May Cause Miracles: Week 4

You guys are probably wondering how long I have been on week 4 in my “May Cause Miracles” book. I spent a few extra days there. 3-4 days on day 25 because I kept forgetting to do the evening exercise. It’s funny because soooo many times I was just going to skip it and continue on with the next day like I wanted to back on earlier in the book. All I kept thinking was that “If I want to see what results I get by following her techniques, I have to actually do them”.

Week 4 was all about relationships. Not just intimate ones you have with a partner but ALL relationships you have with people in general. It follows from Week 3, which was about Body Image, in where we learn that:

“The ego uses the body to create more separation in our relationships to others. When you perceive yourself as a separate body, inevitably you’ve projected yourself to be better than or less than someone else.”

One quote I love that she says from the book “A Course in Miracles” is “judging others is the same as judging yourself”. I mean think about that for a second… When you judge someone else it only means that you are comparing them to yourself in some way or another which means there is no way possible to judge someone else WITHOUT judging yourself.

Day 22 started as all first days of the weeks start, which is with recognizing how y

ou think about others. How do I make people more or less special than me? “Today I am the witness to my ego’s false perceptions of others”. With this affirmation I definitely could see how judging others only meant judging myself.

I judge others and myself off looks, friends, popularity, conversations, responses, etc. I attack others by pushing my ideas onto them, convince people that they just don’t understand me, and this can start arguments. I tend to make people special whom are in a place that I want to be in or have what I want. Especially people that I admire in the self-growth field. I turn around and make myself my special by thinking I know more than others or can understand certain stuff that the average person doesn’t. I sometimes tend to believe I have this special awareness and some people aren’t “there” just yet. I compare myself to others according to looks, job, happiness, activeness, etc. I then asked my Inner Guide to heal me of these fearful ways and for guidance towards oneness.

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Day 23 was all about surrender. “Inner Guide, I ask that you help me see everyone as equal”. The book said I would use this affirmation a lot throughout the day and boy did I. Man oh man do I judge. It definitely will be a constant work in progress. “the more you call on love, the more love you will see”. I had to go back through all the ways I judge others, attack others, how I’ve made others and myself more special, and how I compare myself to others and choose to be willing to see love instead.  There was a nice meditation this night that allowed to breath in my willingness and breath out what I am ready to do.

One key thing to know while reading this book is that these processes were created with the belief that we were all born out  of a positive loving energy and over time through fear and fear and more fear, we tend to forget the energy that still resides within, The energy in which we were created. Our Inner Guide. Our intuition. Our higher self. Our relationship with God. However you want to look at it. So on Day 24 we dig deeper into this and know that “Kindness created me kind”. If this is true and you know that is who you are then it’s safe to say that being unkind would mean to be at a disconnect with your true self. Throughout the day I actually caught myself a lot having unkind thoughts and replacing them with my affirmation. I even thought of past ways I hadn’t been kind and that made me want to be extra kind this evening.

I usually get home from work around 6:30pm and I will admit, I don’t always wanna make dinner. Over time I have noticed it get less and less. Well with the time change and it staying lighter out later, I thought it would be nice to have a nice dinner with my family outside. I stopped at the store on the way home, picked up a few things and although we didn’t make it in time to still be light out, we had a nice dinner outside at the table in the backyard together. Later after my son went to bed, my fiance wanted to get in the spa. I FINALLY got in the spa for the first time. It was nice and we got to have some alone time and have a nice talk which is something we don’t get to have often. No worries about work, no worries about blogging, catching up on TV shows, etc. We had a nice night and it started with my thought and want to be kind.

In order to learn and grow in this area I do have to recognize in which ways I have been unkind.

On this day I noticed that I have had unloving thoughts about myself, my co-workers, my fiance. When I go back and think about WHY I was having unloving thoughts, it is out of some sort of fear based thinking. The thing is that when you write it down and think of the reasoning, it almost seems silly. Being unkind didn’t make me feel good or better so if that is the case then what is the point. I then had to forgive myself for these unloving thoughts and recognize that it is not WHO I am, just me ego decision to choose fear over love. Something that stood out as important to me on this night was the quote from the book “By continuously acknowledging your unkind ego’s behavior, you will weaken the bad habit…” Like said, a constant work in progress.

The reason this week took me extra long was because I spent 4 days actively working on Day 25. I didn’t find myself putting my all into it. This day’s work was based on knowing that ALL relationships are ways in which you can learn and grow and the 4th day of each week is always gratitude so its being grateful for the lessons that come from your relationships. “All encounters are holy encounters”.  This affirmation is to remind me that every person that I met give me an opportunity. One to strengthen my practice in choosing love over fear. Especially those relationships that make me a little more ticked off or upset. Sometimes I had to just stop and ask myself, “what can I be grateful for in this situation?”. This act alone stop reactions and arguments and helped me have some more appreciation.

Day 26 was much like Day 5 in week one where the affirmation was “I could see peace instead of this”. Forgiving myself for the judgements I have had. Every encounter is a chance to see love and this affirmation is a way to forgive myself for any other thought.

Day 27 was to bring it all home and truly notice the changes that happen when making these subtle shifts. “Today I am a Miracle Worker. I choose to see Love in all”. I CHOOSE to see love in all. It’s a CHOICE I want to make. In the evening exercise I had to make a list and look at the relationships that cause my pain. The realize that these painful encounters are the ones that most allow myself to take a deeper look. Pain hurts, it hurts like HELL but guess what? Pain is the one single thing that usually leads to change. Without pain, some of us wouldn’t have reason to change and become better. And there will ALWAYS be a chance to grow and become better. I ended the night with a silent prayer for those people to be guided, protected, and healed from fear…just as I want to be.

Day 28 reflection day….and now I am on week 5.

Technically I should have started Day 29 on Wednesday but it throws me off some starting a new week in the middle of the week so I decided to actively work on Day 29 until Monday night and will begin Day 30 on Tuesday. This week  is all about how my self-worth is related to my net worth. That’s right….MONEY money money monaaaaay!!! Stay tuned

ps: I know that since I have done one whole week at a time, my posts are obviously longer… let me know if this is fine or if I should go back to breaking down the week into two parts…  I thank you in advance for your comments!!! 🙂

xoxo,

barista

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May Cause Miracles: Week 3

How about some afternoon coffee today? Good Afternoon!!!

So as you can see, I spent a few extra days on week 3. I just finished yesterday, Day 21, which was reflection day.  I’m going to try to sum it all up in one post instead of the usual two. This week was all about  BODY IMAGE. The focus was trying to see your body as spiritual and not physical. You ever heard that phrase

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience”?

That’s the jest of this chapter. To see our body as a vehicle in which we are able to express love. How can we use the body to express love.

mad3_character_large_332x363_chimpsImmediately one of the pictures I got in my head was when you see in a cartoon or something, little monkeys standing on top of each other under human clothing pretending to be a human.

We are a soul inside of a body and we are using this body as an outlet so the voice and actions of love can be heard, seen, and felt. Our purpose is not to compare ourselves to other spiritual beings yet that’s what we are CONSTANTLY doing.

It’s funny because as I check my Facebook lately I see tons of pictures and updates of people “getting ready” for summer. Some of whom  main focus is their body and how it’s going to look at the beach or at the pool. We view our body as being either more special or less special than someone elses.

Now I’m not against getting in shape, we all know I want to do so but this last week I also have become more aware of my reasoning for wanting it so badly. The focus in this chapter showed me that when we can see our body from a different perspective and recognize its true purpose, which is a way to express love, we will innately want to take care of it in the ways it needs. Eating good, stretching, drinking water, getting exercise, rest, etc. In return we will get the results we need but without the added pressure of just trying to look good. Even aside from that aspect, your thoughts alone have such a big impact on your body including addictions, illnesses, and energy levels to name a few.

On Day 15 I realized I have some very fearful projections of my body while answering some of the questions in the book.

*My ego’s fearful beliefs are that my body isn’t in shape enough. My skin isn’t clear enough. I’m not good enough.
*My energy is really low sometimes and I just want to sleep all day. I have a hard time getting out of bed.
*Other bodies are more special if they don;t have stretch marks or extra skin or saddle bags. People that are in shape are better to look at.
*I fill my loneliness with food, the computer/internet, “working” or doing stuff I “need” to do.
*sometimes I feel like having a good body is not something that is meant for me. I think I will never get the body I want.
*My ego has convinced me that my body is always two steps from being good enough in some way. My body is bigger than some but smaller than others. Sometimes I can see someone with a bigger body and still think it’s better than mine because they don’t have stretch marks on their stomachs or their legs may be smaller. It makes me feel like I’m in a lose/lose situation.

Those are some ways I have recognized my ego takes control over my thoughts about my body. The affirmation of the day was “My false perceptions of my body are an attack. Today I choose love instead of my ego’s perceptions”

The thing I love about this book is that it really gets you to pay attention to the fact that your fearful thoughts are not real. Day 16 was again the willingness to let go of your fearful thoughts with “I turn my perception of my body over to my inner guide. Show me what you got” and Day 17 focusing on knowing that I am not my body. I am free”.

Now let’s skip to Day 18. This day was good ‘ol Gratitude day. Letting go of seeing your body as separate and focusing on seeing it as just as special as all other bodies. “I am grateful for my body” was the affirmation of the day. I tried to remember to say this as often as needed. When you let this affirmation sink in, you will really start to take care of your body. Some examples the book listed was while you’re at the gym, say the affirmation and take the time to stretch a little more. While eating lunch, take the time to TASTE your food. Savor the flavors. Chew slowly. Can you see how stopping to actually pay attention to all the things your body can do, and be grateful, you will want to take care of it?

 F. ALSE  E.VIDENCE  A.PPEARING  R.EAL

The evening exercise was to see how fear’s projections affects your perception of your body. I had to write some of my fearful projections of my body and then let my inner guide lead me with a mindful loving response. Ex:

Fearful thought: My stretch marks on my stomach are ugly. People will looked at them and be grossed out or talk about them (can you tell I have a huge insecurity will my stretch marks?)
Mindful Response: I recognize this as a fear and that I do not know what people think. I surrender to letting my inner guide take over.

Fearful Thought: I can’t stay on a healthy diet or lifestyle because I am lazy
Mindful Response:  My laziness is a product of my fearful thoughts. Once I am able to surrender that fear and I will be fueled and guided by love.

These were true answers given to me by my inner guide… What’s even more powerful that when writing my fearful thoughts down, I saw how SILLY and UNREAL they are. FEAR IS A BITCH!!!!

Day 19 again is the F word. Forgiveness! I had to write a letter to my inner guide exposing all my secret fearful thoughts and forgive myself for them and ask my inner guide to take over. By exposing the secrets I give them less power.  “Forgiveness restores my perception of my body back to love”. 

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAAnd on to Day 20 which tied it all together for me!!! “I accept my body’s true function, I accept I am a messenger for love”. This was the affirmation of the day as well as the meditation focus of the evening. I meditated on this phrase and let my inner guide take over to write.

As I was meditating I saw myself standing on the edge of the spa at my house. We were having people over and I was in my bathing suit. Well since we have lived in our new place for the last 4 months, I have not been in our spa. Aside from the weather being cold, I have had opportunities but won’t do it with friends over because I am majorly insecure about my body and you guessed it, my stretch marks or extra skin (from having a baby). During this image I felt free. I radiated confidence and love for myself and through that my friends felt it.

Now the part that hit me is I DO strongly believe I am a messenger for love. Its obvious in my conversations, my blog, my advice etc. I DO feel my purpose is to spread love. This means that I have to BE love. I have to embody LOVE.

How can I be a messenger for Love if I don’t Love the body in which that message is being projected? I show through loving myself and my body what Love is. LOVE accepts all things as they are. I HAVE to accept all things as they are, including my body, until then, I am not accurately and fully expressing the message!

WOW what a revelation!!!

before i end this post, just want to say thank you for getting this far. I know it was a lot.

…and on to week 4… RELATIONSHIPS!!! wooo hoo 😉

xoxo,

barista

 

 

 

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