I have seen this story come up a few times, you may have as well, but just in case, I wanted to share it with you!
This could just be the best way to resolve all conflicts. — Originally posted on Films For Action In this African tribe, when someone does something harmful, they take the person to the center of the village where the whole tribe comes and surrounds them. For two days, they will say to the man all the good things that he has done. The tribe believes that each human being comes into the world as good. Each one of us only desiring safety, love, peace and happiness. But sometimes, in the pursuit of these things, people make mistakes. The community sees those mistakes as a cry for help. They unite then to lift him, to reconnect him with his true nature, to remind him who he really is, until he fully remembers the truth of which he had been temporarily disconnected: “I am good.”
NABAJYOTISAIKIA, is a compliment used in South Africa and means: “I respect you, I cherish you. You matter to me.” In response, people say SHIKOBA, which is: “So, I exist for you.”
Boy could we all learn from this one. To see the loving essence in others even when they can’t see it themselves. To inspire others of their true nature even when it feels hidden. To exist to serve others instead of ourselves. How the world would change.
Next time you are speaking to someone, even better if its a difficult relationship, I challenge you to do so while ONLY connecting with their loving essence. SEE them for the loving being they are. Listen to what they are saying behind the words, behind the behaviors, behind the personality. Connect love to love
I can bet it will make a difference.