True Power Lies In Your Perception

7366018_mA few days ago I was talking to my friend Emily about this new relationship she’s in. She seemed quite nervous. She proceeds to say “I wish I knew what was going to happen in the future with us!, I don’t want to waste any more time”

…there, there Emily, you’re not the only one. Don’t we all wish we knew the future sometimes?

I decided to play a little game with her. I asked her to tell me what her ideal future looks like. It was something she wasn’t even too clear about, so it was fun to get her to actually picture it and put it together.

After she told me what she wanted, I said “Done!…That’s exactly what’s going to happen. You’re going get married. Have kids. The career you want. Excited about life. In love and happy!… That’s what I see in your future”

She laughed it off.

I said “What you don’t believe me?” She said “Uh no, you don’t know the future.”

“Well what if I did?…Ok well let’s just sayyyy there was such a person that could tell you exactly how you’re future was going to look…. let’s just say they told you exactly what I just told you… that everything you want is EXACTLY what’s going to happen…would you believe them?”

“Um maybe”, Emily said a little more easy. “Ok well if you KNEW that was your future, if you knew within a year you’d be engaged… what would you do from now until then?” I asked.

“I’d relax”, she laughed.

Here’s the thing, whether it’s ME telling you what your future is going to look like, or some psychic that could predict your future, in reality it doesn’t matter. Even if this psychic has never been wrong, you’d still have to have some faith in what they’ve told you. You see, because you STILL wouldn’t really know for sure what’s going to happen UNTIL it happens. The only difference between me telling you your future, and a psychic telling you is that you would CHOOSE to believe the psychic.

That right there is the power of perception. You have the power to perceive anything however you CHOOSE to perceive it. If Emily wanted to believe me and what I said her future looks like she very well could. And just like she could place that power in my hands, she could also take that power herself. SHE could become her own psychic.

Just like in my post the other day, your beliefs become your thoughts which become your words which become your actions…and so on. Sometimes it could feel like you have no control over your perception but it’s actually the ONLY thing you have control over. If you believe in the possibility of your dreams, you will then start to act accordingly to what you believe.

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Emily had contemplated on breaking up with her boyfriend for no other reason then she was SO anxious about not knowing how things were going to end up and she didn’t want to waste time. In the back of  her head, she believes that maybe she’s going to end up alone. Very common for some people at our almost 30 age. I told her, that anxiousness, that fear…it was an opportunity. An opportunity to decide if she was going to move towards her dreams or towards her fears. She’s in a relationship with a guy she’s in love with and she’s very happy with him. This was the chance to not only see this is what she WANTS but also to ACCEPT that things are going the right way.

I asked her “Now that you know you’re going to marry him, do you still want break up with him?” “Well NO!” That answer is obvious because when you’ve been told what you’re future is going to be, you’re going to let it happen. You aren’t going to do anything or let anything come in way of it happening. If you believe he’s “the one” you are going to act like he’s “the one”. And if you’re acting like he’s “the one” then you won’t be surprised when he becomes “the one”. The Law of Attraction brings to you what you believe to be true.

Why are successful people successful? Because they believe they can achieve their goals or because they are afraid of failing? Because they BELIEVE they can achieve their goals. That belief is causing them to make the necessary moves they need to make to be exactly where they want to be. If they believed they were going to fail, they would fail. Period! If you truly believe you’re going to be alone in your future, big chance is you… will be!

When you can shift your beliefs and give yourself power, you will come to understand that the world is ALWAYS placing clues in your path. Clues that allow you to follow the direction of your TRUE desires. When you are OPEN you will start to notice what is being presented, you will understand it’s an opportunity to learn and grow, and you take it in order to accept your dreams coming true. If you are closed off, you will simply continue to miss your chances. You will become anxious and fearful of what’s going to happen next because the vision isn’t there. Or it could be there, but it’s the vision of your FEARS not your dreams. Anxiety and fear are nothing but indicators that your vibrations aren’t matching what the core of you desires. Take them as CLUES.

Things are always happening FOR YOU. It is up to you to recognize the opportunities and it is up to you to define what they mean to you. You do have to remember that you are a CO-creator. It’s you and your higher power. God, the Universe, your Source, all of the above, whatever you call it.

If things don’t happen EXACTLY how you envision, doesn’t mean your dreams won’t still come true. When you remember you are a co-creator, you’ll know your dreams will still come true, just maybe not in the way you always imagine. But guess what, they’ll happen even BETTER then you imagine. Because the Universe is way more expansive and creative than your mind, so it will bring you success in ways you could never think. It’ll also be a way that is also allowing you to learn the lessons you are on this Earth to learn. But you must have faith. The power lies in YOU. You don’t need a psychic to tell you what your dreams are and that they are going to happen because at the end of the day YOU are the one that has to believe it.

What are your dreams? How have you been acting accordingly? In what ways can you see your fears hindering you? Do you notice opportunities when they are in front of you?

What do you dare to dream today? How can you be more open to that dream?

Vulnerability leads to connection. Connections allows us to see we aren’t alone. Allow yourself to be vulnerable in the comments below so that you can open the opportunity for a connection with someone else. 🙂

xoxo,

barista

 

Sometimes You Have To Tell Your Mind To SHUT UP

meditationSo a few weeks ago I tried the 21-Day Meditation Challenge online with Deepak and Oprah. Although I didn’t do it every single day during this challenge, I really enjoyed my growing need to start my morning off more grounded.

I learned a few things about myself while doing the last challenge. One important thing was that I am addicted to”rushing”. I noticed that I don’t use my time wisely and every morning I go through chaos trying to get out of the house so I am not late to work. If you are familiar with the experience, you may know that this can cause a lot of stress and anxiety.

It was funny because I remember Day 1 of the last challenge and in the beginning Oprah would give a little introduction  for Deepak where he would take over, start explaining the day’s mantra as well as an affirmation to focus on. Then we would begin the actual meditation.

The first day my brain was going so crazy and I was in such a big rush that I remember thinking “can i just skip this part?” “Do I need to hear this?” “OMG this needs to hurry up, I’m gonna be late”. I then remember just laughing at myself a bit because what I was doing right there was exactly the opposite of the reason of why I wanted to meditate in the first place. Here I am, attempting to meditate in order to slow my brain down, and here it is doing its wonderful job at going crazy, and here I was letting it do that. I literally had to tell my mind to just SHUT UP!

In that moment I had to ask myself a quick question, “Do you want to do this or not?”. YES I wanted to do it. I took a deep breath and chose to just listen and follow through. At that moment I let go of the fears I had of being late and remembered why I wanted to take the challenge in the first place.

During this time, I had already been waking up to do B-School, and I had started reading “May Cause Miracles”. I had to also make the meditation a part of my morning schedule, which meant I had to use my time wiser in other areas. For me that meant I had to set a time schedule for the other things I was doing and try to stick it to. When it came to meditation time, I was able to put everything on hold for just 15 minutes, which allowed me to start my day off positive and more balanced.

 I was finding my peace in the morning and this also allowed me to become more calm through out my day. I was then even able to “meditate” while doing other things throughout the day. When I would find my mind going crazy and jumping from one thought to another and/or my leg tapping back and forth from anxiety, all I had to do was take a deep breath, tell my mind to shut  up and choose to focus 100% at the task at hand.

Last week in my email I received another 21-day meditation challenge and I couldn’t wait to share it with you guys and get started. I would love for you guys to join me in my next 21 day meditation challenge with Deva Premal & Miten.

You can sign up here through Mentors Channel. The meditation started on April 23rd but right now Day 1 is still posted so it’s not too late but hurry before they take down Day 1.

Just remember, the simple practice of setting aside 20 minutes of your morning to practice meditation will start to strengthen your ability to focus on other areas of your life as well. Who’s with me?

SIGN UP NOW!

xoxo,

barista

Let Your Fear Guide You

Greetings from Bali, Indonesia!!!

I have had so much I’ve wanted to write these last few days but barely got time to due to trying to get ready for my trip. In this process of getting ready to leave and during the actual trip to get here, a lot has come up for me and I’m pretty impressed with myself with how I have handled it.

One of the first things is this fear of flying. I never really had a fear of flying until I had my son. Then again, I had never really flown too far either. Most of my plane trips consists of flying from Southern California to Northern California and even that I don’t do often anymore. Now thinking about it, I’m not so sure I have a fear of flying as it is actually a fear of dying! I have had this fear of dying since I was younger but it magnified after I had my son.

Now it’s not just about me dying but it’s about my son not having one or both of his parents. When I flew to New York last year to go on a vacation with my mom, aunts, and cousin I was still terrified of the flight. I had to fly by myself but it was late at night and I got to sleep a lot of the way in a row by myself so it wasn’t SO  bad. I had left my son with his father so even then I knew if something happened he would have his daddy.

This time around, both of us are on the trip so I’ve really been freaking out. I’ve been so fearful that something could happen to both of us. It’s given me really bad anxiety for the week leading up to the trip. I had a counseling session last Tuesday and I started crying because my anxiety about talking about it was getting so bad. My heart started beating really fast. My palms were getting sweaty. I felt numb and cold. At some points my fears get so out of control that I’ll admit, I’ve been afraid that one day I’ll be afraid to leave the house.

I never thought I’d be a person to have to deal with an anxiety like this and it’s a little crazy just how real my fears have felt. When I was with my counselor we practiced just taking deep breaths and calming my body down. Talked about recognizing that this is a fear and it’s not reality. For me this was hard because I felt like it was a reality. Everything in my body felt like something was going to happen to me. Even through calming down and trying to distract myself or think happy thoughts, I couldn’t stop the back of my brain from feeling scared.

One of the things that had kind of worked me up last week was getting all the emergency information ready for my cousin and my mother in  law (who are watching my son right now). I had a feeling that I needed to write my son a letter “just in case” to explain to him how much I love him. Then I thought I needed to make letters for  other important  people in my life. This is one of the thoughts that scared me. I felt like if I wrote the letters I was jinxing myself for something bad to happen but If I didn’t write the letters I would hate for something bad to happen and these people I would leave behind to not feel resolvement with how much they mean to me. I was having a really hard time making a decision because both scared me quite equally.

I had decided that I wanted to write letters because in this way there would be no regrets. Even if I was jinxing myself. The one problem was that I didn’t have time to really sit and write any such letters. Talk about adding to the anxiety!!! That’s when the epiphany hit.

Although I was already planning on spending as much time as I could with my son before I left, since I couldn’t  write him a letter, I had to really show him and tell him how much I loved him and care about him. I do this regularly as a parent of course, but I wanted him to know even more the depths of those feelings.

Now I still had to deal with my anxiety of flying and I was becoming more relaxed. I had no choice but to just try to make it through with thoughts that I would make it out this trip alive and I would be back to my son.

You’ll be happy to know that I did VERY well for flying 24 hours of traveling. Every time the plane had turbulence, I had to consciously tell me myself that it was going to be ok. “Don’t freak out unless the oxygen bags fall” 🙂  I had to take deep breaths and keep my body calm. I only had to take one Xanax. haha! I’m proud of myself.

But the biggest lesson I have gotten from this experience thus far is that it became very clear the need to express to my loved ones how important they are. I can’t always control what’s going to happen to me, that part is hard to let go of sometimes, but I can control how I spend my time. Am I showing my appreciation and gratitude in the ways that leave me fulfilled? If I left this Earth today, would the people who I love know the extent of those feelings?

When I get back I think I still want to write those letters, but even more I want to  take more time SHOWING these people my love. Spending time, making efforts, using my words. We all kind of go through these feelings when bad experiences come around, but this time I want to keep this feeling everyday. “Live everyday as if it’s your last right“?

I turned fear into love and instead of letting it immobilize me I  want to let it guide me in a positive way. So remember that, next time you have a fearful thought, take a second to  see how you can turn that thought into love and make it WORK!

xoxo,

barista