You guys are probably wondering how long I have been on week 4 in my “May Cause Miracles” book. I spent a few extra days there. 3-4 days on day 25 because I kept forgetting to do the evening exercise. It’s funny because soooo many times I was just going to skip it and continue on with the next day like I wanted to back on earlier in the book. All I kept thinking was that “If I want to see what results I get by following her techniques, I have to actually do them”.
Week 4 was all about relationships. Not just intimate ones you have with a partner but ALL relationships you have with people in general. It follows from Week 3, which was about Body Image, in where we learn that:
“The ego uses the body to create more separation in our relationships to others. When you perceive yourself as a separate body, inevitably you’ve projected yourself to be better than or less than someone else.”
One quote I love that she says from the book “A Course in Miracles” is “judging others is the same as judging yourself”. I mean think about that for a second… When you judge someone else it only means that you are comparing them to yourself in some way or another which means there is no way possible to judge someone else WITHOUT judging yourself.
Day 22 started as all first days of the weeks start, which is with recognizing how y
ou think about others. How do I make people more or less special than me? “Today I am the witness to my ego’s false perceptions of others”. With this affirmation I definitely could see how judging others only meant judging myself.
I judge others and myself off looks, friends, popularity, conversations, responses, etc. I attack others by pushing my ideas onto them, convince people that they just don’t understand me, and this can start arguments. I tend to make people special whom are in a place that I want to be in or have what I want. Especially people that I admire in the self-growth field. I turn around and make myself my special by thinking I know more than others or can understand certain stuff that the average person doesn’t. I sometimes tend to believe I have this special awareness and some people aren’t “there” just yet. I compare myself to others according to looks, job, happiness, activeness, etc. I then asked my Inner Guide to heal me of these fearful ways and for guidance towards oneness.
Day 23 was all about surrender. “Inner Guide, I ask that you help me see everyone as equal”. The book said I would use this affirmation a lot throughout the day and boy did I. Man oh man do I judge. It definitely will be a constant work in progress. “the more you call on love, the more love you will see”. I had to go back through all the ways I judge others, attack others, how I’ve made others and myself more special, and how I compare myself to others and choose to be willing to see love instead. There was a nice meditation this night that allowed to breath in my willingness and breath out what I am ready to do.
One key thing to know while reading this book is that these processes were created with the belief that we were all born out of a positive loving energy and over time through fear and fear and more fear, we tend to forget the energy that still resides within, The energy in which we were created. Our Inner Guide. Our intuition. Our higher self. Our relationship with God. However you want to look at it. So on Day 24 we dig deeper into this and know that “Kindness created me kind”. If this is true and you know that is who you are then it’s safe to say that being unkind would mean to be at a disconnect with your true self. Throughout the day I actually caught myself a lot having unkind thoughts and replacing them with my affirmation. I even thought of past ways I hadn’t been kind and that made me want to be extra kind this evening.
I usually get home from work around 6:30pm and I will admit, I don’t always wanna make dinner. Over time I have noticed it get less and less. Well with the time change and it staying lighter out later, I thought it would be nice to have a nice dinner with my family outside. I stopped at the store on the way home, picked up a few things and although we didn’t make it in time to still be light out, we had a nice dinner outside at the table in the backyard together. Later after my son went to bed, my fiance wanted to get in the spa. I FINALLY got in the spa for the first time. It was nice and we got to have some alone time and have a nice talk which is something we don’t get to have often. No worries about work, no worries about blogging, catching up on TV shows, etc. We had a nice night and it started with my thought and want to be kind.
In order to learn and grow in this area I do have to recognize in which ways I have been unkind.
On this day I noticed that I have had unloving thoughts about myself, my co-workers, my fiance. When I go back and think about WHY I was having unloving thoughts, it is out of some sort of fear based thinking. The thing is that when you write it down and think of the reasoning, it almost seems silly. Being unkind didn’t make me feel good or better so if that is the case then what is the point. I then had to forgive myself for these unloving thoughts and recognize that it is not WHO I am, just me ego decision to choose fear over love. Something that stood out as important to me on this night was the quote from the book “By continuously acknowledging your unkind ego’s behavior, you will weaken the bad habit…” Like said, a constant work in progress.
The reason this week took me extra long was because I spent 4 days actively working on Day 25. I didn’t find myself putting my all into it. This day’s work was based on knowing that ALL relationships are ways in which you can learn and grow and the 4th day of each week is always gratitude so its being grateful for the lessons that come from your relationships. “All encounters are holy encounters”. This affirmation is to remind me that every person that I met give me an opportunity. One to strengthen my practice in choosing love over fear. Especially those relationships that make me a little more ticked off or upset. Sometimes I had to just stop and ask myself, “what can I be grateful for in this situation?”. This act alone stop reactions and arguments and helped me have some more appreciation.
Day 26 was much like Day 5 in week one where the affirmation was “I could see peace instead of this”. Forgiving myself for the judgements I have had. Every encounter is a chance to see love and this affirmation is a way to forgive myself for any other thought.
Day 27 was to bring it all home and truly notice the changes that happen when making these subtle shifts. “Today I am a Miracle Worker. I choose to see Love in all”. I CHOOSE to see love in all. It’s a CHOICE I want to make. In the evening exercise I had to make a list and look at the relationships that cause my pain. The realize that these painful encounters are the ones that most allow myself to take a deeper look. Pain hurts, it hurts like HELL but guess what? Pain is the one single thing that usually leads to change. Without pain, some of us wouldn’t have reason to change and become better. And there will ALWAYS be a chance to grow and become better. I ended the night with a silent prayer for those people to be guided, protected, and healed from fear…just as I want to be.
Day 28 reflection day….and now I am on week 5.
Technically I should have started Day 29 on Wednesday but it throws me off some starting a new week in the middle of the week so I decided to actively work on Day 29 until Monday night and will begin Day 30 on Tuesday. This week is all about how my self-worth is related to my net worth. That’s right….MONEY money money monaaaaay!!! Stay tuned
ps: I know that since I have done one whole week at a time, my posts are obviously longer… let me know if this is fine or if I should go back to breaking down the week into two parts… I thank you in advance for your comments!!! 🙂
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