Here’s How We Are Creating An Unfulfilled Life

“For me and for many of us , our first  waking thought of the day is ‘I didn’t get enough sleep’. The next one is ‘I don’t have enough time’. Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think to question or examine it. We spend most of the hours of the days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don’t have enough of…. We don’t have enough exercise. We don’t have enough work. We don’t have enough profits. We don’t have enough power. We don’t have enough wilderness. We don’t have enough weekends. Or course we don’t have enough money…EVER.

We’re not thin enough, we’re not smart enough, we’re not pretty enough or fit enough or educated or successful enough, or rich enough….EVER. Before we even sit up in bed, before our feet touch the floor, we’re already inadequate, already behind, already losing, already lacking something. And by the time we go to bed at night, our minds race with a litany of what we didn’t get, or didn’t get done, that day. We go to sleep burdened by those thoughts and wake up to the reverie of lack…What begins as a simple expression of the hurried life, or even the challenged life, grows into the great justification for an unfulfilled life.”

-Brene Brown “The Gifts of Imperfection”

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HOW EFFIN TRUE IS THAT? I’m pretty sure the first thought out of my head every morning is how tired I am and how I didn’t get much sleep. And then throughout the morning, rushing because I don’t have enough time to get ready efficiently.

Gosh to imagine how the tone is being set for the rest of the day. No wonder the world is obsessed with LACK! Obsessed with comparing our lives with others who do nothing but feel lack as well. Spiraling down into this web of not enough. Thinking about all the things I think throughout the day, all the things my friends and people around me think throughout the day…it makes me feel tired just thinking about it. The number one way to CREATE a unfulfilled life. The question then becomes…how do we exit this horrible reality of scarcity that we have created?

To have a mind of sufficiency. According to Brene Brown’s book, The Gifts of Imperfection, she describes sufficiency as “It is a consciousness, an attention, an intentional choosing of the way we think about our circumstances”. We have to start getting intentional with our lives. Intention is one of the most un-actualized powers we have. We have the power to CREATE fulfilled meaning, to create joy, to create happiness, to create abundance, to HAVE AND BE ENOUGH. Instead of choosing to lose everyday we need to turn around and choose to win. Lack creates more lack. Knowing you already have enough creates space to receive the joys of the universe.

I’m thinking of ways I can start my day with power and intention. I think of the movie The Secret and it makes me want to  have a Gratitude rock. So when I wake up every morning, I can grab this rock and name 5 reasons I am and have enough already!

How do you start your mornings? Full of lack or full of gratitude? Do you have any morning rituals that help you start your day on a good note? I would love to hear new ideas so please share in the comment section below.

Leaving you with a quote from Marianne Williamson “Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are”

5 Reasons I Am/Have Enough Right NOW
1. I woke up
2. I am in good health
3. I have a comfortable bed
4. I took a warm shower
5. I have something to wake up for

and if i didn’t have these things I would STILL be enough, these are just the things I appreciate about my life as it is right now!

Dont forget to leave a comment 😉

xoxo,

barista

 

2 thoughts on “Here’s How We Are Creating An Unfulfilled Life

  1. I love this! So True!!!!!! I try to go to bed and say thanks for the things I have…my family, my warm bed, my job, my health. I usually wake up feeling the same way…lol. But I think the appreciation part at night helps me. But you are so correct…and then we leave the house to go out into the world with all these negative people. Thanks for reminding us about intention and perception.

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  2. vanny says:

    I love the gratitude rock exercise! I had forgotten about that one.

    1. I got great sleep last night
    2. My work provided a healthy breakfast today
    3. I had a safe drive to work
    4. I am surrounded by great friends and coworkers
    5. My body is healthy and sore from a good work out

    🙂

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