I’m Baaaaaaack!

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Did you miss me? I never thought I would have to take two months off from blogging but I guess that’s how long I needed. I’ve missed you so much, I hope you missed me. I am excited to be back and super excited to start working on a new layout and really get this blog off the ground.

As you may know, I had my darling little baby boy. He was born one month ago from day on March 30. Of course he’s growing so fast!!! I ended up going to school the weekend he was born and during the Saturday class I started having contractions. I sucked it up and stayed in class because they were pretty random but about an hour or so before class was over they started getting painful so I got picked up. Within about 10 minutes of being picked up I went into labor, having contractions 5 minutes apart. I went to the hospital and 19 hours later, my new baby boy was born into this world.

I had a crazy delivery, but will spare you the details. My mom was in town from the San Francisco Bay Area and I was lucky enough to have her stay for a month. She was completely helpful and I miss her now. This is the first week I have had the baby completely by myself during the daytime and for the last two days it was a little difficult but hey, that’s how newborn are huh. It’s been so long, I forget. Luckily my other son is in school and after school care because it makes it easier during the day. My other son is absolutely in love with his little brother though, it’s amazing to experience. I love seeing the bond they are developing!

I’m glad to be back. I haven’t forgotten about Good Deeds either, I’ve missed a lot so far this year but excited to get back to the journal. Hope you have extended some Random Acts of Kindness along the way.

One thing I am excited about is having more guest bloggers and posts. I’ve always seen this blog being a place to share others amazing writings and views along with my own so having more guest bloggers and posts is a start. If you are interested in sharing a blog post, feel free to contact me. Also if you have any ideas of what you want to see/read in the future, I would LOVE to hear your opinions.

Let’s get this baby off the ground finally.

For now, say Hi to Kade!

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He’s actually waking up now so I gotta run, thanks for sticking around and talk to you again soon!

 

xoxo,

barista

Things Fall Apart So New Things Can Be Built

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“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but  enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgement; more experts, yet more problems; more medicine, but  less wellness. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life, not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve conquered the atom, but not the prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce; fancier houses but broken homes. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom.”

Soon this will be a time of the past. A world we once knew. Have you noticed more and more people around you are emerging with a new perspective? At times I thought maybe I was just at that age where my peers and I start to question our lives, but it seems people of ALL ages are starting to do the same. 6 year olds are creating non profits these days to help in the creative ways they can to create solutions to the problems they see around them. We are realizing that the ideas we once had set aren’t working anymore. We are realizing there HAS to be more to life then how rich you can get, what kind of car you drive, how many titles you can obtain, and how good you look. We are realizing that THOSE things aren’t fulfilling, and acquiring the biggest and baddest just doesn’t lead to peace and happiness.

As much as some things appear to be falling apart now in this country and around the world, we have to remember for new things to emerge, for new ideas and perspectives to be birthed….old ways HAVE to die. A caterpillar has to go through pain, struggle and die to be born again as a butterfly. This is true on all scales of life. We are seeing it in our personal lives and on bigger scales such as whats going on with our government. Although the chaos seems to be getting worse, people are fearing the downfall, but this death of the current way necessary. IT HAS TO FALL APART. It’s creating space for NEW WAYS to be born. 

When chaos prevails, the old way is looking for someone or something to blame. Our parents, our partners, our bosses, our President. Our music, our teachers, our neighbors, our religion. Our circumstances, our birth order, our status, our government. Chaos is part of evolution and growth. It promotes change. There is no one to blame. The new way is to let go of blame and take on responsibility. We are finding out more and more that responsibility is what leads to change while blame only keeps things how they are. Individually we are responsible and WE can make differences.

The physical earth didn’t end in 2012 like everyone feared, but the life as we once knew it began it’s death process. People are awakening into a new era where consciousness and purpose is becoming the priority. As scary as it feels to live in this world at this time, it’s also the most exciting. We get to live through a new birth. We get to witness the changes that are coming. We have the potential to grow into our true selves and live our purpose and instill these new ideas into our children who then will pass it on. WE ARE A PART OF HISTORY right now. We will be a part of it all.

Yes scholars, visionaries, and intellects have always been around but we get to live in a time where more and more and coming forth and we realize that we have just as much potential to be one of those people the makes a profound statement in this world no matter what level . I love seeing more and more of my friends and people I know making conscious steps to let go of the path of that’s safe but not fulfilling in order to step into the unknown and finding the courage to do what they LOVE and what contributes to society. We are learning through our own struggles and lifting people up, helping them get through theirs. It’s becoming less of ME and more of WE. For this to happen successfully, we have to open up and accept the death of the old ways. Let go of the past. Let go of what’s not working anymore. Let go of everything we once knew and create space and wait with open arms for the things that matter the most. Take fear head on, challenge, grow, perservere, and enter into the peace that awaits for you

“Who am I?” “Why am I here?” “What is my life’s purpose?” “How can I live a fulfilling life?” “How can I make a meaningful contribution in my world?”

If you’ve asked yourself these questions…. don’t worry, you’re on the right track.

With MUCH  love, light, and happiness this morning!

xoxo

barista

10 Random Ways To Celebrate The Present Moment

348641I have this little book that sits on my coffee table in the front room. It’s called “HOW NOW: 100 Ways To Celebrate The Present Moment” by: Raphael Cushnir. Aside from the title reminding me of the movie Anchor Man,(Howwww Nowww Browwwn Cowww), with everyday hustle and bustle, planning for the future, reminiscing the past, we can forget the most important moment…NOW!

Without enjoying NOW, does anything else really matter? We get so stuck in routine, our minds constantly going from here to there, that even learning HOW to enjoy NOW can be a great task. In this book are simple things to do that will give you a sense of presence in the present moment.

I won’t share all 100 ways, but I opened the book randomly to ten different tasks. Here’s HOW:

10 Random Ways To Celebrate The Present Moment

1. NIGHT SKY There’s an aspect of being that comes out only at night, when we’re able to place our usually overwhelming human dramas in the context of the infinite universe.

The Practice:

Choose a clear, starry night and an hour when most of the world is fast asleep. Make sure you’re warm and comfortable as you lie on your back and watch the dark sky shimmer and twinkle. Use this practice to contemplate the enormity of existence and the eons of time that have passed and are yet to come. From the vantage point of this truly universal perspective, what does the present moment feel like? How does this moment inform or enlighten the ones in your everyday schedule?

2. SHARE A HARD TRUTH Telling the truth when we feel vulnerable is one of the hardest things to do. We might fear rejection, abandonment, disapproval, disappointment, rage, hurt, or just the raw exposure that’s an unavoidable part of the process. Yet almost every time we are willing to tell a hard truth, we grow and deepen in the presence, no matter the response. The energy we previously locked up to maintain a false front is now freed to uplift and enlighten us.

The Practice:

Think about various people in your life – family, friends, coworkers, and community members. In what relationship have you been bottling up a hard truth? This truth may be about something you’re feeling or not feeling, or about a part of the relationship that isn’t working for you. Look at the list of fears in the first paragraph. Are you holding back due to one or more of those fears? Are you willing to experience that fear and still tell your hard truth? If so, pick a time and place where both you and the other person have the best chance of hearing each other without blame or recrimination. Once it’s all over and the dust has settled, notice whether you feel lighter.

3. BE PASSIONATELY AVERAGE – Striving for excellence is how we change, grow, and reach our full potential. But since we can’t excel at everything, it’s also how we become self-critical and perfectionistic. Urging ourselves toward unreachable perfection robs us of the ease and spontaneity that are the hallmarks of the NOW. But exulting in activities we enjoy, with no intention of great achievement, is a foolproof perfectionist cure.

The Practice:

Are there pursuits you enjoy but can’t do well? Or ones that you think you’d enjoy but avoid due to lack of aptitude? Pick one or two and pursue them with complete gusto. Perhaps that means salsa dancing with two left feet, bowling a record setting series of gutter balls, knitting sweaters with lopsided patterns. Whatever the pursuit, perform with the intention of celebrating your mediocrity rather than cringing at it. If and when a cringe does occur, laugh yourself through it and keep going. If possible judgement by others makes the practice too daunting, do it with a friend who is willing to be just as goofy.

4. PLANT SOMETHING – In every moment there is a birth, growth, decline, and death. This cycle plays out on levels from the molecular to the universal. Within a human life, it transpires physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Shepherding this cycle  for another life form helps us attune ourselves to its constant presence.

The Practice:

Purchase a packet of seeds for a plant you’d like  to grow. Choose a plant that’s either annual or perennial so you can experience all aspects of it’s life cycles within the passage of a few seasons. Follow the directions for planting and tending it. View the plant for at least a minute once or twice a week. If the plant survives, watch it for times of steady progression, plateaus, and sudden spurts of growth. If the plant doesn’t make it, try to determine what’s responsible for its demise. Then plant another seed and so your best to help it thrive.

5. BEGIN – In the trance of habit and daily routine, it’s easy to miss the miracle of existence that is continually unfolding. One way to reconnect to that miracle is to consciously bring new projects and activities into your life. Whether tiny or grand, every venture you begin provides a fresh invitation to savor the NOW.

The Practice:

Make a list of some endeavors that you’d like to begin. This list can include an array of choices, such as a  new friendship, an herb garden, a dance class, a journal, a book you’ve always wanted to read, or a more honest way of communicating. Your selection can also be internally oriented such as paying more attention to what you feel or focusing on what brings you joy. Next, scan the list for something you can begin RIGHT NOW. Do so, and allow yourself to bask in it’s birth. Then keep the list nearby and make frequent beginnings an ongoing part of your life. Refresh the list often as you grow and change.

6.INTENTIONAL DREAMING – Dreams usually provide more question then they do answers. Are they a stress response? A secret code? A window to another world? There’s one way, frequently unacknowledged, to penetrate the puzzle. Through the process of intentional dreaming, we can bring our conscious and unconscious minds together. The result creates not only an expansive sense of presence, but also powerful inner guidance.

The Practice:

For one week, keep a notebook by your bed. Each night, before going to sleep, think about an aspect of your life in which you’d like some guidance. Then ask your unconscious to provide you with a dream about that topic, and make it one that you’ll remember. If you wake up from a dream in the middle of the night, write it down before returning to sleep. If you recall it in the morning, make sure you write is down before beginning your day.

7. SERVE YOUR COMMUNITY – The usual pitch, when it comes to volunteering, is that it’s appropriate to give something back. We’re called upon to serve as a fundamental responsibility. What this pitch obscures is that service is actually a privilege. Whether in a soup kitchen, battered women’s shelter, or Little League, service opens our hearts, connects us to the world, and fills the present moment with meaning. While service often provides great assistance to those in need, it foremost beneficiary is almost always the ones who serve.

The Practice:

Find a few hours a week for service. Choose a location or organization that you feel strongly about. Look for a position that takes advantage of your strengths or one that involves a refreshing change of pace from your usual work. Since the opportunity to make a contribution is a privilege, treat everyone you meet with appreciation.

8. INNER SMILE – Feeling joyful is not necessary for presence, but it’s one of the most powerful ways to induce it. Joy creates an almost instantaneous  sense of expansion – an inner smile that’s like a warm bath. Some call this warm bath “flow” or “spirit”. Experiencing it connects us to ourselves and to everyone and everything around us.

The Practice:

Think about someone or something that you love. This could be a child, a place in nature, or a favorite memory. Whatever you choose, make sure that just reflecting upon it creates an automatic smile. Then surrender to that inner smile. Let it light you up. Feel it spread through your body and even beyond it, uniting you joyously with your surroundings.

9. CONSCIOUS EATING – How many times have you craved one of your favorite foods, waited all day till you could have it, and then experienced no real enjoyment because your mind  began wandering even before the first bite? Such “absent eating” is the norm, but it doesn’t have to be

The Practice:

For a week, stay entirely focused on the experience of eating through at least part of each meal. This includes smelling, tasting, savoring, chewing, swallowing, and pausing between bites. When your mind drifts, as it inevitably will, avoid any self-criticism and just gently return your focus to the food in front of you.

10. BESTOW GRATITUDE – In the words of William Blake, “Gratitude is heaven in itself”. Just the experience of feeling grateful can connect us to a level of loving presence that’s as warm an d soothing as its profound. But the bestowing of gratitude is even ore heavenly. It creates a feedback loop of joy as long as you let it.

The Practice:

Think of one or more people for whom you’re deeply grateful. Be specific about why tehy inspire your gratitude. Once you’vev allowed yourself to exult in that gratitude, go ahead and share it. Don’t ask for anything in return from those you thank, except that they receive your offering.

 Witness how celebrating the NOW can make you feel more alive!! TIME TO GO CELEBRATE!!! Which of these 10 can you practice today? This Week?

xoxo,

barista