dr. Wayne Dyer for school and in the beginning of the book he talks about thoughts and how powerful they can be. He says that if we truly want to transform we have to change our thoughts. I just quickly want to share a VERY powerful Affirmation that he shares in the book that literally makes the hair on my arms stick straight up when I read it. Although the format does not coincide with the ones I shared last week, you can still see how there are many types of possible Affirmations that can work for you. The main point is that it is a very powerful statement that is present tense and motivates you to think and create strong feelings around what you want from life or a situation.

I have a burning desire – an inner flame that will not be exstinguished by outer forces – to know and live from higher regions, to be transformed so that my new concept of myself will no longer include any limitation. I am willing to challenge and change my thoughts and impede my having a higher vision of myself

The reason I love this Affirmation so much is I feel it is one that everyone can connect with. When you are on your path of transformation, you will find that it’s not easy to just change overnight. Your whole life, however long that has been, has led you to think and believe the things you do. Although you may now know certain things are not working for you, up until now, it was working for you in someway. So you will see that it can be very easy, automatic, and comfortable to go back to the ways you have been used to for so long. You can probably already attest to being triggered and tested over and over again. Guess what? you won’t always pass but guess what else… it’s ok!!!

This Affirmation allows you to become present to the fact that outer forces will always be present. There are things that will try to extinguish your flame but you will no longer allow those things, people, or situations to limit you. You will no longer let your current beliefs and thoughts limit you. You are open and willing to challenge YOURSELF when old ways creep in and then guess what…. eventually you will start passing the tests. Over and over again!!! This affirmations brings alive in you the being you know already exists underneath all those old patterns and limiting beliefs and allows you to mindfully bring forth this idea and attitude when triggers and tests arrive.

If you are having a trouble coming up with an affirmation of your own, find one online or in a book that makes you excited. This one is definitely a good start. And remember, it takes consistency to create new ideas and pathways of thinking, so put your affirmation somewhere you will see it daily, even a few different places so you can see it throughout the day, that way you can truly transform yourself with it’s new ideas.

Let me know in the comments section what your current affirmation is, and if you do not have one, do me a favor…say the one above to yourself and tell me how it makes you feel?

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your thoughts or story in the comments section below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else

xoxo,

barista

Love Is You

“Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the relatedness of a person to the world as a whole, not toward one “object” of love. If a person loves only one other person and is in different to the rest of his fellow men, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism. Yet, most people“If one wants to become a master of any art, one’s whole life must be devoted to it, or at least related to believe that love is constituted by the object, not by the faculty. In fact, they even believe that it is a proof of the intensity of their love when they do not love anybody except the “loved” person. This is the same fallacy which we have already mentioned above. Because one does not see that love is an activity, a power of the soul, one believes that all that is necessary to find is the right object–and that everything goes by itself afterward. This attitude can be compared to that of a man who wants to paint but who, instead of learning the art, claims that he has just to wait for the right object, and that he will paint beautifully when he finds it. If I truly love one person I love all persons, I love the world, I love life. If I can say to somebody else, “I love you,” I must be able to say, “I love in you everybody, I love through you the world, I love in you also myself.” ~ Erich Fromm from The Art of Loving

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My friend Vanessa emailed this to me the other day and I immediately fell in LOVE with the power and beauty that it holds. We are so trained to think that love originates from outside of ourselves. It comes from a person or an object. That outside thing is what makes us feel love. Therefore when that outside thing is gone, we think the love leaves with it. We are then left sometimes feeling empty, hurt and sad, often tricking us into thinking that the person or object is the cause of that sadness.

 To think about Love as “an attitude, Love an orientation of character” changes the game. Step outside of our ego and see love as, not something you receive from another, not as something separate, but something you already are. It allows you to see that this ever flowing energy lives inside of YOU and has no boundaries. It flows through you as easily as your breath. It can not be given or taken away by anyone else but you.

 When you feel this love inside, when you birth its energy within you, then you are able to see it in ALL that’s around. When it comes from within, it is your reality. It is what you see, what you feel, what you know, when you look out into the world. It’s reflected back to you, not just in a certain person or object but through all things. You experience that “Loving Essence” in all. What is in you is them. What is in them in you.

What you see and how you relate to the world and EVERYONE and EVERYTHING in it, is the true measure showing you if you experience TRUE love as who you are or if this “love” is just a symbiotic attachment stemming from your ego which is an illusion of who you are. We aren’t separate, we are all connected through this character of LOVE

Challenge: Think of someone who, without a doubt and with no fail, you love overwhelmingly. Grandparents, children, a pet, anything. Close your eyes and think about them. Feel that love. Feel it in your heart, your stomach, you mind.  Notice how you created that. You chose that attitude now.

You don’t need to wait for love, nor proclaim it, nor profess it, nor deny it. If you want love, create it within and reflect it upon ALL that you see.

It’s who you are.

xoxo,

barista

What I Learned From My First Day of School

I officially finished my first evening of class at the University of Santa Monica. I have to admit I was quite nervous and had no idea what to expect. As I got to the University though, it immediately felt welcoming by staff and other students. I expect it from staff but I wasn’t sure what to expect from everyone else. It felt though like everyone was so eager to meet others which was a very comforting feeling.

Upon class starting I just kept sitting there thinking… “I did it, I’m HERE”. It was somewhat of a surreal experience to look around and see all the different faces from all walks of life, all areas of the Country as well as some people traveling from other countries. After talking to a few people before school started, I felt the connective energy like we were all feeling the same. Unsure about exactly what to expect, nervous to start digging deep into our unhealed subconscious, but ready with excitement to start becoming better versions of ourselves. My first evening went amazing and I have a feeling you will get a lot out from me on these weekends that I  have school being that I come out with new experiences and feelings fresh in mind.

Today we learned two basic skills. “Seeing the Loving Essence” and Heart-Centered Listening”. Two very important skills when learning to experience oneself as a soul having a human experience. Two VERY important skills that were great starters because it will help us throughout our experience at school to learn to see people as one and really grasp the truth of being souls having a human experience. The Professor called it, “seeing and hearing with Soul-centered eyes and ears”. 

To sum up Seeing the Loving Essence, it is “not about solving people’s ‘problems’ nor is it about ‘fixing’ them. It is about how you will ‘be’ with them. In my own words I connected that it is about “SEEING” someone as another soul and connecting with them on that level versus the physical form that they seem to be. Connecting through the energy of LOVE. It is important because as we begin to connect more with ourselves as spiritual beings comes the ability to connect with others as spiritual beings. It leaves a space open for us to be accepting to others as they are in their truth rather than what their personality or ego may be projecting. A lot of times we like to hold on so much to the personality or ego because we use that to protect ourselves but it separates us and gives us excuses as to why we are different. We have to remember that personality and ego are just outside layers covering the truth of someone and underneath we really are all the same. 

We then went into talking about the importance of listening from the heart. One of the things that “pinged” my mind (I got that description from a peer in class) was when the Professor stated that “words are just reference points that help us try to communicate something”…. he went on to explain “book and libro are just words that communicate something…they are describing the same thing but both words are NOT books, they are just words…Words are not the things they represent”. This stuck out to me a lot because I think I can tend to get caught up in the words being said and my meaning of them and less connected with the feelings and expression behind the words. A question he suggested we ask ourselves when listening to others was “What is being expressed behind the words being said?” We learned how to listen from the heart while being fully present. A major part of this was listening was resisting the urge to give advice. That’s where I knew there was a learning experience for me.

I talk to a lot of friends all the time. I tend to be someone my friends feel like they can talk to about meaningful situations. The thing is, I do find myself constantly giving advice, which I learned tonight that often while doing that you are more focused on listening with the intent to fix a problem versus just listening from the heart and connecting with the person talking. We have been trained all our lives to fix problems so it’s not surprising that it is the way most people listen. Because people tend to always come back to me for conversation, I often feel like my advice is worth giving, and truthfully maybe sometimes it is worth giving WHEN ASKED FOR, but I learned tonight that listening is one of the most important parts of connective communication.

At the end of the night we got into groups of three and we practiced talking, listening, and observing. Each person got a chance to do each. It was interesting to feel the drastic change in the energy when practicing each role and experience. Not only that, just relating to each other about how each of us felt being in each seat. Every time the group started a new conversation we started with focusing upon opening up into our authentic selves, setting an intention for that conversation according to what role we were in, and asking the spirits for help assisting us with our intention. 

When I was in the “client” seat, I think this was the “hot seat” for us all, I felt how hard it can be for me to open up, be vulnerable, and speak from an authentic place deep within. I spend so much time giving advice that I often avoid being the talker. As the client We had to talk for 17 minutes about something meaningful to us. As I realized I was going to be the client for the first role, my first thoughts were “What am I going to talk to these strangers about for 17 minutes” . Because I was the only one at the time that was expected to talk and share, I was able to feel that vulnerability of feeling open and naked but was forced to work through the fears I was having at the time and open up about something that was meaningful to me. While I got to experience how it felt to share and be vulnerable, at the same time I got to feel what its like to be truly listened to and connected with. By being in this role I felt more powerful in my need to step in that fear and express myself more in the relationships that I have.

While being in the “facilitator” aka a listener’s seat,  I was to listen while assisting to helping the “client” find their own answers by asking questions without giving advice. While sitting in this seat and listening to the client speak, I found the profound difference in “listening” and “hearing”. Most of the time I do a lot of hearing but not a lot of listening. I went into that seat with the intention to listen for the expression and less for the words. To also connect instead of seeking to solve a problem. My eyes opened a lot here because I felt I was able to connect with the client on such a profound level and just realizing how much I can miss out on with others because I’m not really listening from a place of love and connection. It also made me realize why TALKING to someone is so important. I do a lot of text or typing online with people and by doing that I am missing out on the key components of how listening is really effective. Through talking to someone, even better if it can be in person, you are able to feel the energy of what is being expressed in their tone and their meaning instead of just seeing words and attaching our own meaning to and tone to them.

Next time you are in a text conversation, it is very important to remember, as much as you think you are feeling and seeing what is being expressed, without the physical tone and energy of the other person talking, you really are ONLY attaching YOUR meaning to the words and what’s inside of YOU not them. Not only that, usually while texting, we are distracted at the same time so our attention is never fully present with the other person. I’ve learned to try to avoid trying to get into important conversations through text. Tell someone “I want to be able to be fully attentive and feel and connect with what you are saying, let’s talk on the phone or meet up in person”

And finally being the observer, It was nice to see and connect fully with the relationship of two people having effective communication. Watching one be vulnerable while the other listens with their heart. To experience that from an outside view was very eye-opening and leads to more clear intentions of what I want my relationships to feel and look like. It also gave me the opportunity to purely just listen and see without the expectation or intention to be involved but just feel. 

Overall, my experience of the first day was amazing and I can only imagine what the rest of the weekend, and year will feel like. As scared and nervous as I felt walking in versus how comfortable and safe as I felt walking out shows the power of a strong community of people and what a loving energy can give for someone. I can admit I had some judgement and assumptions towards the people in my group but that was immediately dissolved when I had the intention to feel their experiences. That one exercise that allowed me to feel a connection and similarity to the other two people in my group also allowed me to equally feel more connected with everyone in the room even though I had no conversation with them, and even those that I have relationships with outside of class and THAT is learning how to truly seeing the loving essence in everyone. 

I cant wait to see whats next!

Remember the last time you were in a meaningful conversation with someone. How well were you engaging in that communication? Were your intentions to fix a problem? Did you give advice? Did you feel what the person was feeling without judgement or assumptions? If you were the talker, were you able to be vulnerable and open? If not, what was stopping you?

Challenge: Next time you are in a meaningful conversation with someone in person and you are the listener, I want you to set the intention to just listen to them and feel what is being expressed behind the word. Connect and see yourself in that person. See them through the lenses of soul centered eyes. If you are the talker, open up and be vulnerable. Feel the fear and do it anyways. Notice how it feels to be listened to or NOT listened to and still connect and see yourself in that other person. Then come back and comment how having soul centered eyes and ears felt?

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your thoughts or story in the comments section below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else

xoxo,

barista

 

Just Cross The Road

Hey, you want to know a little secret? Sometimes I feel like I have no idea what I am doing. One of those times is right now! I can clearly see that fear has had a hold over me this last month.

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Not sure if you have noticed, but I haven’t been posting as frequently as I used to, and lately when I do, it’s like I have been forcing myself to, just to stay a floatI have been scared to write because sometime I feel like if I don’t have a way to sound motivating or inspiring, I don’t have a purpose in writing. I feel like every post has to be this perfect post, even when inside I know it doesn’t.

Question: But how can I be motivating and inspiring when I’m not feeling motivated or inspired? Answer: I don’t always have to be! ANDDDD it’s not up to me to decide whether I am for someone else or not.

I know I’ve known that answer… but it’s still very hard to let go of wanting everything to be perfect sometimes. Anyone else ever feel that way? Like if things don’t go perfect then they will fail. One of the hardest things is KNOWING the answer, KNOWING the right thing to do, yet still being unable to let go or make moves. It’s a feeling inspired by fear! It feels like you’ve been injected with just enough anesthesia to be unable to move, all while watching your life go in the opposite direction.

But I try to just remember the word FAITH, which I have tattoo of, and how having faith is about letting go. I know that’s one of my biggest lessons in these moments. Letting go in those moments of imperfection. Trusting that even if I can’t grasp it, that someone else is learning and growing through my vulnerability.  And that’s part of my purpose here. To inspire others to grow and learn.

What’s funny is that we tend to look at this visions of what we think to be as “perfect” and we aspire to be like that BUT who is it that we actually connect with more? It’s those that show their imperfections and vulnerabilities (yep, that word again). Those that seem to be just like us. Those that make us see that we already ARE perfect, we just need to embrace it.

Having said that, even though I FEEL like I am not perfect in this moment, I am stuck and can’t write, I have nothing motivating and inspiring to say…I KNOW in this moment, I AM perfect. Maybe this moment of being truthful IS inspiring and motivating someone even though I don’t know it.

I’m not going to lie, sometimes I want to end this blog, take a couple weeks off, but when it comes down to it I know its out of fear. And over everything else I let fear control, this is one thing I refuse to be hindered. I know this blog is the birth of my dreams. The one thing that even in these moments of feeling stuck, I know by continuing to show up for you, even if inconsistently, is keeping my moving forward. Even if I am crawling.

 So I am staying committed, even if it’s just posting something one time a week, even if it’s not perfect…to write. Just write. Allow myself to FEEL imperfect and write anyways. To not always have the answers but move forward anyways. To not always see the path ahead but feel for it anyways. To feel fear and let go and have faith anyways. If I can do that here with my blog then I even when I can’t tell, I know I’m being uplifted in other areas.

As hard as it is, to post like this feeling as though I’ve done nothing but blab…feeling like this has no point…I’m going to do it anyways. I’m going to let go of the fear.

Randomly, it makes me think of the joke…”Why did the chicken cross the road? To get to the other side!!!” I want to re-word it and ask “How did the chicken get to the other side?…he let go, and he crossed the road!” No matter who you are…it doesn’t matter how, but the only way to get to the other side, is to cross the road!

If you are someone that finds it easy to take the next step even when you’re scared, I’d love to know what keeps you moving forward?… If you are someone that constantly gets haulted by fear, what can you do to let go today?

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your thoughts or story in the comments below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else

thanks for listening and continuing to show up for me as I will continue to show up for you !

xoxo,

barista

The Strength of REMAINING Vulnerable.

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Sooooo this being vulnerable thing… it’s kinda hard! You know what’s harder…. remaining vulnerable. As I explained a few posts ago, vulnerability is opening your self up to the risk of being hurt. So what happens when you take that risk and you ARE hurt? Do you shut down with this “I told ya so” attitude, or do you keep moving forward promising to being vulnerable yet AGAIN?

I’ve practiced being more vulnerable this last couple weeks and I can tell ya, getting to that point where I knock the little devil off my shoulder and open myself up has been hard. For me, and I’m sure you too, one of the hardest areas to be vulnerable is when it comes to expressing how things make me FEEL. I emphasize the word FEEL because a lot of the times when we are asked how we feel about something we ignore our internal feelings and we express according to the outside factors.

I go to counseling once a week and she is constantly asking me “So how did that make you feel?”. For the longest time I would unknowingly skip over the question going off into some jibber jabber sounding sorta like this, “Well I felt like he didn’t care about my feelings”, “I feel like I am doing a good job”, “I feel like he is just so inconsiderate” “I feel like he was really thoughtful” ….  and then continuing on with some long winded story totally distracting her from the fact that I never answered the question….you know how it can be!

None of that describe my internal feelings. Did I express sadness, excitement, isolation, caring? Not at all. When I became more aware that this was what I was doing, I started to realize that it’s soooo much easier expressing our “feelings” about outside factors then it is to express what’s going on inside. It’s easier to judge or attack someone/something or even just hold in my feelings all together, assuming they don’t matter, then to expose myself leaving me open for possible attack or rejection.

One of the things I have realized over the years is that I want to develop deep meaningful connections with people. How else to do that then be vulnerable? Attacking, judging, staying silent, and assuming aren’t leading me closer to those connections though. It only takes me further away.

Relationships are about making connections. There’s no stronger connection then to be able to fully show up for each other. Here’s the thing though, how can you allow someone to show up for you if you aren’t exposing your true self? How can you show up for others if you aren’t expressing appreciation to their vulnerability. Just because we are vulnerable doesn’t mean the other person WILL in fact show up for us but at least through that we will know once and for all. If there is no connection we can then can conclude how the relationship is truly serving us. Or not serving us.

I am not used to this being vulnerable thing. Remember, I came to view it as a weakness. I became an assumer and assumed that my feelings didn’t matter or that someone else should know how I feel without me saying it. I became an attacker and attacked others for how I was feeling or got angry because I was letting them get to me. I became a judger and judged myself the most because if I felt rejected, I was “stupid” for opening up in the first place. But realizing that I want deep connections, I know that there is no other way than through my vulnerability. Being vulnerable is one of the beginning steps but REMAINING vulnerable is the key to success.

Now when I am in counseling  and she asks me how I feel, I consciously think about how I FEEL or felt and express that instead of some long winded story. When I want to send an angry condemning text to my fiance, I’m working on replacing it with my feelings instead. When I am going through WHATEVER I’m going through, I’m working on sharing on my blog, for what it is. It’s important for me to build meaningful connections with people.

It can seem pretty easy (or course only once you actually follow through) to think “I’m gonna be vulnerable in this moment” but its can be gut-wrenching to think “I’m going to continue to be vulnerable even though I just got hurt”.  Especially when you’re trying this thing out to see where it takes you. Taking the armor off isn’t easy. It’s heavy and you can’t always do it alone but as you keep going taking off layer after layer, eventually you’ll be fully naked. One of the scariest things in the world and takes lots of strength… But know that being naked is your TRUTH and you’ll comes to be a thousand times stronger then you ever were with that heavy load of crap covering you up. Full expression is your truth. Its how you came into this world. It’s the real you without out the cover-up. Believe it or not, more often than not, people prefer you naked. 😉 When you show you aren’t afraid to be naked you make others feel comfortable with being naked too!

ok, ok enough of the naked analogy before this gets x-rated… but you get the point! So here I am, taking off more layers! It’s gonna be a bumpy ride but those are the most fun right?

My question for you…. How are you allowing others to show up for you? How are you showing up for others? Remember, relationships involve the showing up of TWO (or more) people. Can you take a step and show your vulnerability?

I challenge you to step outside your comfort zone today!

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your thoughts or story in the comments below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else. :)

xoxo,

 barista