Mini-Goal Monday: Mindset

Here we are again at Monday. How did everyone’s goals go? I can tell you how mine went didn’t go. They did not go as planned at all…again! I started thinking about what is holding me back and it started becoming clear that it was my mindset. I can’t sit here and lie and say that my mindset is 100% focus on that I can complete my weight loss challenge. I mean I can count many times in the past in which I have said “This summer is going to be the summer”. I’m pretty sure it’s at least been the last 4… ever since I had my son. Then every summer passes me by and yet again I don’t meet my goals. I started thinking, maybe I’m just not THAT person that is meant to lose weight. Maybe only certain people have that motivation it takes to go to the gym all the time, eat healthy, stay fit. I am not one of those.

Could you see how having those thoughts in the back of my head could prevent me from ever reaching my goal. My mindset is that I am not worthy of the results that I want. If your beliefs determine your behavior then it is NO FAIL that I won’t meet me goals.

Last January I started a weight loss contest in which if I made it, I would have gotten $5,000. I didn’t have to “WIN” the contest I just had to lose 30lbs. I had even spent two weeks gaining 8lbs, which was oh-so-very FUN, just so I could have 30lbs to lose in the first place. I thought that money was a VERY good motivator in finally being able to reach the goal. The end date was Memorial Weekend which was perfect because it’s the kick-off to summer. So it’s not a coincidence that’s the same goal this year.

I started off great, lost 6lbs the first week. Of course probably part of the weight I had gained for fun but it still made me very excited. In the back of my head I was thinking though “This is just the extra weight, I’ll believe it when I get under 140lbs”, because this seemed to have been my stable weight since I had stopped playing sports. We had to send in a picture every sunday along with our current weight. At ANY time during the contest we could be asked for photo proof of our weight (picture of us standing on scale) and at ANY time we could be kicked out for not consistently losing weight. Yet another good motivator. Every week I was losing an average of 1.5lbs a week. One day I got to 137 and I couldn’t believe it. Literally. Then sirens were really starting to sound “Ok I’m probably not going to get less than this” . Since I had not been less than 140lbs for years, this belief was ruling my head. Discounting how hard I actually worked to lose the 18lbs I had just lost.  Guess what? After I reached 137lbs, I didn’t lose a single pound after that. I was going to the gym at 5 times a week and went down to 3 times. I had stopped counting my calories on my phone app. Basically whatever was working for me before, I had stopped. For three weeks I was the same weight. And then…. I got kicked out of the contest. After that it was over and I hadn’t lost weight since. I had actually went back up to the magical 140lbs and for the  most part I had stayed the same for a long time, which was REALLY good that I didn’t gain all 18lbs back but still again I was unable to reach my goal and discouraged for the rest of the summer year.

When you think back to any times where you goals were unmet, can you remember what your mindset was? Do you remember having doubt that you could fulfill it? Could you see how that doubt, even if FAR back in your brain, could determine your behavior?

All those people who are reaching their goals aren’t supernatural. The only difference between them and you is that they believe they can make it to the end. Their brains work in positive mode not doubtful or negative mode. This weekend someone told me, “Good things happen to good people” and although I agree with this, I believe good things happen to those that believe they will. There are plenty of good people who don’t have good things happen, and there are plenty of not-so-good people whom have good things happen to them. Now how long these good things last, we will leave up to Karma! This is the secret though people. You can create WHATEVER life you want if you have the correct mindset. The people who are reaching their goals and getting where they want in life believe this.

The real goal is to KNOW that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. My challenge to you is to pick one of the hardest things it has been for you to complete, mine is reaching my goal weight, and BELIEVE that you will get there. Commit to making it to the end, even if you have to extend it a bit, and GET THERE. I promise, if you can complete your hardest goal, your life will FOREVER change. Your motivation towards life and all things you want will increase because you will know that you can get it. There aren’t people out there that are more or less deserving then you, we ALL deserve the things we want in life. There is enough abundance in this world to make everyone happy. It is all in your mindset. If you KNOW you can have it, it’s simple….YOU WILL!!! When you catch yourself thinking or saying “It’s not going to happen”, STOP YOURSELF and say “YES IT WILL”

So what is your hardest goal to complete??

 

xoxo,

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