Stop Believing the Lies

Just felt like today was a good day to shine some Truth in your life. Ya know, you really gotta stop believing all those lies you tell yourself. You know, the ones about not being good enough. The lies about not being worthy or loveable. The lies that you can’t do it or that someone else is better than you. The lies that people won’t accept the real you. That they won’t like you, if you show them who you really are. The lies that you don’t have enough or that you need more. The lies that you could have or should have done better than you did. That you should know better by now. The lies that there is something wrong with you, or that you must be crazy. All of those lies are nonsense. Because guess what? You’re perfect. Just as you are RIGHT NOW. You are. You ARE god enough. You ARE worthy and loveable. You CAN do it. Maybe someone is more skilled than you, but you that to propel you forward, not hold you back. People will accept the real you. And the ones that don’t…..well, let them move on.

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Please show us who you really are. It’s a disservice to yourself, us, and the world, by faking it. You DO have enough right now. Be grateful for ALL that is in your life because it’s nothing but gratitude that will bring you more to be grateful for. And if you get nothing else, who cares. You’re alive and you can still make a difference. What more do you really need? Looking back, maybe things could have been different. But who is to say it’d be better? Truth is, we’ll never really know. Truth is, is that in the moment, you truly were doing the best you knew how. Learn the lessons and move forward, knowing next time you’ll still be doing the best you can. We always are. Nothing is wrong with you. You aren’t crazy, or stupid, or messed up. How many times do I have to tell you, You are perfect RIGHT NOW! Just how you are. You are EXACTLY where you need to be to learn the lessons you need to learn to grow into the person you are destined to become. Isn’t that great. No matter how you look, what you do, what you have, who you know, those things don’t matter as much as you living your Truth. So stop telling yourself all those lies. Stop believing them. This is YOUR life. If you’re gonna make stuff us, at least make up stuff that will make you happy. That will allow you to win. Because those lies, you see those lies….they just get in the way. They keep you stuck in a place that no longer works anymore. When we are stuck, we stop living. And YOU…YOU ARE HERE TO LIVE!!! To experience ALL that life has to offer. So how about we start believing the TRUTH. The TRUTH IS…. YOU ARE LOVE! Nothing less! If you start believing THAT…. What would your life look like then?

Let Love Surprise You!

xoxo,

barista

May Cause Miracles: Week 5 Part 2

Here we pick back up from yesterday with Part 2 on Day 31 of “May Cause Miracles”. This is the day where I had brought in the shift from thinking about lack to thinking about abundance. I actually liked this day a lot. Although not always easy, thinking about abundance and FEELING abundant is nice. It feels full. It feels less stressful. It feels like enough. There was an epiphany in those moments. The feeling we all “strive” for  through money, we can actually CHOOSE to feel that way when we want. Imagine that 🙂 “I choose to believe in abundance and accept this belief as my reality”. 

charity1During this day Gabrielle mentioned something that I actually had recently become familiar with. One of our old clients at my job used to give 10 percent of her income “to a place where [she was] spiritually fed”. This client made a lot of money so this place in turn also made a lot of money. She truly believed that by giving, it in turn attracted more money to her. This concept is called Tithing.

After I heard of that, I actually thought about it and it was kind of amusing because our clients that would make regular donations were the ones that continued to make lots of money. The clients that did not give at all were the ones that had a hard time making money.

This is what actually inspired me to start my $50 donation give-aways. I wanted to do it every month but for now I do it sporadically. I didn’t want to limit the places where I would give to and I know there are so many organizations I had no clue about so I  turned it into a contest where I would take suggestions from others and randomly choose someone and donate the $50 to the organization they suggested in their honor. I never thought of giving to a place in which I am spiritually fed. So in the future I will do that as well while I continue to hold the contest. This “makes a statement to the Universe that you believe abundance must be shared. In sharing your wealth, you create more of it”.

Day 32 is always my favorite day… you guessed it Gratitude day. Nothing changes your perspective and attracts more into your life then recognizing and being grateful of what you have. Have I said that before? I dunno, wouldn’t doubt it Just like with tithing, when you are grateful for what you have you are putting it into the Universe to attract more. If you can not be happy with what you have then that puts into the Universe that you will continue to be unhappy with whatever else you get as well. Abundance attracts abundance. “I am grateful for what I have, and I welcome all the gifts this day will bring”.

Following gratitude always comes forgiveness which is what Day 33 was about. The book says that “the ego uses past financial drama in many individual ways to create chaos in the present…when your self worth is tied up in your net worth, you probably have been attacking yourself for quite some time”. We have discussed the need for forgiveness in the previous weeks but “Forgiveness offers me everything I want”. We all know people often search for outside sources to make them happy. So the bottom line is that WE WANT TO BE HAPPY right? If I continue to hold myself to past financial standards, there is no way I can truly be happy. So to let that go I must forgive.

Then this leads of to the 6th day of every week which is the  day I witness miracles happen. It’s about surrendering to my inner guide and letting the creativity come to me.  Now that I think back on it, on this day something totally awesome happened to me. I was already going to share that story with you in my next post before I even made the connection so I think I will still leave it that way. Yea yea there I go being a tease again, sorry!!! Day 34 the affirmation was “I welcome in infinite possibilities. I will receive”. 

Last but not least Day 35 was reflecting which I like to do with these post of mine.

Man I only have one week left. It actually kind of makes me sad. I enjoyed having these exercises to do daily. I can honestly say that before I started this book I was already trying to be more aware of my thoughts but this book has indeed heightened that experience for me. I cant wait to fully reflect after the full 6 weeks. I am so excited I made it this far and kept it going and most importantly, I fully followed through on my commitment. It means so much.

Week 6 is pulling it all together and working on becoming a true miracle worker.

till then, stay tuned in a few days for my awesome story about what happened to me on Day 34. Manifesting Miracles. :)))

xoxo,

barista

May Cause Miracles: Week 5 Part 1

save_moneyWell I am finally done with week 5. I spent a good 2 weeks there. I got really busy and found myself not focusing so much on the week as I wanted to so I decided to stay in the week longer, I even actually started it all over when I was half way through because I had missed a few days.

This week was about MONEY. How your SELF WORTH determines your NET WORTH. I know I had a huge issue with money and really spent some time noticing all my fears these last two weeks surrounding money. Money does have a bit of control over me as I am constantly worried about spending too much, not having enough, or trying to avoid debt. I also have become more aware of where my money issues started (when I was young) and how I am already effecting my son and his feelings revolving money.

I grew up in a suburban city called Pleasanton where most people are pretty well off. I lived with my single mother and we were probably on the lower end of the spectrum when it came to our status. I would say she was middle class as, especially now looking back, you somewhat had to be to be able to afford to live there. I grew up having a lot of friends that had a lot more than me and it would be hard sometimes not being able to afford the same things or do the same things as they did. Because of this, when I think about my childhood and how I grew up in relation to money, I know a lot of issues especially involving my self-esteem came from not feeling comparable to my peers.

I remember an experience that stuck out for me was the first time tried out for soccer team. I made  the traveling team which usually costs a lot more than the regular team. I remember begging my mom to let me play and I we just couldn’t afford it so I had to turn down the opportunity. I had made the team a few times after that and once was almost allowed to play but then still couldn’t because of money. I remember just feeling super bummed because it wasn’t even that I wasn’t good enough, I made the team but just couldn’t afford to play. I was pretty good at soccer while I played but always used to wonder what it would have been like if I had been able to play on the traveling team and learned the skill-set they are taught. If I could have been a lot better and even gotten a scholarship or something.

I love “May Cause Miracles” version of the ego’s false perceptions when it comes to financial fears because I know we all can relate to these:

*The ego has a lack mentality
“I can’t possibly get a raise in this recession” “I will never afford that”
*The ego believes that passion has no purpose when it comes to making money
It convinces us that we can’t have it both ways when it comes to earning – “I can’t make money doing what I love”
*The ego has a get mentality rather than a give mentality
“we believe we need to get more to be happy”
*The ego creates addictive patterns around money
“money addiction, gambling addiction, debt addiction- we become powerless over money”
*The ego uses money to deepen belief in separation
“equates wealthy people as happy people and emphasizes the importance in external power – if you have money, the ego makes you more special”
*The ego is uncreative when it comes to money
“Ego convinces us to think linear, limited way- focusing on manipulative action to get more”
*There’s never enough for the ego
“Once the ego achieves a certain goal, it always needs more”

Day 29 was all about becoming aware of what my fears surrounding money are and know that “I am not my lack mentality”. This was a fun day because I spend several times a day speaking about “not having enough money” or “that costs too much”. I liked this day because I was reminded not to attach thoughts about myself with my fears. My main financial fears surround lack of money and not being smart with my money.

Day 30 was about my willingness to change my thoughts. In order to do that I had to dig deeper into my ego’s power. “I am willing to change my inner dialogue about my finances”. I remember when I  bought my first car, the dealer told me that I had very great credit and that above everything I should make sure I keep it that way. So it has been an internal thought of mine constantly and I have huge fear of getting into debt and bringing down my credit score. Not having enough in my savings for the things I want in the future or in case of an emergency. Instead of having an addiction to spending, I think I have an addiction to saving. I have a lot of money in my savings account and I get joy out of adding money to my account when I can or at least seeing it stay the same. I have always had a fear of not making enough money doing what I love, and even though now I have more faith in following the direction of what I love, I still have a fear of being good enough at what I love. I try to have a give mentality when I can but sometimes I compare myself to people who make more than me, especially my fiance and claim that I can’t give as much because I don’t make as much. I have placed external power in money by thinking that if you have money you can do more and you don’t have to worry about anything. My thoughts and my actions reinforce my lack mentality because I have become afraid to spend money and have a hard time letting go. It stops me from taking risks or making investments.

I think this chapter has helped me a lot. I notice my thoughts a lot more, and although they are frequent, I try to create a feeling of abundance in moments in which I initially feel lack. For today I want you to just try to notice your lack mentality and how often you think about money… it may be a lot more than you think. let me know.

Stay tuned for part 2 tomorrow!!

xoxo

barista

FREE Virtual Conference With Gabrielle Bernstein

AWESOME NEWS FOLKS:

Are you ready to work miracles?

Gabrielle Bernstein believes that simple, consistent shifts in our thinking and actions can lead to the miraculous in all aspects of our daily lives, including our relationships, finances, bodies, and self-image.

Join us for the May Cause Miracles Virtual Conference March 25-29, 2013!

In this free online conference, based on her best-selling book, Gabrielle will be bringing together 20+ miracles workers including Marie Forleo, Kris Carr, Danielle LaPorte,  Mastin Kipp, Nick Ortner and many others who will share about releasing fear and allowing gratitude, forgiveness, and love to flow. All of which, ultimately, lead to breathtaking lives of abundance, acceptance, appreciation, and happiness.

What you need to know
Dates: March 25-29, 2013 (schedule forthcoming)
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I hope you will join us in getting honest about fear – letting it go – and moving into gratitude, forgiveness, love and your happiest life!

xoxo,

barista