May Cause Miracles: Final Review

As promised, here is the final review of May Cause Miracles. I will admit after I finished with day 42, I put the book down until yesterday. I think I mentioned in the last post how I am realizing that I have a hard time finishing stuff. Especially books. I have this tendency to ALMOST finish but many times never quite getting there. I’m curious as to why. Maybe I have a problem with things ending?!?! hmmmm something to look into.

Ironically, one of the first things the book says after Day 42, aside from the story of  the Golden Buddha (which I actually suggest you read first), is  one of two things that typically happens upon finishing the assignments.

1.  You become so inspired by the work that you commit to these principles in all of your affairs, deepening your spiritual practice more and more each day

2. You feel great and therefore conclude that the work is over. Within a few weeks (maybe even days), the ego convinces you that you’re healed and no longer need the daily practice. You lose sight of your miracle mindset.

What’s interesting is that as I just wrote that, I realized that one of these two options can be common for people during any process of changing bad habits. When spending a long period of time used to one way of life, and then trying to change for the better, your ego can go through a rough time and it will do what it needs to do to make sure you aren’t ignoring it for too long. Even if it is making you feel great for your progress convincing you that everything is fine, like in example #2. It’s like a sneaky little ghost, because over time, if you don’t continue your practice, the ego WILL sneak  its way back in convincing you that it knows best. It’s like when people who lose a lot of weight, they are told they have to continue their healthy practices to keep the weight off otherwise it can be easy to gain it all back.

I think the difference between success and failure (for lack of better words) is the difference between #1 and #2. When you find something that works for you in a positive way I think it is highly imperative to actively continue your practices. Humans are creatures of habit, habit is built by consistent repetitive behaviors. I’ve heard the average time it takes to form a new habit is around 60 days and that’s with daily repetition, but to KEEP that habit has to become a lifestyle.

I could already see myself slipping into #2 right after Day 42. I mean it took me a few weeks to even finish the book. I want to work on #1 and keeping everything I have  learned in mind so I can continue to practice choosing love over fear. I can admit, over the years, choosing fear has become the easy thing to do. Going the route of #2 is the EASY thing to do. Sticking to #1 takes effort and practice. Moment by moment we have choices to make. I’m ready!

If you have noticed, each week there were 7 basic principles to practice when learning how to choose love over fear. Witness Fear, Willing to choose Love, Shift perspective, Foster Gratitude, Practice Forgiveness, Expect Miracles, Reflect. Gabrielle puts the story of the Golden Buddha at the end because like in the story, we need tools to uncover our light within.

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“Cracking open to your golden light is one thing, but nurturing your glow is another”. Here are 8 ways Gabrielle’s suggests to KEEP your light shining bright:

1. Be Patient “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety” – (A Course In Miracles)

2. Seek to Find Joy In A Joyless Place “It’s easy to be committed  to love when everything is going great in our lives…It’s entirely different to be committed to love in the midst of the dark periods”.

3. Look At The Problem So It Can Be Solved “Upon recognizing each of our problems as assignments to grow, we can be guided to perceive them differently…Accepting this truth will help you honor all of your life’s experiences, the good and the bad”.

4. Don’t Obey the Ego’s Interpretation of Fear“Acknowledging your ego’s fear is much different from believing in it”.

5. Let Go of External PerceptionsYour external experiences doesn’t dictate your internal experience…Your happiness doesn’t rely on something outside of yourself.”

6. Deny the Ego’s Interpretation of the World – “Witness the ego in action but remember that the false perceptions are not your truth.”

7. Be Mindful Not to Make Your Practice Special – “There can be a tendency to make yourself special for choosing love…that specialness creates more seperation…be mindful”.

8. Learn the Happy Lessons of Forgiveness“Through forgiveness you will be released…Accept each encounter as an assignment and you will be released from the ego’s story”.

We all have fearful thoughts, we all can feel controlled by these  fearful thoughts from time to time, therefore I think this book can be a great read for anyone. Even if you consider yourself to be a mostly happy person, there’s always room for more happiness. May Cause Miracles takes a very subtle approach to recognizing your everyday thoughts and strengthening your power to CHOOSE love every time.

Whether you are trying to lose weight, stop an addiction, change your attitude, strengthen relationships, Following your dreams, etc… It all involves learning how to choose loving thoughts over fearful ones. Fear halts your life, while Love moves you forward.

You can read my progress throughout May Cause Miracles by clicking on the links below:
Week 1: Here and Here
Week 2: Here and Here
Week 3: Here
Week 4: Here
Week 5: Here and Here
Week 6: Here and Here

Think about any changes you are going through…how can what you’ve read above help you in your practice? Feel free to leave a comment below.

xoxo,

barista

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May Cause Miracles: Week 4

You guys are probably wondering how long I have been on week 4 in my “May Cause Miracles” book. I spent a few extra days there. 3-4 days on day 25 because I kept forgetting to do the evening exercise. It’s funny because soooo many times I was just going to skip it and continue on with the next day like I wanted to back on earlier in the book. All I kept thinking was that “If I want to see what results I get by following her techniques, I have to actually do them”.

Week 4 was all about relationships. Not just intimate ones you have with a partner but ALL relationships you have with people in general. It follows from Week 3, which was about Body Image, in where we learn that:

“The ego uses the body to create more separation in our relationships to others. When you perceive yourself as a separate body, inevitably you’ve projected yourself to be better than or less than someone else.”

One quote I love that she says from the book “A Course in Miracles” is “judging others is the same as judging yourself”. I mean think about that for a second… When you judge someone else it only means that you are comparing them to yourself in some way or another which means there is no way possible to judge someone else WITHOUT judging yourself.

Day 22 started as all first days of the weeks start, which is with recognizing how y

ou think about others. How do I make people more or less special than me? “Today I am the witness to my ego’s false perceptions of others”. With this affirmation I definitely could see how judging others only meant judging myself.

I judge others and myself off looks, friends, popularity, conversations, responses, etc. I attack others by pushing my ideas onto them, convince people that they just don’t understand me, and this can start arguments. I tend to make people special whom are in a place that I want to be in or have what I want. Especially people that I admire in the self-growth field. I turn around and make myself my special by thinking I know more than others or can understand certain stuff that the average person doesn’t. I sometimes tend to believe I have this special awareness and some people aren’t “there” just yet. I compare myself to others according to looks, job, happiness, activeness, etc. I then asked my Inner Guide to heal me of these fearful ways and for guidance towards oneness.

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Day 23 was all about surrender. “Inner Guide, I ask that you help me see everyone as equal”. The book said I would use this affirmation a lot throughout the day and boy did I. Man oh man do I judge. It definitely will be a constant work in progress. “the more you call on love, the more love you will see”. I had to go back through all the ways I judge others, attack others, how I’ve made others and myself more special, and how I compare myself to others and choose to be willing to see love instead.  There was a nice meditation this night that allowed to breath in my willingness and breath out what I am ready to do.

One key thing to know while reading this book is that these processes were created with the belief that we were all born out  of a positive loving energy and over time through fear and fear and more fear, we tend to forget the energy that still resides within, The energy in which we were created. Our Inner Guide. Our intuition. Our higher self. Our relationship with God. However you want to look at it. So on Day 24 we dig deeper into this and know that “Kindness created me kind”. If this is true and you know that is who you are then it’s safe to say that being unkind would mean to be at a disconnect with your true self. Throughout the day I actually caught myself a lot having unkind thoughts and replacing them with my affirmation. I even thought of past ways I hadn’t been kind and that made me want to be extra kind this evening.

I usually get home from work around 6:30pm and I will admit, I don’t always wanna make dinner. Over time I have noticed it get less and less. Well with the time change and it staying lighter out later, I thought it would be nice to have a nice dinner with my family outside. I stopped at the store on the way home, picked up a few things and although we didn’t make it in time to still be light out, we had a nice dinner outside at the table in the backyard together. Later after my son went to bed, my fiance wanted to get in the spa. I FINALLY got in the spa for the first time. It was nice and we got to have some alone time and have a nice talk which is something we don’t get to have often. No worries about work, no worries about blogging, catching up on TV shows, etc. We had a nice night and it started with my thought and want to be kind.

In order to learn and grow in this area I do have to recognize in which ways I have been unkind.

On this day I noticed that I have had unloving thoughts about myself, my co-workers, my fiance. When I go back and think about WHY I was having unloving thoughts, it is out of some sort of fear based thinking. The thing is that when you write it down and think of the reasoning, it almost seems silly. Being unkind didn’t make me feel good or better so if that is the case then what is the point. I then had to forgive myself for these unloving thoughts and recognize that it is not WHO I am, just me ego decision to choose fear over love. Something that stood out as important to me on this night was the quote from the book “By continuously acknowledging your unkind ego’s behavior, you will weaken the bad habit…” Like said, a constant work in progress.

The reason this week took me extra long was because I spent 4 days actively working on Day 25. I didn’t find myself putting my all into it. This day’s work was based on knowing that ALL relationships are ways in which you can learn and grow and the 4th day of each week is always gratitude so its being grateful for the lessons that come from your relationships. “All encounters are holy encounters”.  This affirmation is to remind me that every person that I met give me an opportunity. One to strengthen my practice in choosing love over fear. Especially those relationships that make me a little more ticked off or upset. Sometimes I had to just stop and ask myself, “what can I be grateful for in this situation?”. This act alone stop reactions and arguments and helped me have some more appreciation.

Day 26 was much like Day 5 in week one where the affirmation was “I could see peace instead of this”. Forgiving myself for the judgements I have had. Every encounter is a chance to see love and this affirmation is a way to forgive myself for any other thought.

Day 27 was to bring it all home and truly notice the changes that happen when making these subtle shifts. “Today I am a Miracle Worker. I choose to see Love in all”. I CHOOSE to see love in all. It’s a CHOICE I want to make. In the evening exercise I had to make a list and look at the relationships that cause my pain. The realize that these painful encounters are the ones that most allow myself to take a deeper look. Pain hurts, it hurts like HELL but guess what? Pain is the one single thing that usually leads to change. Without pain, some of us wouldn’t have reason to change and become better. And there will ALWAYS be a chance to grow and become better. I ended the night with a silent prayer for those people to be guided, protected, and healed from fear…just as I want to be.

Day 28 reflection day….and now I am on week 5.

Technically I should have started Day 29 on Wednesday but it throws me off some starting a new week in the middle of the week so I decided to actively work on Day 29 until Monday night and will begin Day 30 on Tuesday. This week  is all about how my self-worth is related to my net worth. That’s right….MONEY money money monaaaaay!!! Stay tuned

ps: I know that since I have done one whole week at a time, my posts are obviously longer… let me know if this is fine or if I should go back to breaking down the week into two parts…  I thank you in advance for your comments!!! 🙂

xoxo,

barista

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barista